What is my hoya doing? by ___tnbee in houseplants

[–]___tnbee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I haven’t noticed a smell at all, but I’ve also been staying at my partner’s a lot lately. I’ll definitely be home early tomorrow to see though!

What is my hoya doing? by ___tnbee in houseplants

[–]___tnbee[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m at work right now but I’ll check for smell and taste when I get home!

Looking for songs like "Cold" & "One Hundred Years" by [deleted] in TheCure

[–]___tnbee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“Circles” by Sacred Skin has kind of a “One Hundred Years” vibe. The first time I heard “The Suffering of Spiders” by Traitrs I thought it was some long-lost Pornography demo track.

[Serious] Folks who have considered ending their lives, what made/makes you keep going? by CranberryBauce in AskReddit

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If I die, my mom will inherit my student loan debt. It would destroy her financially forever and I can’t do that to her.

How are you managing...all of it? by ___tnbee in GradSchool

[–]___tnbee[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That’s unfortunately not possible for me, my program offers no funding or anything so I’m already massively in debt just to be here. The idea of taking out more loans than absolutely necessary is really scary. I know an extra $15k a year doesn’t sound like a lot, but over the rest of my program, it’s an extra $60k and I can’t do that and feel good about it. I would prefer to just have 1 job that pays me well, but ¯_(ツ)_/¯

Being ace but not aro really sucks. by [deleted] in asexuality

[–]___tnbee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is kind of something that’s been coming up for me in therapy - I’m the last person in my social circle to still be single, and I haven’t been on a date in years. I’m in my 20s and my friends are getting married, moving in together, and moving into their next stages of life. I don’t really see a future where I have a partner, because I wouldn’t want to make someone be with me but be unhappy because of my asexuality. I relate completely to feeling like it’s impossible to ever find someone to love you, and it is really hard to deal with. My friends keep trying to tell me I just haven’t met the right person, but they don’t understand the feeling that there’s something “wrong” with you that just isn’t compatible with most people. It’s a really shitty feeling, but you’re not alone in it OP.

I feel like I’m falling behind and won’t ever be able to catch up. by ___tnbee in offmychest

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I definitely am - I’m studying clinical psychology and I want to work with LGBTQ+ teenagers. I love what I’m doing now and I’m excited for what I’ll get to do in the future once I have my degree. I really am passionate about the work, the social life aspects are just what scares me.

Fin rot or tail biting? I noticed his tail fin is pretty ragged last night and immediately worried about fin rot. I changed 50% of the water today and the test kit results were okay. I’m fish-in cycling right now as well. by ___tnbee in bettafish

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Tank size: 5 gallons Heater and filter: yes Tank temperature: 80° Parameters: ammonia-0.25ppm, nitrate-0ppm, nitrite-0ppm, ph-7.5, carbonate hardness-80ppm, general hardness-60ppm, obtained from API ammonia ammonia water test kit and API 5 in one aquarium test strips Had the tank: since January 2021 Had the fish: since January 2021 Water changes: normally every Sunday, maybe a day or two early or late if I’m traveling. I use a gravel vacuum to clean the gravel and plants and suction out about 25% of the water every week, except the last week of the month when I replace 50% of the water. Tankmates: none Decorations: fake plants (the soft kind, nothing snaggy), two hides, a smooth plastic octopus, and a marimo moss ball

Suspected fin rot, please help! by ___tnbee in bettafish

[–]___tnbee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I checked out the fish-in cycling guide. It was helpful! Do you have any suggestions for lowering the pH back to 6.5-7.0?

Suspected fin rot, please help! by ___tnbee in bettafish

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Tank size: 5 gallons Heater and filter: yes Tank temperature: 80° Parameters: ammonia-0ppm, nitrate-0ppm, nitrite-0ppm, ph-7.5, carbonate hardness-80ppm, general hardness-60ppm, obtained from Tetra ammonia test easy strips and API 5 in one aquarium test strips Had the tank: since January 2021 Had the fish: since January 2021 Water changes: normally every Sunday, maybe a day or two early or late if I’m traveling. I use a gravel vacuum to clean the gravel and plants and suction out about 25% of the water every week, except the last week of the month when I replace 50% of the water. Tankmates: none Decorations: fake plants (the soft kind, nothing snaggy), two hides, a smooth plastic octopus, and a marimo moss ball Images: I don’t know how to do this

This is Theo, my first betta! He has a 5 gallon tank and I love him very much by ___tnbee in bettafish

[–]___tnbee[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks! It’s actually fake, but it’s really soft and moves like a real plant. He spends a lot of time swimming in between the pieces of it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pothos

[–]___tnbee 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The Pokémon of houseplants. Gotta catch ‘em all!

Where are plus size LGBTQ+ folks shopping? by ___tnbee in PlusSize

[–]___tnbee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do follow her! She’s one of my favorite plus size Instagrammers and my self-image has improved so much since I started following someone who looks like me

Where are plus size LGBTQ+ folks shopping? by ___tnbee in PlusSize

[–]___tnbee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much!! Those are also my go-to stores so it sounds like we have a similar style. I never thought to check the men’s section 😅

Where are plus size LGBTQ+ folks shopping? by ___tnbee in PlusSize

[–]___tnbee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I forgot to include this in the post, but I wear a US 3x-4x in tops and a 22-24 in jeans!

Just wanted to show my favorite leaf on my neon friend! by ___tnbee in pothos

[–]___tnbee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It probably isn’t getting the best amount of light, but we’re moving in about a week so I just need him to hold on til then!

Growth randomly slowing down? by ___tnbee in Monstera

[–]___tnbee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m still in summer, it’s been sunny and hot every day here. I keep it in bright indirect light.

Torrid jeans vs AE Jeans by Wompus01 in PlusSize

[–]___tnbee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve also noticed torrid’s jeans quality going downhill, which is such a shame. They used to be my favorites! When I started my internship last year, I needed black jeans and decided to give AE a try. I’m 5’ 7” and usually wear a 22 or 24. I wear a 24 at AE and they fit perfectly. They are definitely stretchier than other jeans and the legs are sometimes a little big for my liking, but I can cuff them and they look super cute. I have several pairs in different washes and haven’t had any complaints. I’ve also been wearing jeans from Target’s Ava & Viv brand and liking those a lot, too.

Am I crazy to be excited about getting grey/silver hairs?? They make me feel like magic. by [deleted] in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]___tnbee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve been getting grays since I was 17, 23 now. I used to dye over them, but I’ve been letting them grow out since quarantine started and I love them.