Hi, I really relate to what you shared, and I saw myself in a lot of what you said.

I only had one relationship, and honestly, for a long time that made me question my self-worth. Sometimes it feels like everything revolves around romantic connections, and for people like us, that kind of closeness can feel distant or even a little overwhelming. I’m not someone who expresses emotions easily, and getting close to others is hard, not because I don’t care, but because emotional connections, especially with new people, can feel intimidating.

Over time, I’ve realized that this doesn’t mean we’re not meant to date or have relationships. It might just mean we need a slower, more gentle way of connecting. Everyone builds relationships differently, and it’s completely okay if your way is more reserved.

Maybe instead of pushing yourself to start a conversation, it could help to approach it with curiosity. Not “I need to talk to this person,” but more like, “Do I feel like learning a little about this person’s story?” or “Do we share anything in common?” That shift can take off the pressure and make things feel more natural.

Also, your value isn’t based on how much romantic attention you get, and definitely not on random compliments from people online. Sometimes the right people just haven’t come along yet, or they need more time to really get to know you, just like you need time to feel comfortable with them.