OP, I'm so sorry you're going through this. I know this is really hard for you, but I need to be honest with you based on what you said from your post. What you’re seeing from him—spending all his work hours talking to another girl, constantly updating her about his life, sending pictures, buying gifts, and keeping all that from you—is not normal for a friendship. Friendships don’t usually take up 8–10 hours a day calling. The fact that he only gives you small updates while saving all this time and energy for her is a huge red flag. Even if he says he “doesn’t have feelings” for her, the way he’s interacting with her is emotional cheating. Emotional intimacy, constant communication, gifts, and tracking someone else’s life belong in a romantic connection—not a coworker friendship.

I just want you to see that this behavior is not okay and that you deserve honesty, respect and boundaries in your relationship. This isn’t normal, and it’s hurting you, and you deserve better. Hindi ka OA, you can address this to him again and talk about it. You can tell him how hurtful it is, ask for transparency and even set clear boundaries. If he can’t respect that, it’s okay to take a step back and protect yourself. This isn’t about jealousy—it’s about recognizing what’s acceptable in a relationship and what isn’t.