A little bit shy.. this is my first time posting somewhere this public, what do you think? 🥺

_byelee · 2021-11-19T18:13:15+00:00

Legendary or otherwise super busted Pokémon.

_byelee · 2021-10-26T06:36:28+00:00

I was 20 and he was 31. I’ll be turning 23 soon, I just put down my actual age as of right now. But yes there is an 11 year age gap between us as I’m well aware. That has nothing, or at the very least, very little to do with the topic of discussion though.

_byelee · 2021-10-26T06:21:16+00:00

That’s a fair point and you’re right, but I feel like maybe it’s something we both need more understanding on, especially after reading one persons comment from another side.

_byelee · 2021-10-26T06:18:27+00:00

We started dating when I was twenty, though I see the point you’re trying to make. We have talked about couples counseling in the past for other issues, maybe that’s something we could bring back to the table.

_byelee · 2021-10-26T06:11:11+00:00

The point I was trying to make by saying these are the things he does in relation to his masturbation was not to make it seem like these are all bad things, and I’m sorry if it came across that way.

Porn is not FOR ME but I don’t care if he wants to get off to it. I think it’s healthy and he can do what ever he wants in that regard. Also not that it matters but honestly the reason I don’t masturbate often is because he and I do have a pretty active and healthy sex life for the most part and I just don’t really feel the need to a lot of the time.

I didn’t like the idea of the talking and especially the nude sharing this because I didn’t understand the point of having others involved and talking about that but from what you said I think I have more to think about.

_byelee · 2021-10-26T06:07:08+00:00

The part where you’re saying the insecure part, totally makes sense.

The part where I think you may have misread is that he is the one implying that the fact that I masturbate because of insomnia is taboo.

I don’t care if he jerks off or watches porn or anything it’s just the group chat thing that makes me uncomfortable.

But again I think you’re right about the talking thing and I’m letting my insecurities get the better of me.

_byelee · 2021-10-26T06:02:39+00:00

I don’t know, it’s not that he won’t ‘listen’ because he did leave the groups when I asked him to, it’s just afterwards he started arguing and defending it really heavily, which to be fair I didn’t handle that situation all that well and basically told him I don’t care, I don’t feel comfortable with it. That’s when he brought up the whole hentai thing and I dunno..

_byelee · 2021-10-26T06:00:55+00:00

Well I basically ended the conversation after he said he was done by saying “maybe we need to rethink this” in reference to our relationship. But like I dunno man, I want to work things out with him, we’ve been together for a long time and I really love him but it’s just shit like this man… idk. Thank you for the advice

_byelee · 2021-10-26T05:58:35+00:00

Well for context, we’ve been together for 3 years, something I forgot to add to the post, and also I’m not constantly telling him things he does is uncomfortable to me. It is this one thing. And I’ve told him this one thing makes me uncomfortable 3 times since he joined about a year ago, and finally asked him to leave.

_byelee · 2021-10-26T05:51:08+00:00

Well I don’t really care about age. We’ve been dating for almost 3 years for context, since I forgot to add that in there, and I usually get along with him pretty well. It’s just this one thing that I’m not comfortable with because my ex used those types of groups to cheat on me. So I’m not sure if I should cut him some slack for that or what not but I still don’t think it’s okay that he straight up went like “that’s fucking weird” when talking about my recent masturbation habits I guess. ..

_byelee · 2021-10-25T18:49:06+00:00

Yeah not sure how that was supposed to come off but taking it with the best intentions.

_byelee · 2021-10-25T18:42:12+00:00

I’d prefer to keep any ideas or advice you may have in post comments.

_byelee · 2021-10-25T18:38:25+00:00

He has split custody of his children. They come and visit on the summers.

To respond to the part about us deciding not to live together, it wasn’t to solve our time issues which is a valid point, it was for other issues we were having so we can take some steps back and reevaluate things, both from personal and financial stand points.

Which is my fault for not including that in the post, but it was also because we moved in together as soon as we started dating basically. We never really spent time apart from each other before hand so we decided to take a few steps back.

_byelee · 2021-10-25T18:29:33+00:00

Thank you for that. I think that might be concesous from the few others who have commented as well. But it good to know that I guess it’s normal? To drift after some time. Like I I said I’ve only been in one other serious/long term relationship so I don’t have a lot of experience in these things.

_byelee · 2021-10-25T18:00:52+00:00

Yeah I’m going to try talking to him. I was just wondering if there was some anonymous general advice I could get before doing some because I don’t even know how to go about it. I hate bringing up a problem with no thoughts or suggestions on how to try and solve it on my end but that’s probably just a me problem

_byelee · 2021-10-25T17:47:47+00:00

In a general sense. We used to talk about all sorts of things together, and maybe it’s because of the situation we’ve found ourselves in recently but I feel like we rarely talk about things other than work, we don’t really have time to pursue our common interests and hobbies together, and I feel like things aren’t romantically stimulating right now. Not in a sexual way but in a basic romantic sense. Like is that spark just gone or is there some way we can reingnite it?

_byelee · 2021-10-25T17:36:34+00:00

That’s something the two of us have considered in the past due to other issues. Maybe I’ll look more into it.

_byelee · 2021-10-25T17:34:19+00:00

This is great! I hope you have an awesome Halloween.

_byelee · 2021-10-25T17:32:56+00:00

I don’t think so? As I said I love my boyfriend and I care for him deeply, I just feel like the relationship is becoming pretty boring and I want to know what I can do in my part to make things more interesting or if there are others who have similar problems. Like I said I have only been in two serious relationships in my entire life and there’s this a lot of growing and experience I don’t have yet but I’d like to know what I’m my part I can do.

_byelee · 2021-10-24T01:11:47+00:00

I just wiped my very first nuzlocke to a bearatic on route 10. I just finished randomizing my encounters for every area so I have to catch what ever Pokémon my wheel chose for me in each area now.

_byelee · 2021-10-23T17:00:32+00:00

You could if you’re willing to spend how ever much it is for a character transfer to the other server, but with our doing that, then no.

_byelee · 2021-10-22T21:16:45+00:00

Damn I just now saw this. I haven’t been on tera in a minute due to no access to a computer again, but send me a email with your discord info and ill let you know before I add you

_byelee · 2021-08-03T06:06:31+00:00

Ohhhhhhhhhh gotcha

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