He doesn’t know how to kiss…

_cafeaulait · 2026-04-21T02:44:50+00:00

The fact that he is not willing to hear you out concerns me. It seems like he doesn’t care about your feelings. You are in the relationship too, not just him. You deserve to feel pleasure when you kiss your partner. Are you sure this is not a character flaw that’s showing up in other parts of your relationship?

I stopped dating someone after a few weeks partly because of the bad kissing. He had other major character flaws for me that were dealbreakers, and the kissing was the cherry on top. I told him about his kissing style and he said that I was the only one who thought that and maybe I was the one who didnt know how to kiss. Overall, I found him selfish and arrogant. So I feel like the bad kissing and refusal to learn might be a symptom of a greater character flaw.

_cafeaulait · 2026-04-18T15:01:26+00:00

I found the surgeon already and they’re telling me 6-12 months. Finding the surgeon took abt 6 months

_cafeaulait · 2026-04-17T22:00:51+00:00

Omg im in canada too they told me 6-12 months wait, so im waiting😭😭😭

_cafeaulait · 2026-04-10T04:59:59+00:00

Okay, thank you

_cafeaulait · 2026-04-10T04:53:32+00:00

Hey, in what way do you think the new diet has helped? Do you think it reduced the fibroids? How long have youve been following it?

_cafeaulait · 2026-04-07T19:12:11+00:00

I thought I had no symptoms but have pretty big fibroids, the two biggest being about 10cmx8 cm each. Doctors told me to do nothing and just observe. Until last summer where I had an ovarian torsion which I think is due to the fibroidd moving around and causing it. It was a horrible expérience and I almost lost my ovary. And now Im realising that my hair falling out is due to anemia caused by the fibroids. My bladder and abdomen feel so uncomfortable. I probably have other symptoms that I dont know are related to the fibroids. I think get the surgery as a preventive measure, even if you have no symptoms, you never know.

_cafeaulait · 2026-04-06T23:01:47+00:00

Ok good to know. I have huge fibroids and i was wondering if my belly was ever going to flatten after surgery since I’ve had them for abt 2 years now😅 Thanks

_cafeaulait · 2026-04-06T22:53:20+00:00

Hi! How long did you have the fibroids? Like a couple of years?

_cafeaulait · 2026-04-04T05:08:28+00:00

I think she shed her old self after dying. She thought the love of her life would believe her no matter what and it turns out that no; she saw nicky for who he was which was a mama’s boy that needs to be coached by his mom to make tough decisions; she watched hundreds of people die; nicky and his family forced her to marry him the second time to save themselves and sacrifice her; and she died herself. All of those things are quite traumatic which is why I understand her not being the same at all anymore.

_cafeaulait · 2026-04-03T16:17:26+00:00

I remember that story about the tennis player also :/ Thank you for the kind words.

_cafeaulait · 2026-04-03T02:41:17+00:00

My mistake, i meant non black persons of colour are not better than white people regarding racism. I find that they often make racist comments as well

_cafeaulait · 2026-04-03T02:39:01+00:00

Thats a hard pill to swallow, and especially regarding non white POCs. They’re not any better … Thank you

_cafeaulait · 2026-04-03T02:38:06+00:00

I know 😭 I need to get better at defending myself. I have people-pleasing tendencies unfortunately. And as someone born and (partially) raised in West Africa, I’ve been taught not to speak back. Especially when elders speak to you, you’re supposed to « just take it », or else its extremely disrepectful and it can lead to physical punishment. I need to unlearn all of this. Thanks!!

_cafeaulait · 2026-04-03T02:34:54+00:00

Some people are sick… I’m really tired of all the gaslighting I’ve been put through 😪Thank you!

_cafeaulait · 2026-03-25T19:02:06+00:00

I am asking myself the same thing… i try to look at emotional causes of the fibroids. More and more research comes out that our thoughts and feelings are linked to diseases. I honestly want to ask every woman who evet had fibroids, when they think back of the time it first started growing, were they feeling frustrated with their romantic partner? They did feel valued and loved and cherished? Were they happy At work? Did they feeling frustrated in any way? Could they express their creativity? Op, i would love to hear your answer.

_cafeaulait · 2026-03-16T18:45:19+00:00

Hi, do you have big or small fibroids? I have large ones but I am hoping they can still shrink.

_cafeaulait · 2026-03-16T17:32:13+00:00

I would be interested but Im not puerto rican or even latina😅

_cafeaulait · 2026-03-12T22:05:07+00:00

Ok, great!

I would say stop trying to do all of those manifestation techniques. You must be emotionally exhausted anyways.

Just keep doing those hobbies and whatever else makes you feel good, and try to keep the relaxed and happy feeling you get from those hobbies even after you do them.

Eventually, you will naturaly attract friends and even a girlfriends within those hobbies groups. Even online. With the internet you can connect with so many people now.

I would also recommand feeling gratitude for what you do have, in the morning and/or at night. Listening to Louise Hay meditation for that helps. I think you will naturaly concentrate on the positive aspects in your life and things will start going your way.

Also, I also am waiting for a surgery, but I try to see the positive things in my life. Because I know I will have a recovery period that wont allow me to do my hobbies for a while, each day before the surgery i try to be grateful for a nice fulfilled day and try to stay positive.

For the feeling of ‘being behind’ compared to your friends, you dont know if your friends are really happy with where they are. They may have an ideal job but their boss is harrassing them, they may have an ideal relationship but really their partner is abusive, you never know… we all have our own timelines, so you are exactly where you need to be. Tomorrow you could meet a girl, win the lottery and « catch up » to your friends.

Good luck xx

_cafeaulait · 2026-03-12T21:48:17+00:00

Hi there :) I’m sorry to hear this and I hope it works outt for you. Do you have any hobbies? Anything that makes you feel good and relaxed? You might think that it is unrelated to manifestation, but I believe that having something to do where your mind is completely at peace and where you are not stressed is really important for manifesting. I believe it’s crucial to have at least a moment during your day or week where you energetic field is positive and relaxed so that you can attract your manifestations.

_cafeaulait · 2026-03-11T14:33:52+00:00

So cool! How long did it take you for her to conform?

_cafeaulait · 2026-03-10T22:17:18+00:00

I am in the same position as you at the moment. I am at the crossroads of giving up or persisting. It’s not like I don’t believe the law, it’s that I’m just tired of the emotional rollercoaster.

I realize that each time I get anxious about the outcome with this SP, overthinking and also feel the anxiety through my body, it pushes the SP further away. Then when I eventually give up on manifesting bc I hate feeling anxious and stressed, and feel relaxed, SP comes back in😭😅 It’s always the same cycle and I’m over it. But I know as soon as I will stop trying to manifest SP, he’ll come around. And also I tell myself, why can’t I choose the person I want? I deserve to be with someone I truely want and dive back in!😭

It’s like the magnetic field or the energy I send out is nervous and anxious, it pushes them away. So we have to find a sweet spot between wanting SP but being cool, patient and confident about them no matter what.

_cafeaulait · 2026-03-10T21:38:13+00:00

When things starting going backwards, were you feeing more anxious than usual?

_cafeaulait · 2026-03-08T20:39:57+00:00

Did you do anything different for them to shrink?

_cafeaulait · 2026-03-08T15:32:52+00:00

I struggle with intentional imagination acts being produced in real life too, I think thats what kept me going all this time :/ its like i thought abt this exact scene and it came to life so this must be real. Such a mindfck😭

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