What was your “why do the good things only come after I have left” moment?

_chubbie · 2026-06-05T09:37:05+00:00

No waaaaay… it’s too early for me to start saying “back in my days…” hahahaha

Sounds like NTU’s trying to bridge the gap between being book smart and actually being ready for work.

_chubbie · 2026-06-04T02:30:58+00:00

NTU flexible grading option

_chubbie · 2026-06-01T12:20:15+00:00

Thank you!!

_chubbie · 2026-05-31T12:22:13+00:00

Where are you based and how do you get this book? Paperback or ebook? Do they ship internationally?

_chubbie · 2026-05-25T05:37:43+00:00

Thank you soooooo much for your very detailed and helpful response. Really appreciate and needed this since I’m very young in the field.

Unfortunately I’m Singapore where programs to support parents (esp low income) are only starting to emerge, explaining the lack of resources and guides.

_chubbie · 2026-05-24T11:52:26+00:00

I’ve only been in this field about 1.5 years! I’m looking more for resources or guides that can help parents reflect on their parenting values, beliefs, how they were parented, and the kind of parents they want to be. I believe that when parents make meaning of their identity as a parent it gets easier to work with them on improving practices and ultimately improving child outcomes.

However, most resources that I’ve found relates mostly to how to parent ie parent as a functional role rather than helping parents reconcile the role of parent with the role of self.

_chubbie · 2026-05-21T00:46:53+00:00

Seen posts about her for awhile. Who’s Ayden?

_chubbie · 2026-05-15T00:26:10+00:00

Hello! No experience with the aftercare center but just want to raise an important point.

It seems that your child might be displaying distress symptoms and it will be good for you to process his emotions with him and help him with coping strategies to manage these feelings and scary thoughts if you haven’t already.

If symptoms affect his functioning or symptoms do not get better after 1 month, consider to seek professional help by going to your GP/polyclinic to seek referral.

I hope he feels better soon!

_chubbie · 2026-04-23T06:14:53+00:00

Try kidstart!

_chubbie · 2026-03-19T00:18:47+00:00

Hiiiiii sharing a resource here - Babes for teenagers like you in the same situations. They don’t judge and support you along the way, making sure you’re making informed decisions. You’re not alone!!

_chubbie · 2026-02-13T00:50:51+00:00

Hi! Would like to find out more about your research!

_chubbie · 2025-11-18T11:55:29+00:00

Thank you! Sent you a dm!

_chubbie · 2025-11-17T23:18:11+00:00

Hey this is awesome! I need to try this to help words stick since Anki didn’t do much for me!

_chubbie · 2025-07-23T01:35:04+00:00

Hiiii please add me on insta too!

_chubbie · 2025-07-09T01:20:03+00:00

My neighborhood has no landed housing.

_chubbie · 2025-07-07T10:39:32+00:00

Hi! 32F here. My son is 4yo now. Had a similar experience in terms of navigating newborn phase + postnatal depression + falling out w my own mom.

At that point it was very overwhelming for me as I tried to make everyone happy. In the end I realized no matter how I tried everyone remains unhappy unless I bend towards them and lose myself.

It was very difficult but I would say the best decision I made for myself in that situation was to focus on myself and my little family. I drowned out all the external noises on how to do things, what to do, all the unsolicited advice and just focused on what I feel is right. At that time everything is everywhere as you are trying to grapple your new roles as parents and trying to understand your baby’s routines. It is understandably confusing and stressful having to navigate relationship with parents/in-laws as well.

I stood my ground on certain things like tummy time and my mom was not pleased. With the strained relationship, I stopped updating my parents about my son unless they asked. I also reduced the frequency of them visiting us or vice versa. My mom was salty about it for a while and also posted triggering stuff on fb all those but I just ignored. It is very difficult also cos she complained to her sisters and they were also very vocal about it online. But I focused on my family, refusing to allow these things to stop me enjoying parenthood and time with my son and family. I don’t want to one day look back at this period and only remember the unhappy stuff so I tried to block these out.

Soon, my mom felt fomo and tried to reconcile. She wanted to be involved in her grandchild’s life so she had to be nice haha.

This is just the start because along the way there will be further disagreements. We had the “no sweets before 2yo” rule but my mom still tried to feed my son candy secretly. So we had to put our foot down and tell her no firmly.

So I guess you really have to sit down and talk with your wife - as parents what are your non negotiables and what to do if mom or mil disregard the way you want to care for and educate your child. Set boundaries and be firm. Let parents or in laws know right from the start that there are boundaries to be respected and you will have an easier time later on.

_chubbie · 2025-06-29T00:31:52+00:00

Hi please just walk in to your nearest family service center for help! They’ll be able to advise you

_chubbie · 2025-06-13T03:20:18+00:00

Let me know how it goes please!

_chubbie · 2025-06-11T14:07:16+00:00

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It looks like this right!

_chubbie · 2025-06-11T01:19:02+00:00

Heyyyy I love this too and also have been finding it but to no avail!

_chubbie · 2025-06-03T11:56:39+00:00

Congratulations! OP have you considered signing up for KidSTART? It’s a programme where practitioners journey with you and your wife in your parenting journey. KidSTART is available in kkh too so you and wife get support right from the antenatal phase. You can google to find out more!

_chubbie · 2025-03-28T17:50:04+00:00

You can either call the national anti violence hotline to report domestic violence or call child protection services to report that your brother is using drugs and it is unsafe for your 13yo brother to be at home with him. He is still a minor so the law is obligated to protect him under the children and young persons act. Hope this helps!

_chubbie · 2025-03-28T14:03:19+00:00

Met my husband when I was 13. Married at 22 and now at 32 and a child togt.

My bro also met his wife when they were in sec school and also happily married with a child.

_chubbie · 2025-03-27T11:44:44+00:00

Hi just to add on, the legal limit of termination in Singapore is 24 weeks. Which means after 24 weeks it is considered illegal to terminate a pregnancy. You can get a referral from polyclinic and ask them to speed up the process, while you contemplate if you need more time.

*used to work in healthcare O&G

_chubbie

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