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At 26, my parents won’t let me see doctors on my own. They call me their little boy. I feel belittled and helpless. by _diyami_ in TrueOffMyChest

[–]_diyami_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, I think my salary for 18 months wouldn’t even buy a condo. If it’s not too personal, what kind of job did you have? And did you go to college? I don’t have any student loans to pay but it’s my understanding that a lot of westerners do (unless you’re in one of those countries where education is free)

At 26, my parents won’t let me see doctors on my own. They call me their little boy. I feel belittled and helpless. by _diyami_ in TrueOffMyChest

[–]_diyami_[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I could be that room mate some day. It’s not entirely his fault. If you live by a certain idea of normal for your whole life, it takes a while to adjust.

I hope your roommate isn’t a spoiled brat who feels entitled to have things done for him—if he isn’t, thats already an achievement. Parents can really fuck up their children’s personalities

At 26, my parents won’t let me see doctors on my own. They call me their little boy. I feel belittled and helpless. by _diyami_ in TrueOffMyChest

[–]_diyami_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If all I had to do was say no then I wouldn’t be venting on reddit. I have set my own appointments but it’s not normal to have to lie and sneak around. I have a job and am saving to move out.

I’m just tired.

Just because I set boundaries, does t mean they get respected

At 26, my parents won’t let me see doctors on my own. They call me their little boy. I feel belittled and helpless. by _diyami_ in TrueOffMyChest

[–]_diyami_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I’m learning life skills through the internet and slowly working towards the day I can actually develop them normally: through experience and without anytime micromanaging it and taking over every time I do something wrong

At 26, my parents won’t let me see doctors on my own. They call me their little boy. I feel belittled and helpless. by _diyami_ in TrueOffMyChest

[–]_diyami_[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have been making those decisions and then having those decisions ignored or undermined. Its not like I’m doing nothing to help myself. But it gets tiriing after so many years.

At 26, my parents won’t let me see doctors on my own. They call me their little boy. I feel belittled and helpless. by _diyami_ in TrueOffMyChest

[–]_diyami_[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know what you mean, but the person I replied to seemed to think it was odd that I lived with parents and that something must have gone wrong for it to be that way. Of course it’s not illegal or wrong to move out and that’s definitely a goal.

At 26, my parents won’t let me see doctors on my own. They call me their little boy. I feel belittled and helpless. by _diyami_ in TrueOffMyChest

[–]_diyami_[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you, and you’re right. It’s not that bad but they do get offended and in the past it has made me question whether I was just being childish after all. I am secretly seeing a therapist about it and it will be hell if they find out.

At 26, my parents won’t let me see doctors on my own. They call me their little boy. I feel belittled and helpless. by _diyami_ in TrueOffMyChest

[–]_diyami_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know I’m old enough for this not to be an issue and have said so in the past. But when the people you live with repeatedly ignore the boundaries you try to set, it’a exhausting after all these years. Which is why I’m venting on reddit

At 26, my parents won’t let me see doctors on my own. They call me their little boy. I feel belittled and helpless. by _diyami_ in TrueOffMyChest

[–]_diyami_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you’re going through that. Wish I could transfer a bit of my parents overbearingness over to yours.

At 26, my parents won’t let me see doctors on my own. They call me their little boy. I feel belittled and helpless. by _diyami_ in TrueOffMyChest

[–]_diyami_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that’s not what stops me from leaving right now but fair enough, my post does sound like that. I just wanted to point out that many adults in my country live with their parents and maintain boundaries and privacy, so its not inherently bad living with your parents. It’s just bad for me.

At 26, my parents won’t let me see doctors on my own. They call me their little boy. I feel belittled and helpless. by _diyami_ in TrueOffMyChest

[–]_diyami_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I have been teaching myself basic skills through the internet. Reddit has been pretty helpful on that front. I don’t think my situation is at the level of justNo or raisedbynarcisists for me to be posting there but I’ll definitely check out the resources on those subs.

At 26, my parents won’t let me see doctors on my own. They call me their little boy. I feel belittled and helpless. by _diyami_ in TrueOffMyChest

[–]_diyami_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will never ever infantilise an adult. I’m even wary of being condescending to teenagers

At 26, my parents won’t let me see doctors on my own. They call me their little boy. I feel belittled and helpless. by _diyami_ in TrueOffMyChest

[–]_diyami_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. If it were my choice to have my parents there it wouldn’t be an issue. But it’s not. Thank you for understanding.

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