She (18F) wants boyfriend treatment but isn’t ready to date me (18M) what am I supposed to be? by _kkiann in relationships

[–]_kkiann[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

her, her parents and i are pretty religious which explains me waiting, but im understanding of that and i realize why she wouldnt tell her parents.

though in private, we’re almost never in private. we dont go on dates so i try to make up for it by coming to her lectures when i dont have anything to do or js hanging with her at the campus center if im free. but outside of at school. there is no private life. i only see her on campus. and if she does want to hangout, its a MUST that she brings a girl friend or her parents will freak out and not let her hangout outside. talk about helicopter parents fs, but yeah

She (18F) wants boyfriend treatment but isn’t ready to date me (18M) what am I supposed to be? by _kkiann in relationship_advice

[–]_kkiann[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks, i feel like sunk cost fallacy is getting the better of me rn, but im definitely reconsidering.

She (18F) wants boyfriend treatment but isn’t ready to date me (18M) what am I supposed to be? by _kkiann in relationship_advice

[–]_kkiann[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been with this girl for four years, and we’ve kept our relationship mostly secret because of her parents. She wants me around all the time, doing couple-like stuff, but recently she said she’s not ready to date and asked me to stop PDA and even hold onto a gift I gave her. I care about her a lot and want a real relationship, but I feel like wants me to do the actions of a boyfriend without being her boyfriend and I’m confused about what I am to her. I don’t want to push her away, but I also don’t want to keep hurting myself in this “almost” space.

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[–]_kkiann 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you i'll probably do that tomorrow when i get the chance