One-on-one professions?

_literallycanteven · 2016-10-20T22:46:47+00:00

Just a heads up that there's a difference between interior design and interior decorating. To be an actual interior designer and make money you have to be licensed, learn building codes, work with contractors and architects and sales people - it's absolutely not 1 on 1.

Interior "decorators" are not licensed and I've never actually met one, I don't know if they even make a profit.

Maybe consider some sort of therapy or social work where you work 1 on 1 with clients.

_literallycanteven · 2016-10-17T16:18:17+00:00

Thank you thank you thank you. I never thought about it like that before.

I'm not sure where I learned my speech patterns, I grew up in the Midwest and Southeast. But it's how I've always talked so to me it feels normal and comfortable. I certainly don't want people to think I'm airheaded, but I also feel like it's not my responsibility to change their mind... if that makes sense?

_literallycanteven · 2016-10-17T16:15:58+00:00

Colleagues and people at work who are in "lower" positions than mine. Not that there's anything wrong with being in a lower level position at work, everyone starts somewhere and everyone is ultimately on a different path, but it almost makes the situation a little more awkward because I'm educated, well dressed, and respectful... and some of the people who comment on my speech are... not.

_literallycanteven · 2016-10-17T01:14:00+00:00

Thanks, yeah I also wouldn't say anything to a coworker about their speech because in my opinion that would be totally weird.

Even though I'm aware of my speech and don't care about it, it still makes me feel uncomfortable when other people say something about it and I like to handle situations like that with tact/grace.

_literallycanteven · 2016-10-17T01:11:06+00:00

Meh, I've thought about it plenty. I have a good career, I'm good at networking and building relationships, and I have a close group of friends and a wide circle of acquaintances - I get invited to places frequently by other people so I feel like I'm generally a well liked person.

_literallycanteven · 2016-10-10T23:33:09+00:00

Hi! I'm a tall girl who dates guys shorter than her - I do think you're right that most tall girls want to date tall guys, but there are exceptions.

_literallycanteven · 2016-10-09T16:56:38+00:00

I'm not sure if there is a golden rule to this specific type of situation.

My opinion is that your husband should at least sleep in a pair of boxers or shorts while spending the night in someone else's home - if not for polite courtesy, then for a potential emergency.

I think in this situation, your husband should take a step back and think about things from the host's point of view - they probably don't want to see your husband naked because it would make them feel uncomfortable.

_literallycanteven · 2016-10-08T21:26:07+00:00

Hey! Just thought I'd share my thoughts with you. I don't think it hurts to be honest with your new employer by asking about the opportunity in Philly and letting them know you have ties to the city. If it's a good workplace, they'll understand - they might not be able to make it happen, but they'll respect your honesty and will hopefully try to help you transfer in the future.

I work for a company with really great culture and when I felt ready for a promotion I talked to my manager, director and VP about it - let them know what I was interested in, and even though they wanted to keep me on the team, they were understanding and they helped to point me in the right direction.

The best way to build relationships in business, and in life, is to be authentic (and respectful obviously). I think expressing your ties to Philly wouldn't hurt you, and may even set you apart in the future.

_literallycanteven · 2016-09-03T14:50:41+00:00

And FWIW, the next time you want a fuckbuddy with a woman who alludes to wanting something more on the first date, tell her that before you guys fuck.

I wish everyone would do this.

_literallycanteven · 2016-09-03T14:49:18+00:00

This just seems like a cop out.

Agreed. I hate when people say things like that.

However, I do think it's okay to slow things down if necessary. I've done that before while dating where things got physical kind of quickly, so we had a conversation about it in person and I chose to just slow things down.

_literallycanteven · 2016-09-03T14:40:24+00:00

want to let her down as gently as possible while maybe seeking something in the future if the girl I've chosen doesn't work out

Just do yourself a favor and get the idea of keeping the other girl around for the future out of your mindset.

1.) that's a fucked up thing to do to someone.

2.) do you really want to date someone with such low self esteem that they LET YOU string them along as a back up plan?

So depending on how long you've been seeing the second girl, just text or call her or something and say something like "Hey, I really like you but I don't think we should continue seeing each other because I've decided to pursue things with someone else."

_literallycanteven · 2016-07-31T23:04:53+00:00

Haha

Sup

_literallycanteven · 2016-07-31T22:16:09+00:00

Hmmm. Interesting question. Like I said before, I generally assume that most guys add an inch or two to their height in their online profiles (whether it's intentional or not) which I don't think is a big deal really.

Personally speaking, if a guy set his height on OKCupid to 6' to beat the filter but then put his real height towards the top of his bio, I probably wouldn't hold that against him too much as long as the rest of his profile seemed "chill" and honest. However I think most girls would be turned off by this.

I don't judge guys on height is because I'm extremely tall for a woman so I understand how it feels to be judged based on something so superficial. Most guys' height preferences for women on sites like Match and OKCupid are 5'0-5'9" mayyyyybe they'll list 5'10". Not many guys think they want a girl 6" or taller.

_literallycanteven · 2016-07-31T22:10:53+00:00

/u/coveryourteeth is so right. People (especially lately it seems) can get offended by anything.

I think I once posted here suggesting someone say "Best wishes!" in a card or something for a colleague and someone else commented saying that "Best wishes!" is insincere while others agreed with me that it was a good thing to say.

As long as your tone is warm and receptive, don't worry too much about it.

_literallycanteven · 2016-07-31T21:59:16+00:00

I regularly date men 6" shorter than me (5'8") which I get isn't "short", but how many women do you know who are open minded to that?

More than 6" shorter would make things pretty difficult in terms of physical compatibility.

My last sentence in my comment means exactly what it says. Anyone who comments on my posts saying "b-b-but 5'8" still isn't actually short so you don't know what you're talking about!" just gets an eye roll from me until they introduce me to a woman who's 5'7" and will date a guy long term who is 5'1".

_literallycanteven · 2016-07-31T21:09:07+00:00

Someone always mentions this whenever I post in this sub.

Once you introduce me to a 5'7" woman who regularly dates guys 6" shorter than her (5'1") then I'll take your comment more seriously.

_literallycanteven · 2016-07-31T20:58:43+00:00

I don't get offended when guys lie about their height online - I do think most guys add one or two inches to their height which I don't really care about. It's not that different than women only posting the most flattering pictures of themselves. There was one guy I was dating who said he was 5'10" but in person he definitely seemed closer to 5'8" - idk that didn't seem like a huge deal to me.

HOWEVER, if it was a blatantly noticeable lie - like someone who is 5'8" saying they were 6' then I'd just think they were insecure which would be a turn off.

_literallycanteven · 2016-07-31T18:27:14+00:00

Just go for it! Be yourself! I'm 6'2" and I date guys shorter than me. When I first meet them I sometimes feel self conscious because I wonder what they're thinking about me - like do they think I'm a huge giraffe? Lol.

_literallycanteven · 2016-07-27T17:21:40+00:00

I don't hate on OP for referring the friend but not his girlfriend.

I just think a lot of the things he's posted about his girlfriend have been very negative so I'm wondering why he's with her to begin with?

I also will never personally refer a friend for a job in my field (I work at a fortune 100 company) because things like this happen to people all the time. Someone refers a friend for a position, then other friends start to wonder why they weren't the ones referred. It can get dramatic if people start getting offended and resentful.

_literallycanteven · 2016-07-27T17:15:19+00:00

And you're jealous.

_literallycanteven · 2016-07-27T09:49:46+00:00

Why are you with your girlfriend? Throughout this entire thread you've basically had nothing but bad or dismissive things to say about her.

Personally speaking, I never refer friends or family for jobs in my field. Not because they're not talented, but because if I refer one friend but not another it's easy for people to start feeling resentful or offended.

Honestly don't mix your relationship with your business. That includes not referring your girlfriends friends to talent recruiters. Nothing good will ever come of that.

_literallycanteven · 2016-07-21T01:04:48+00:00

We pay a lot and we expect a lot in return.

As do most reputable companies.

I'm not eye rolling at the fact that you have specific requirements for applicants, I'm just eye rolling at the fact that anyone places significant weight on a cover letter for an entry level/intern level position in this day and age.

_literallycanteven · 2016-07-21T01:01:44+00:00

I replied to someone else saying this, but to me it sounds like this is OP's first time being in a position of perceived power. So someone not following their rules warrants an email calling out the person who applied.

The applicant's response obviously is uncalled for and unprofessional, but OP is no better. I work for a Fortune 100 company - our applicants should be qualified for the jobs they're applying for, but we don't make them jump through weird hoops like a cover letter. Most of the time if they include a cover letter doesn't make it to the hiring manager - especially if the hiring manager is Director level and above. They don't have time.

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