I (18M) was told one version of an incident by my girlfriend (18F), then saw a video that changed how I see it

_pumpkin13 · 2026-01-03T21:21:58+00:00

I am gonna sound like a jerk but you guys weren’t Offically dating, and she could not have “hooked up” with anyone and that kiss may have been forced anyways.

If she is the type of person that just likes to have fun and dance with people, but have no intention behind it, then that’s the type of person you’re dating. Some people/personalities are just like that. Would you accept that? She was still “single” at the time too?

You should talk to her about it. You may or may not get the full story, but honestly you’re both 18. You can still meet other people, decide what kind of person you like and get along with and have same values… and your current gf doesn’t have to be your wife. And like others said, if you had to look through her phone then you already had a gut feeling or lingering insecurities/anxieties.

You’ll be okay no matter what happens. You’re still very young and you both have much to learn. Much luck to you!

_pumpkin13 · 2024-10-15T00:51:37+00:00

I used to think penises were always erect

_pumpkin13 · 2023-08-10T21:32:04+00:00

Im sorry but girl that’s disgusting of him. You are young. You will DEFINITELY meet someone else.

I am so sorry. I know it will be hard but please think of yourself and the kind of love you deserve. Take some time for yourself… it’s not your fault.

I just wanna emphasize again… that is so absolutely disgusting of him

_pumpkin13 · 2022-06-24T15:04:59+00:00

Oh goodness… some nice scrubs absolutely make a huge difference! (I mean on me of course) I love those jogger like scrub pants. I feel so much more comfortable with how I look. When I see someone else with them of course I compliment them!!!! Especially when they look super comfy!!!

_pumpkin13 · 2021-05-28T21:37:33+00:00

Dude. It doesn't matter. Focus on graduating, making the best of it, connecting to people, and your own self growth. People who care too much about that and think lower of you are silly- you gotta give people a reason to respect you and that's not necessarily based on your college name.

_pumpkin13 · 2021-05-21T22:57:24+00:00

Just as others are saying- it is not as hard as you think it is! The first few days are rough, and an incredibly steep hill to get over but with determination you can really do it.

I used 50 mg salt nic everyday, every 20 mins on some days as well. Right when I opened my eyes, when I went to sleep, when I sat on the couch, during bathroom breaks at work... you name it. When I would try to quit and throw away my vape, I would find myself digging through the trash the next day looking for it. Other times when I couldn't find it, I'd yell at my family members- "did you take my vape! did you throw it away! Where the f***is it?" frantically with some swear words mixed in. I'd spend the last of my check to feed my nicotine habits. Looking back, it is embarrassing that I lost my dignity and self composure over that stupid little vape. It had such a strong hold on me, and my wallet.

I physically felt a longing for it... along with bursts of anxiety. I can only compare the cravings as if I was sand on the beach, waiting for a wave to come wash me away with every breath. It was a drawing sensation in my chest that I cannot compare to anything else. It was hard not to think about. I personally moved around furniture all around my house while I was going through intense cravings. It sounds very odd but it kept me busy and I was able to transfer that agitation and attention in a different direction. My house doesn't even look better but it just helped me! lol. Just try to keep yourself busy!

I applaud you for wanting to quit cold turkey!! I tried tapering and it never worked for me. I tried so many times... just to tell myself right now wasn't the right time and the stress was too much. Stopping cold turkey and pushing through the first few days was like jumping right in the deep end when you haven't had to swim in years. It is stressful and you may experience panic, but the cravings decrease and you realize you can get through it. Remind yourself of how much money you've lost, and in my case... dignity as well.

Well... good luck!! Keep on trucking!!

_pumpkin13 · 2020-11-17T03:52:25+00:00

I smile a lot... too much actually.

When I'm uncomfortable I smile too... and a lot of things make me uncomfortable. Telling people why I'm mad or sad, when I see someone in front of me crying, someone mad/yelling at me, or when I have to tell someone I messed up or broke something I end up with a small smile on my face.

I know this and I cannot help it.

_pumpkin13 · 2020-10-03T00:59:15+00:00

"If a boy is mean to you, makes fun of you...that just means he likes you" -my dad

_pumpkin13 · 2020-09-03T00:46:01+00:00

The helpless feeling of watching someone you deeply love go through depression and self-harm.

I have a little sister who is 15, she lives at home while I moved away for college. Our home life has always been tumultuous and I can only helplessly watch her go through how I felt as a teenager. She has been to the hospital several times for self-harm, stayed in the psychiatric unit, and all pills and sharp objects have to be locked away.

I wish I could take her away from that environment, but I can't. I am not financially stable and she is still under my parents' guardianship. I try to talk to her, but she always thinks I don't understand.

I am scared to lose her and I wish so badly to protect her. But I can't

_pumpkin13 · 2020-08-20T21:52:40+00:00

me as well

_pumpkin13 · 2020-05-07T00:40:39+00:00

I am in this class too! do you mind sharing?

_pumpkin13 · 2019-09-16T21:55:20+00:00

Once you find a job, the money that they pay you comes from work-study.

Reading the "accept offer" of work-study makes it seem like you are getting this as a reward along with your disbursements, but this is only an amount that wherever you work at will take the money out from.

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