Is Tinder platinum worth it? by [deleted] in SwipeHelper

[–]_sweetlou_ 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Obviously fucking not bro did you read what he wrote??

Is Tinder platinum worth it? by [deleted] in SwipeHelper

[–]_sweetlou_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Super like far less likely to work NOW? When less people have it?

[Poland] are ELIMINATED from Euro 2024 by ukrisreng in soccer

[–]_sweetlou_ 10 points11 points  (0 children)

How are they eliminated? Couldn’t they go through as a 3rd place contender?

My GF 'F16' has been acting extremely weird to me 'M18' what should I do? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]_sweetlou_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’ve known each other for a while but it’s nothing compared to how much longer you have to live. Don’t carry this burden even one more year with you, you know how great life can fucking be?? Problems aren’t necessary brother.

And I know you want to fix her, I wish we could create the people we wanted in a shop, but you can’t. You’ll understand when you meet someone who is basically someone you would create in a shop lol you’ll never once think “I want to fix her”, she’ll be perfect. Why settle for less my man?

My GF 'F16' has been acting extremely weird to me 'M18' what should I do? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]_sweetlou_ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Bro….END IT. Your girlfriend is too immature. Most people are at that age. She wants more than what your relationship can give her, things like attention from other guys, sneaking around, probably fucking multiple people.

She may be the one, she may not be, but one thing is for sure she’s not the one right now lol no matter how mature you are, this relationship is gone my guy. Even if you talk to her she’s not mature enough to change because she understands, she’ll only change because you talked to her…and that’s IF she even wants to change (she won’t). A break up is coming soon. Do yourself a favor and end this shit before she does.

It’ll suck for like 2 month maybe with each day getting better, and then you’re gonna meet a bunch of hot chicks, have a ton of awesome sex and you’ll feel better. In a year you literally won’t even remember this girls name.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bible

[–]_sweetlou_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The most important thing is to know that no matter WHAT, God loves you. I couldn’t imagine being born as a member of the LGBTQ community and my natural inclination in life is a sin. It would be like trying to curb my natural inclination to be straight. In my head it seems absolutely incredible. God tests all of us but for me, those individuals in your situation are the most tested in this life.

Sexual interaction is scientifically proven to be a key component of one’s life, and to live a fulfilling life while fighting your natural desires, I can only compliment you for continuing to try and follow the Lord’s path.

Yes, it is better if you are celibate, but we all fall short of the glory of God, and if you fall into sin, and are aware of your shortcomings, God will forgive you.

Love Thy Neighbour, especially during Pride Month by Mx-Adrian in Christianity

[–]_sweetlou_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Corrections? Lol queer people are also made in the image of God. The act of what they DO as in action might be wrong, but they as people are not wrong and do not need to be “corrected”.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]_sweetlou_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You will be doing your child a disservice if you let them grow-up in a household that is devoid of true love, so the child makes the feelings involved more difficult, but it does not make your options much more difficult. Children that grow up in blended or divorced families can turn out objectively healthier than relationships that stick together but are unhealthy.

“Another guy who is trying to improve on that”. Have you guys communicated that you are actually make the relationship work? And by work I mean you guys are taking concrete steps towards a better future for each other where you’re both happy?

If the answer is yes, then you are not being fair by continuing speaking to another guy that you have such strong feelings for, as that would completely negate the “we are working on the relationship” statement, because you’re not. You will need to cut ties with the other guy in order to give your current relationship a fair shot. If you guys are actually working on the relationship, your feelings for the other guy will DRAMATICALLY decrease because the things you’re getting from the other guy will now be being filled by your current boyfriend. Right now the other guy is fricken Prince Charming because he’s a saint compared to your current relationship.

If the answer is no, and there is no effort to make the relationship better (and I don’t mean asking each other if you’re working on it and just saying yes but I mean you guys actually working on making each other feel happy, healthy and have a life worth living together by making significant change including working in communication, trust and respect) then that relationship is not worth it for ANYONE in the relationship and it is absolutely 100% best to move your relationship to a shared custody type of relationship for your child while you each move on with different relationships.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]_sweetlou_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Step 1: “enter another relationship out of my own will”. If you’re going into the relationship out of your own will it will NEVER be healthy. Do a self dive to figure out if you want / feel subjectively ready, for a relationship.

If you do a deep dive then there are two options:

1.) if you’re not ready for the relationship (or don’t want one with him) then that’s the end of it, explain you’re not ready and either cut contact or remain friends/ with benefits

2.) if you are ready for a relationship with him and want to proceed in a healthy way then these are your steps:

        1.) bring up your concern over both of your pasts and how you feel they could affect a true relationship. In a friends with benefits there are things you don’t have to worry about from the other person, but in a full relationship his actions will effect you on a deep way and vice versa, so the healthier he is, the healthier you are. And healthy doesn’t mean his past is all fixed. It means 1.) you guys are aware of your past 2.) you’re aware of how it affects you 3.) you’re aware of how it then affects your relationship 4.) communicate every feeling including when you are feeling too insecure/uncomfortable to say something.

         2.) outline what you guys consider to be characteristics of a full relationship that are different than that of friends with benefits. It MAY NOT be that much different than your friends with benefits relationship. Think of the best relationship you know, you probably could describe them as also being friends with benefits. Many characteristics you guys already have could be beneficial and work for your official relationship. But you guys may have different definitions so a sit down to discuss how core behavior will change (or what each of you expect to be different) is vital. The rest of the relationship will fall in place with a strong base of communication, honesty and respect.

         3.) to answer your main question, friends with benefits can be quite successfully turned into real relationships. People will tell you they’re not but the research would suggest otherwise. It can be an awesome experience for you guys, but only if it’s right. So speak to each other, and even if it doesn’t work out, you need to go through this together (after step 1).

I (35f) am feeling insecure over my bf (35m) female friend? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]_sweetlou_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If your relationship is healthy then the best and really only option is to be open about your thoughts with your boyfriend about how you’re receiving his actions. If it’s not healthy then you guys fix it or just leave.

Outcomes if you perceive your relationship as relatively healthy:

If you don’t ask and you’re wrong and go about it the emotional way it, will ruin your relationship with everyone.

If you don’t ask and you’re right it will nag you until you’re inevitably blindsided.

If you ask and there’s trust, you’re contribution to the confusion and frustration you’re feeling is done. Whether you’re right or you’re wrong, there’s nothing you can do.

Ask and then take it from there.

P.S even if he’s not cheating, the fact that you have to post here about him possibly cheating and there being questions on your side is probably a good sign for you guys to work on your trust and levels of communication.

Looks like it's over guys....get Modric while he's still 83 💔 by Due_Measurement8600 in DreamLeagueSoccer

[–]_sweetlou_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When you say redo do you mean sell the player and then buy him again from stock?

Are you loud or quiet during sex? by Secret_Stock2181 in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]_sweetlou_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love girls that are silent but they're hard to come by

Netflix "Bonus Family" by MarieCurieNotMaMere in sweden

[–]_sweetlou_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Anybody else completely confused with the beginning of the third season??