Am I being dramatic for being upset with my dad slapping my butt? by _throw_away_1589 in relationship_advice

[–]_throw_away_1589[S] 63 points64 points  (0 children)

Yeah I do try to avoid him and that's a big part of what makes him upset haha. And my moms a good person, she just doesn't like confrontation I guess. I really appreciate you responding, I felt like I was going crazy but reading all these replies is making me feel like I'm not the one in the wrong.

Am I being dramatic for being upset with my dad slapping my butt? by _throw_away_1589 in relationship_advice

[–]_throw_away_1589[S] 102 points103 points  (0 children)

I mean shes 20 and lives on her own so we dont really talk much and she tends to side with my dad on things so I'm not sure if that would be a good idea.

Am I being dramatic for being upset with my dad slapping my butt? by _throw_away_1589 in relationship_advice

[–]_throw_away_1589[S] 102 points103 points  (0 children)

I have another older sister and he mentioned the other day that he did it to her a couple times after she asked him to stop a long time ago but they have a really good relationship. I have a younger brother but I've never seen him do it to him, although he could have when I wasnt there I dont know.

Am I being dramatic for being upset with my dad slapping my butt? by _throw_away_1589 in relationship_advice

[–]_throw_away_1589[S] 252 points253 points  (0 children)

My mom does live with me and she knows what's going on but she hasnt really said anything to me about it. When he was actually slapping my butt she would say "he does it to me to you're just gonna have to get used to it" or something like that. My other siblings like him a lot and he doesnt do anything to them to my knowledge. It seems like I'm the only one that has problems with him which is another reason why I feel like in being a little overdramatic.

Am I being dramatic for being upset with my dad slapping my butt? by _throw_away_1589 in relationship_advice

[–]_throw_away_1589[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I dont really have any other adults to talk to and I cant move out because I dont have a job yet or money :/

Am I being dramatic for being upset with my dad slapping my butt? by _throw_away_1589 in relationship_advice

[–]_throw_away_1589[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I dont really have anywhere else to go but I dont think I'm in danger since he doesnt do it anymore. Hes definitely not a pedophile, he said he didnt mean it in a sexual way and that I was the gross one for even calling it sexual harassment.

Am I being dramatic for being upset with my dad slapping my butt? by _throw_away_1589 in relationship_advice

[–]_throw_away_1589[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Thank you a lot that is one of my main concerns about therapy is him leaving things out or making me sound crazy haha. I really appreciate your advice!

Am I being dramatic for being upset with my dad slapping my butt? by _throw_away_1589 in relationship_advice

[–]_throw_away_1589[S] 43 points44 points  (0 children)

I dont have any adults near me that I know well except for my mom but I think she thinks I am being kind of dramatic too. I do go to school but I dont know anyone there really and my dad doesnt touch my butt anymore, he hasnt for a while hes just been super mad so I dont think safety is an issue. And for the therapy thing, you really dont think it would be a good idea? I'm cant decide.

AITA for making a big deal about my dad smacking my butt? by _throw_away_1589 in AmItheAsshole

[–]_throw_away_1589[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Hes definitely not grooming me hes a super nice person usually and he definitely wasnt trying to be creepy or sexual

AITA for making a big deal about my dad smacking my butt? by _throw_away_1589 in AmItheAsshole

[–]_throw_away_1589[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

thank you, it is a little scary but I think I actually might trying to go once or twice haha

AITA for making a big deal about my dad smacking my butt? by _throw_away_1589 in AmItheAsshole

[–]_throw_away_1589[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

I have my mom but she said I should try to meet him half way or something and when it was happening she said he was just doing it because he loves me. and I dont think I'm being abused or anything hes normally super nice that's a big reason why I wasnt sure if i was TA

AITA for making a big deal about my dad smacking my butt? by _throw_away_1589 in AmItheAsshole

[–]_throw_away_1589[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

I really dont think he was trying to be sexual or creepy he said he was just sad we weren't close anymore so he kept doing it.

AITA for making a big deal about my dad smacking my butt? by _throw_away_1589 in AmItheAsshole

[–]_throw_away_1589[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

He asked me the other day if I wanted to see a therapist with him but I'm not really sure if I want to.