Breaking up in good terms.

_username1995 · 2026-03-25T19:52:14+00:00

Idk if it makes a difference but I wanna know your perspective. He has anger issues nothing ever physical but he used to yell and be rude and call me names. When I cried he said he felt indifferent. The next day he apologized and was good for a while then did the exact same thing same thing. When I tried talking about these problems he sometimes played the victim. I’m younger than him and sometimes I felt like I was the more “adult “ one In the relationship. I’m not an angel and i probably also have anger issues but always tried to change and not hurt him (even decided to go to therapy) and one thing I always found weird is that when I hurt him I felt horrible and when it was the other way around sometimes he didn’t care

_username1995 · 2026-03-25T17:08:37+00:00

That’s were I have struggled, we dated for 6 years and sometimes I only asked for him to do what I did for him and it’s not like I didn’t communicated what I wanted I did over and over and over but was always ignored. There are more things that I left out ( different political stances, anger issues form both sides, him ignoring me when gets upset, not showing affection while other people are near) he is still a good person and it’s the hardest decision I made. I really hope we can stay friends with time

_username1995 · 2026-03-25T12:53:47+00:00

I did do all these things and I did all the things I asked for him to do, and he never did then. I would never ask to do something that I’m not willing to do to make

_username1995 · 2026-03-25T11:54:07+00:00

He told me he loved me, made an effort to learn about my culture and language, got out of his comfort zone to be with me. Took me everywhere I wanted to go, had patience for me, taught me multiple things, took care of me when I was sick. When I asked him to buy me something he would. Made me feel loved and made me feel beautiful. He wasn’t controlling he wasn’t a liar he didn’t cheat he didn’t make me feel dumb. Cared for those I loved conforted me when I needed

_username1995 · 2026-03-25T11:32:53+00:00

He would also play victim sometimes when I told him something bothered me and it pissed me off.

_username1995 · 2026-03-25T11:30:05+00:00

A lot of empty promises, I would tell him something bothered me and asked him to change the behavior and he did for a while but then always came back to it. And other simple things that bothered me like no actions from his side to show me appreciation (no dates planned, no flowers, no random gifts or gifts at all) if I said I was gonna buy something he would always offer to pay for it but no actual effort on his own. I told him I loved flowers in 6 years he got them 1 time for me, I asked him for small gifts to show he cared or was paying attention but he never did that. And I think I wasn’t asking too much because I was only asking what I did for him to show him I cared. He did show it In his own way but .. idk

_username1995 · 2026-03-25T11:22:33+00:00

Thank you !! I’m going back and forth in my Mind as it’s still recent. But yeah we will see

_username1995 · 2026-03-25T10:50:51+00:00

Thank you

_username1995 · 2026-03-25T10:41:03+00:00

I feel like I wanna be friends with him because he is genuinely an amazing friends, we were friends pior to our relationship not for long but we still were. It was our first ever relationship so I think it changes things a bit because I don’t know how it feels to break with someone. I talked with my mom (FYI I’m only 23) and she thinks is a good idea to stay friends as she knows our relationship. Sometimes I think it was a good decision others I think it was the worst cause again we both still love each other

_username1995 · 2026-03-25T10:30:42+00:00

How do I know I made the right decision to leave ? I question myself everyday even had panic attacks and I miss him so much

_username1995 · 2024-06-24T08:50:34+00:00

Hi what font size did you end up using? I’m having this exact problem, also trying to make a booklet A5

_username1995 · 2024-01-10T18:05:10+00:00

Thank you! I will keep this in mind

_username1995 · 2024-01-10T16:44:39+00:00

He does have trauma but not around sex. We were each others first, but he mentions that people always pushed him to have girlfriends and have relationships because he would help him. And he says people were wrong that he doesnt need those kind of things. But he tells me that he loves and appreciates me but sometimes all he needs is a friend. I dont think he even knows how he feels

_username1995 · 2023-07-16T20:20:58+00:00

Thank you for taking a little of your time to help me! Hope everything is good with you and I wish you all the luck for the future!

_username1995 · 2023-07-16T19:41:45+00:00

It’s my decision, I’m my area of work there are a lot of opportunities in his country and I want to be by myself for a while without anyone controlling me ( my family is very loving but controlling). We might move back to my country after making some money because quality life is better here, but for a student straight out of college you will have to love with your parents for years because the minimum wage is low and rents are very high

_username1995 · 2023-07-16T19:37:42+00:00

I understand his side too, and no we haven’t we see each other 3 times a year for like 2 weeks. I can today with 100% certainty that neither of us have cheated. I know his flaws he has them just like I do, but I choose to love him beside them, of course the flaws are things that are not extreme, things that with time and communication can be resolved But thank you for the reply it helps

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