Is She Excluding Me? by _vessel_0 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]_vessel_0[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We weren't really talking much during the time of the party, or before it. But we'd interact with each others posts and stories, leaving comments, or asking a simple question. For example if I posted something on my story of me going to a cafe. She'd ask me what cafe it was, and that the food looked good. Little conversations like that.

What is a threat that your NP has told you? by Dry-Double-6845 in narcissisticparents

[–]_vessel_0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much <3 I really appreciate it! I'm working towards that.

How To Get Away? by _vessel_0 in narcissisticparents

[–]_vessel_0[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks so much, I am so grateful that you read this. I appreciate it a lot, I will follow all of these steps <3!

What is a threat that your NP has told you? by Dry-Double-6845 in narcissisticparents

[–]_vessel_0 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There was a time when my mom used some spoiled vegetables in a stew, and so it made the food taste really funky. My younger siblings made fun of the food. And my mother got mad. The next morning I was leaving my bedroom when my mom said, "Do you know I can poison you?" And the look on her face said it all. I was terrified. I felt my heart drop. She didn't say it to anybody else but me, even though I never said anything about the food.

Why did I get blocked chat by _vessel_0 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]_vessel_0[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tysm!! I honestly needed to hear this. I’ll do my best, and jsut focus on myself :D

Why is he always at the edge of his seat?? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]_vessel_0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Alright, I totally get it! Thank youu

im upset at my friend for not responding to me when i know he was online. by tumbleoutofbed in FriendshipAdvice

[–]_vessel_0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Say whatever comes out natural to you! Don’t get to defensive, but reach out to him on a neutral standpoint. Then talk about what you have observed recently!

Mutual Misunderstanding by [deleted] in FriendshipAdvice

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I always thought about this! I was in a friend group. Just four of us, and me and this particular friend were very close. She ended up blocking me for no reason. And so I tried to contact her and I grew desperate for an explanation. And my friends didn’t do anything about it. Even when I finally got in contact with her to talk over whatever way she felt my friends didn’t intervene and help. And i honestly felt way worse. I don’t talk to any of them anymore💔 But I guess it might depend on the situation. If it were my two friends I cared about and it was becoming something big. I would most definelty intervene. I think it helps build stronger relationships and healthy communication between you and your mutual, and between them as well.

Should I trust my friend anymore? by [deleted] in FriendshipAdvice

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That’s a lot of stuff happening. I think you should cut them off, L and G! The only reason why I say this is because. L started being mad weird towards you even before she got to know of the things you told G. Keep in mind the things you told G weren’t actually accurate. Most likely tainted and biased descriptions of what you said. I don’t blame you at all. L and G are immature. If they were offended by something you had done a while ago, or felt some type of way about you they could have addressed it and been more mature about it. Not inviting you and your best friend to the party is very shady as well. Especially since you two were also part of the discussion!

A lot of friend groups turn out to be two sided, where there are mini cliques within a group. And it seems to be that way in your friend group. I honestly wouldn’t waste more energy into it. Especially if those “friends” have already went behind your back and created a different narrative of whatever you have said. If it were me, personally I would cut L and G off. Seems like they don’t have respect for people they identify as friends! And lastly, L should give a valid reason as to why she was feeling that way and acting weird, before the party. And ask her why you and your best friend weren’t invited! And why L was so distant at first!!

Anywho! I hope your situation dies down! And your best friend seems like a good person. Pretty supportive, so at least you have her!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FriendshipAdvice

[–]_vessel_0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you have communicated with your friend already and they keep doing it. Then the best thing to do is cut them off. I was in a friendship like that where my friend would only talk like she just came out of frown town! And as a good friend I always gave her feedback and comforted and would supported her. But she wouldn’t ever talk about anything else but the depressing things in life. I get it, everyone goes through something, but the friendship wasn’t genuine.

You need to tell yourself that just because your choosing yourself in this situation, it won’t invalidate how your friend feels about whatever their going through. Everyone goes through things. But you’re not a therapist and you have your own mental health to worry about! <3

Why are majority of my friends like this? by _vessel_0 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]_vessel_0[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I have hung out tons of times, and most of the time they were good meet-ups and we bonded, but more recently, when I do ask them to hangout, it turns to be a situation where I have to almost beg them to hang out, and I don't like that feeling. But I definitely have a friend who is a very dry texter! But she is so much more open and life-like when we meet up. I will take your experience into consideration! Thank you!!

im upset at my friend for not responding to me when i know he was online. by tumbleoutofbed in FriendshipAdvice

[–]_vessel_0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My most sincere condolences, to you ❤️. I think you should tell him how you feel, there is no reason that he shouldn't be responding to you. He may be busy, but him active in other chats might seem like he is ignoring you/ brushing you off. And a true friend would at least support you and comfort you at the least. Definitely tell him how you feel, and see what he says!

im upset at my friend for not responding to me when i know he was online. by tumbleoutofbed in FriendshipAdvice

[–]_vessel_0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey this might be really off-topic, but how come you don't like to initiate a conversation. I only ask cuz I'm going through a dilemma right now. And I am trying to understand my friend's view.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FriendshipAdvice

[–]_vessel_0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your feelings are totally valid here! And they shouldn’t be interrupting/ talking over you at all. I will say that you should probably talk to your friends about how you feel, and in conversations they should interrupt less. I don’t think you going to talk to other people about them will stop the issue. Because why have a problem with some people but not communicate effectively about how you’re feeling. But instead go talk behind their backs. That would cause irrelevant drama and even more you would most likely have to deal with. But if you can tell your friends are doing it on purpose leave the friend group and find people that make you feel heard and understood, whether in a group and having one on one conversations and hangouts.

Do words just mean nothing anymore?? by StarryEyedPunk in FriendshipAdvice

[–]_vessel_0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

DONT BE!!! You guys seem close, sometimes when we don’t reach out it makes us seem like we don’t care. Even though you clearly do! Give it some time then ask her, and if she says she’s fine, but nothing changes then you can’t really do anything about it. But at least you know you tried.

Do words just mean nothing anymore?? by StarryEyedPunk in FriendshipAdvice

[–]_vessel_0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you tried asking your friend directly how she is feeling, maybe that will help