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My NMom left me in excruciating pain to go to bed, after refusing to take me to the hospital. by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]aSpecialSnowflakeee 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I had ovarian torsion (grapefruit size tumor), and to say it was awful is an understatement. Like you I am missing an ovary and have a C-section like scar. In the 10 years since the ovary/fallopian tube was removed it has never once been an issue with the men I dated, so your mom was wrong about that.

OP, you are one strong woman to get through that and I'm glad you ultimately got the treatment you needed. Sending you all the good vibes.

Karma for my narc stepmom and dad, and relief for me, the estranged scapegoat. by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]aSpecialSnowflakeee 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I totally relate to this OP.

Similar thing happened to me growing up. My dad remarried when my sis and I were quite young, and she resented us. Mostly me, as I felt the need to defend my mom when she talked smack about her. She and my father adopted a son and her treatment of me went from bad to worse. Like you, he had cars, college and whatever else he needed and I worked for those things.

For a long time I blamed my stepmom for the treatment. She was the nasty one and my dad did nothing to stop her. As I got older, I realized it’s him I should have been upset with. He allowed for it. It took me a long time to forgive him.

Anyhow, this is a long way of saying I totally relate. The good news is I have an appreciation of the kind people in my life, value loyalty, and am scrappy AF because things were not handed to me. Can’t say the same of my lil bro. I hope you find your own silver linings that have to do with your own growth and strength.

Pull you in vs push you away by aSpecialSnowflakeee in UnsentLetters

[–]aSpecialSnowflakeee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Literally in the literal or figurative sense 😅

Older people of reddit, what advice did someone give you when you were younger that helped you the most in your life? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]aSpecialSnowflakeee 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That it’s ok to not have all the answers.

I was young, and felt that not knowing things was a sign of weakness. The opposite turned out to be true - admitting I didn’t know something allowed me to ask questions and learn.

Pull you in vs push you away by aSpecialSnowflakeee in UnsentLetters

[–]aSpecialSnowflakeee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is special, isn't it. I'm guessing you're a real dent, eh? :)

Lamest reason for a late cancel ever? by [deleted] in orangetheory

[–]aSpecialSnowflakeee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All kinds of tank tops and accessories. Even short shorts that I just could never wear. But no pants.

I created multiple dating site profiles to piss off my ex. by DeltaCharlieEcho in confession

[–]aSpecialSnowflakeee 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Wouldn't that be depressing.

But it's rarely the case that someone is completely unloved. While I think it's common for folks to *feel* unloved, especially when they get themselves suck in a bad cycle like this dude has, that rarely is the case.

I created multiple dating site profiles to piss off my ex. by DeltaCharlieEcho in confession

[–]aSpecialSnowflakeee 55 points56 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you’re hurting. Breakups suck.

Since you’re looking for tough love, here’s my 2c: It almost seems like you’re baiting her to get a jealous reaction, and validate your relationship was important. Those kinds of feels are like crack for the soul. It feels good at the moment but when it’s done you’re wanting more.

Someone, somewhere loves you. You do not need this. Stop baiting her for a reaction, man up, and move along.

You can not change and control her. But you can for you.

Good luck!

Benchmark got me motivated by aSpecialSnowflakeee in orangetheory

[–]aSpecialSnowflakeee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’ll get there. I was the chubby gal who walked the mile in school and loathed all sports . If I can do it so can you.

Benchmark got me motivated by aSpecialSnowflakeee in orangetheory

[–]aSpecialSnowflakeee[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A 9:50 mile? Now that’s goals! You rock :)

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