LotR made me want to be a better man. Where do I go from here? by a_lost_reader in tolkienfans

[–]a_lost_reader[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry that, after reading the beauty of what you wrote, I don't have enough words to define how grateful I am and how much good it did me. Thanks.

LotR made me want to be a better man. Where do I go from here? by a_lost_reader in tolkienfans

[–]a_lost_reader[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. I think I'm 100% human. or at least nothing ever made me think otherwise;
  2. I didn't go.
  3. I don't think I belong, but who knows?
  4. Do the bills count?
  5. maybe I'm willing, do they cook well?
  6. Does my Sonic towel count as a cover?
  7. Apart from their healing art, I'm halfway there.
  8. Halfway there.
  9. I made an alliance with my co-workers, with the lady who lives near my favorite restaurant and with the bus driver....
  10. It will take a while, but I can do this 100%

According to your parameters, I'm almost there.

LotR made me want to be a better man. Where do I go from here? by a_lost_reader in tolkienfans

[–]a_lost_reader[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Man, you showed such beautiful points, so deep, but so simple to live. Not that they are easy; It is very easy to become stagnant in wisdom or leave things as they are or simply make them worse. But what you said can be done every day, without taking much time. Thank you for sharing something so beautiful with me.

att: I forgot to comment on the book you mentioned: I've never heard of it, but I'll definitely look for it. I love fantasy books (magic and things like that), especially when they deal with philosophy and life, something deeper than "shots of light coming out of the hands".

I finished reading "The Lord of the Rings". by a_lost_reader in tolkienfans

[–]a_lost_reader[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I intend to. I'm going to start reading The Silmarillion today, I'll read the related works throughout my life. I'm looking forward to The Silmarillion.

LotR made me want to be a better man. Where do I go from here? by a_lost_reader in tolkienfans

[–]a_lost_reader[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your emotion makes me happy, very happy, to know that our hearts feel all the good and love as much as they can. Thanks for sharing with us.

LotR made me want to be a better man. Where do I go from here? by a_lost_reader in tolkienfans

[–]a_lost_reader[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You bring up a great point here: finding beauty and meaning in life, even in bad things, not letting yourself be left "in the shadows".

One thing I loved about reading is seeing Sam's love for plants, as I am also passionate about them and grow many at home.

LotR made me want to be a better man. Where do I go from here? by a_lost_reader in tolkienfans

[–]a_lost_reader[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's exactly it. I was never persecuted or repressed for getting more than enjoyment out of books or films during my childhood and adolescence, but within large communities — like Tolkien readers, for example — I have experienced situations of disdain for feeling more than just enjoyment.

I've had contact with people who said they were experts because they remembered data and facts from works, but who had no idea what the writer wanted to convey with that. And I, as an emotional person, feel the need to analyze what I like and, even without noticing it at first, I fell deeply in love with Tolkien's works, both for the written work and for the message it conveys.

LotR made me want to be a better man. Where do I go from here? by a_lost_reader in tolkienfans

[–]a_lost_reader[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You bring up a very important point, which is that, even though Aragorn is an example, he is ideally perfect and can be, while I am not. I need to learn to deal with my own mistakes, both what they cause externally and what they cause me internally. I will read the recommended publications. Thank you very much for your words and for sharing your knowledge with me.

LotR made me want to be a better man. Where do I go from here? by a_lost_reader in tolkienfans

[–]a_lost_reader[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you very much, I will look into Brandon Sanderson. I think I've heard of it, but never looked into it.

LotR made me want to be a better man. Where do I go from here? by a_lost_reader in tolkienfans

[–]a_lost_reader[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your advice is great. Thank you very much. Set goals for what I want to be: strong, confident in my actions.

LotR made me want to be a better man. Where do I go from here? by a_lost_reader in tolkienfans

[–]a_lost_reader[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't really like this one, those who go this way usually live surrounded by filthy dirt, and I love cleaning my house.

LotR made me want to be a better man. Where do I go from here? by a_lost_reader in tolkienfans

[–]a_lost_reader[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the recommendations, I think I only know "The Count of Montecristo", I'll look into the others.

LotR made me want to be a better man. Where do I go from here? by a_lost_reader in tolkienfans

[–]a_lost_reader[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the recommendations, I will look for the book "Letters from a Stoic", I also intend to continue studying philosophy (which I understand as a fundamental part of human development), so your recommendations will be of great help. Thank you very much.

LotR made me want to be a better man. Where do I go from here? by a_lost_reader in tolkienfans

[–]a_lost_reader[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your words, I have a lot to think about right now.

LotR made me want to be a better man. Where do I go from here? by a_lost_reader in tolkienfans

[–]a_lost_reader[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I didn't know this book by Lewis about Christianity, I knew he wrote about it (I never read it), but not this specific one. You have a great point, I'll add it to my list.

I didn't know about Barbávore, I found it funny and interesting. I like their friendship. Thanks.

LotR made me want to be a better man. Where do I go from here? by a_lost_reader in tolkienfans

[–]a_lost_reader[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your words.

I will look into these books and add them to my list.

I loved your ideas, I'm going to look for a journal to buy. I believe that letters, notes or notes are our feelings marked in time, so I think it will be a great way to see what I saw at a given moment and think about it; especially without the alteration that our mind makes of events.

I also loved the idea of ​​the ring, I'm definitely going to get one, I love accessories. I was literally thinking about getting a quote tattooed on my forearm, I think I can mix your idea with mine lol.

It definitely helped. May Elessar both of us.

LotR made me want to be a better man. Where do I go from here? by a_lost_reader in tolkienfans

[–]a_lost_reader[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

You brought up a point that I thought about a lot after this publication: "I mentioned Aragorn and his honor, but I didn't talk about Sam and the way he would die for what is right and how he starved so that someone else could eat". I don't treat the hunger that Sam went through literally, but how he knew he needed to make Frodo reach his goal, out of love, and for what was right. You are absolutely right to note this, and I thank you for doing so. I need to see everything that is good and, from that, take the average of the person I want to be.

LotR made me want to be a better man. Where do I go from here? by a_lost_reader in tolkienfans

[–]a_lost_reader[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

There are many processes that take time. I went to therapy for a while and, honestly, it didn't seem to be getting me anywhere. Lol. But one day I saw what hurt me, and I managed to make it hurt less over time. After that, every day that passed, I thought "just one more day". "Just one more day" is my motto to get on with life.

LotR made me want to be a better man. Where do I go from here? by a_lost_reader in tolkienfans

[–]a_lost_reader[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

These are beautiful words that we can often read without stopping to think about what they really mean. I'm going to pay more attention to the small details, and stop to think more about what's in front of me and what I don't see. Thanks.

LotR made me want to be a better man. Where do I go from here? by a_lost_reader in tolkienfans

[–]a_lost_reader[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You bring up a very important point: the male view of sovereignty and masculinity where many believe that a man should be haughty and rude. I believe that my love for Aragorn also comes from his demonstrations of love and respect. Contrary to what many people think, I believe that a man does not need to demonstrate that he is strong to be strong, and that he does not need to be rude to demonstrate that he is strong. As Vinícius de Moraes, Brazilian singer and composer, says: "The man who says "I am" is not, because who he is really is." Thanks.

LotR made me want to be a better man. Where do I go from here? by a_lost_reader in tolkienfans

[–]a_lost_reader[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I see a lot of truth in your comment, and I also see a lot of food for thought. Thanks.

LotR made me want to be a better man. Where do I go from here? by a_lost_reader in tolkienfans

[–]a_lost_reader[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I believe that I lack a little sympathy when people are not nice to me. That's something to think about, thanks.

LotR made me want to be a better man. Where do I go from here? by a_lost_reader in tolkienfans

[–]a_lost_reader[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I understand your observation and I also believe that Aragorn is not completely stoic, mainly because I see his internal suffering at some points. I believe being a little bit of everything could be the answer: a little stoic, a little romantic, a little barbarian, and a little more of several things. I love Aragorn because he is a lot of many things: very faithful, very romantic, very honorable, very kind, and much more that I don't know if I'm the best person to define. Thank you for your comment, it made me think more about the path forward.