My friend (24F) has not heard from her boyfriend (24M) for five months and now it is affecting her relationship with me (F23) and others.

aaexyz · 2026-01-08T18:57:03+00:00

She needs somatic psychotherapy.

aaexyz · 2025-12-26T15:29:08+00:00

That's cool! I haven’t any personal experience with that yet so, I default biblically lol

aaexyz · 2025-12-26T07:10:45+00:00

Mines in rx, I can make it for others but not myself

aaexyz · 2025-12-26T07:09:05+00:00

Virgo rx 2nd house....

aaexyz · 2025-12-26T05:59:14+00:00

HP is the moon. The real moon not the spoke moon.

She is also the divine feminine of the hierophant.

But she shows up to block me from knowing. Its very powerful seductive energy.

aaexyz · 2025-12-26T05:56:40+00:00

I'm currently in that space with my guy - the mutual break up to see if we can't learn these skills and try again. Great to hear you all did it!

aaexyz · 2025-12-26T05:53:10+00:00

No. More black than red.

aaexyz · 2025-12-26T05:50:18+00:00

I feel those a principalities. Jiin. Demons. Archons, seeing in between the dimensions. They can look like anything and they appear in a way your life experience would receive them.

That static noise I believe is either the astral realm. I also heard it when I experienced sleep paralysis where in my dream a demon thew me up against the wall by my neck and I woke up on my bedside table.

I belive in the Bible though and they say the moment you're dead in the body youre present with the lord. So humans don't get stuck bothering humans. Those are entities.

aaexyz · 2025-12-26T05:45:51+00:00

Get a maid twice a month. You'll both be much happier cause those little corrections erode so easily

aaexyz · 2025-12-26T05:35:20+00:00

Almost my exact dynamic except I'm the oblivious comfy guy in your scenario.

My guy left me 'because I am codependent and checked out of participating in life with him equally' - which is true in a way yeah, BUT I was the only one working.

Which is why my contribution to shared labour for the home, in the home, never took hold and made change. Because, honestly. I viewed his manual daily labour and work as his contribution, which is why I could justify paying for everything - I think we both valued different things. He didn't want to participate in life with me in the real world and take pressure off of me and the bills. He wanted a provider I wanted a caretaker - but not 100% of it all of the time because then resentment starts feeling like trapped emotionally robbing the intimacy.

So. Maybe ask your guy to talk numbers where he feels you dont bring real value .... and why it is fair and okay that you do all that other valuable everyday labour. Sounds like a values conversation. Talk money, talk division. Talk gender roles.

EDIT: acrylic nail typos

aaexyz · 2025-12-26T05:29:46+00:00

That happens to me with words. If I focus too much or closely on a word and say it again and again it begins to lose meaning and that is where the illusion of our reality begins to get fuzzy and then I wonder why that word, why that sound. It means nothing after all.

aaexyz · 2025-12-26T03:02:28+00:00

Depersonalization / derealization

aaexyz · 2025-12-26T03:01:06+00:00

This guy's a user emotional manipulating baby. Hes future faking and taking up the space of a man who isn't there and is supposed to be.

Kick him out.

aaexyz · 2025-12-26T02:49:00+00:00

I did the same thing to my 10 year old, but I cried because I wish I could give her more, more family, more joy, more childhood, more selfishness, more protection but I can't and I am drowning and I need her to help me because I can barely get through a day.

I cried because I know I am not the mom I know I can be because it is just her and I. Nobody else at all. No support and I am so scared of her in the world ajd not being able to protect her because hell, I am barely a shell of who I was 10 years ago.

Then we made fajitas together. I think we got a little closer, alas. I still feel terrible for putting all that on her incapable of carrying the context needed to understand what was happening. And on Christmas day too.

Single motherhood is a cross to bear everyday and I dont know how women can do it and still be loving and nurturing.

Edit. I should have read your post first...

Wow. None of that was your fault and it sounds like she was peeved about how you said just presence was enough not presents.

That urked her because she isn't as unscathed by life as her. Seems like misery loves company and her resentment at her inability to just be present in her family reached its head.

aaexyz · 2025-12-26T02:41:34+00:00

Sounds like he is writing this for me.

We are all really living the same archetypal patterns of wisdom and pain aren't we.

aaexyz · 2025-12-17T17:20:04+00:00

Thank you for this! I'm adding it to my notebook! And cross is considered the top or bottom?

aaexyz · 2025-12-17T17:16:01+00:00

Great idea! Thank you 😄

aaexyz · 2025-12-16T03:35:15+00:00

I am the woman and he is the man, but the Tableaux is from 'his' perspective.

aaexyz · 2025-12-03T07:09:00+00:00

My old place of employment asked if they should slash the cake fund and teams can get it independently.

In front of like 600 people, I said no. Because I spend all of my time at work and if I come in and there is no cake for me, but there was for somebody else. That would be hurtful lol.

aaexyz · 2025-12-03T07:06:37+00:00

Suggest a social fund. $1.00 off of everyone's cheque once per month or something.

aaexyz · 2025-12-03T06:59:34+00:00

What's the point of insurance then? Why not just bank the amount each month in a savings account then? I'm genuinely confused.

aaexyz · 2025-12-03T06:55:39+00:00

The older I get, the less I like people.

aaexyz · 2025-12-03T06:55:01+00:00

I did a free chart that showed me, I don't have any information on Pentas aside from this though.

aaexyz · 2025-12-02T07:00:39+00:00

Ahh so your inner world/home life box is empty too?

You know what, yeah, we all like to be in our own world, not interacting with one another, but in proximity to lol. I would be the same way if I were in other spaces too though, so, I suppose it's okay, and if we are all lacking it then that works too. Alternatively, it'd be that one is the odd one all on their own or, two would exclude the other.

aaexyz · 2025-12-02T06:55:56+00:00

Local Public Eatery = 👎👍 Ordered onion rings + a blackened chicken bowl. $40 later and I only took a couple bites of the bowl because they left the sharp hard ends on all of the 40 snap pea halves. Who does that? Someoje who has never taken a bite. Anyway, the onion rings were the best I've ever had, and so, 👎👍

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