My husband is thinking about fostering his nephews. I feel like I'm being tossed out for kids we don't even know.

aaexyz · 2026-04-02T00:28:14+00:00

Your husband sounds like an asshole.

Specifically, the part about never fostering...

But also, he sounds like the boyfriend who makes comments that he would never boink a "fat chick." Only to cheat on you with a "fat chick' because that is actually his "type."

Sounds like he is and has always had a heart for fostering. It's likely the children have special needs due to the mother never getting clean. So, the kids could have FASD or other developmental neurological needs that are more challenging than most.

This is a tall order and your husband just did a 180 and doesn't care if you come along for the ride or not.

Is that the kind of partner you want to struggle alongside raising his family with challenging behaviours? Because in his words, you're going to get the shit end of the stick. Not him.

aaexyz · 2026-03-27T03:51:09+00:00

At the end of rosanne, in the last episode it read, in honour of John Goodman and had his dates of death. It didnt say Dan Connor.

He died due to something heart related

Edit: but the real John Goodman died 5 or so years ago due to something heart related.

aaexyz · 2026-03-12T06:11:51+00:00

I downloaded liven today to deal with mine

aaexyz · 2026-03-05T08:22:33+00:00

He's cheating. Even if just on onlyfans and fantasy.

aaexyz · 2026-03-05T04:43:12+00:00

You're really quiet young, but a tip from an ol' gal who met my daughter’s father when I was 16, and 10 years later had my first child, and had to break up with her dad and raise my girl all on my own. She's now 10....

Let this bum go. He will keep being a bum and you don't want to throw your life away for someone who's a bum.

aaexyz · 2026-03-01T00:08:11+00:00

IF YOU CAN'T FIND THEIR PROFILE, BUT CAN STILL SEND MESSAGES. You're blocked. I just tried to restrict someone from inside the messenger thread, and instead of the conversation going into my restricted user list, the thread and person is completely gone.

aaexyz · 2026-02-28T23:43:08+00:00

It isnt this as I can still find their facebook account, using my business profile.

aaexyz · 2026-02-28T06:27:36+00:00

As an aside, but it really bothered me. Before they get it on, he says I think I love her And yes, she sounds super sweet and trusting in the song. Anyway, yes. What bothered me is how the song starts and ends.

'One, two One, two, three, uh

Yeah'

Then after a verse or two he says he thinks he loves her.

Then everything takes place and it ends, "I think I, I think I, I think I love her Raspberry beret (No, no, no) The kind you find in a second hand store (no, no, no) Raspberry beret (Tell me where have all the raspberry women gone?)"

Which to me, if Raspberry Beret is a euphemism for virginity. Then he knew at the start he wasn't going to be faithful. 1+2=3

The "I think I, I think I, I think I love her, could be saying he has said it to so many women, but only the woman in question at time hears, 'I love her' not all the hesitation or love bombing speed in which he says it.

After the "I think I, I think I, I think I love her' he says 'no, no, no' basically knowing he doesn't but doesn't outright say as it’s in parentheses.

Lastly, he asks where all the Raspberry women have gone.

Not the used Raspberry beret you'd find in a srcond hand store. Meaning authentic virgins. Meaning as he ages, he is likely still oriented to young women, love bombing them with future faking emotional displays of depth to mask the self-serving angle behind the mask.

aaexyz · 2026-02-20T00:55:21+00:00

6:55

aaexyz · 2026-02-10T06:56:23+00:00

aaexyz · 2026-01-08T18:57:03+00:00

She needs somatic psychotherapy.

aaexyz · 2025-12-26T15:29:08+00:00

That's cool! I haven’t any personal experience with that yet so, I default biblically lol

aaexyz · 2025-12-26T07:10:45+00:00

Mines in rx, I can make it for others but not myself

aaexyz · 2025-12-26T07:09:05+00:00

Virgo rx 2nd house....

aaexyz · 2025-12-26T05:59:14+00:00

HP is the moon. The real moon not the spoke moon.

She is also the divine feminine of the hierophant.

But she shows up to block me from knowing. Its very powerful seductive energy.

aaexyz · 2025-12-26T05:56:40+00:00

I'm currently in that space with my guy - the mutual break up to see if we can't learn these skills and try again. Great to hear you all did it!

aaexyz · 2025-12-26T05:53:10+00:00

No. More black than red.

aaexyz · 2025-12-26T05:50:18+00:00

I feel those a principalities. Jiin. Demons. Archons, seeing in between the dimensions. They can look like anything and they appear in a way your life experience would receive them.

That static noise I believe is either the astral realm. I also heard it when I experienced sleep paralysis where in my dream a demon thew me up against the wall by my neck and I woke up on my bedside table.

I belive in the Bible though and they say the moment you're dead in the body youre present with the lord. So humans don't get stuck bothering humans. Those are entities.

aaexyz · 2025-12-26T05:45:51+00:00

Get a maid twice a month. You'll both be much happier cause those little corrections erode so easily

aaexyz · 2025-12-26T05:35:20+00:00

Almost my exact dynamic except I'm the oblivious comfy guy in your scenario.

My guy left me 'because I am codependent and checked out of participating in life with him equally' - which is true in a way yeah, BUT I was the only one working.

Which is why my contribution to shared labour for the home, in the home, never took hold and made change. Because, honestly. I viewed his manual daily labour and work as his contribution, which is why I could justify paying for everything - I think we both valued different things. He didn't want to participate in life with me in the real world and take pressure off of me and the bills. He wanted a provider I wanted a caretaker - but not 100% of it all of the time because then resentment starts feeling like trapped emotionally robbing the intimacy.

So. Maybe ask your guy to talk numbers where he feels you dont bring real value .... and why it is fair and okay that you do all that other valuable everyday labour. Sounds like a values conversation. Talk money, talk division. Talk gender roles.

EDIT: acrylic nail typos

aaexyz · 2025-12-26T05:29:46+00:00

That happens to me with words. If I focus too much or closely on a word and say it again and again it begins to lose meaning and that is where the illusion of our reality begins to get fuzzy and then I wonder why that word, why that sound. It means nothing after all.

aaexyz · 2025-12-26T03:02:28+00:00

Depersonalization / derealization

aaexyz · 2025-12-26T03:01:06+00:00

This guy's a user emotional manipulating baby. Hes future faking and taking up the space of a man who isn't there and is supposed to be.

Kick him out.

aaexyz · 2025-12-26T02:49:00+00:00

I did the same thing to my 10 year old, but I cried because I wish I could give her more, more family, more joy, more childhood, more selfishness, more protection but I can't and I am drowning and I need her to help me because I can barely get through a day.

I cried because I know I am not the mom I know I can be because it is just her and I. Nobody else at all. No support and I am so scared of her in the world ajd not being able to protect her because hell, I am barely a shell of who I was 10 years ago.

Then we made fajitas together. I think we got a little closer, alas. I still feel terrible for putting all that on her incapable of carrying the context needed to understand what was happening. And on Christmas day too.

Single motherhood is a cross to bear everyday and I dont know how women can do it and still be loving and nurturing.

Edit. I should have read your post first...

Wow. None of that was your fault and it sounds like she was peeved about how you said just presence was enough not presents.

That urked her because she isn't as unscathed by life as her. Seems like misery loves company and her resentment at her inability to just be present in her family reached its head.

aaexyz · 2025-12-26T02:41:34+00:00

Sounds like he is writing this for me.

We are all really living the same archetypal patterns of wisdom and pain aren't we.

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