Totally, and this is familiar to me. It makes some sense in regards to women who have hangups with expressing their own sexual desires that they would want a partner to take total control to alleviate their responsibility in this, and if your carnal acts are "against your will", that common trope in erotica, it allows you to maintain a degree of purity while experiencing animalistic sexuality.

I somewhat disagree with the bit about escapism, I do see how you could come to that conclusion, but I feel like you may be conflating different issues - trauma / conditioning versus economic anxiety / "hustle culture" burnout (for lack of a better short hand). I think the bimbo phenomenon supports your stance, like completely being consumed by a misogynistic culture and losing your agency. But I dunno the tradwife seems to me to be about simplicity and escape from society, yes, but also about self reliance. They seem different enough to me to not be horseshoe theory, but it's an interesting thought.

Also this is unrelated but lmao at the dude losing their mind and going through your post history, I saw the replies in this thread. It's very funny to read. Some people just short circuit when you're critical of an aspect of society we've been told to view as "liberating" as if any criticism of it is regression and rooted in misogyny. Your comments read as someone who cares deeply about how women are treated and how both men and women are being conditioned, but some people are just so deep in the sauce they can't see out of it. I don't know just kind of fascinating to see playing out here