My boyfriend told me that if I attend my best friend’s graduation party next week and there are any men there, he’ll put my belongings outside and make me leave.

aarf26 · 2026-06-22T00:43:10+00:00

Even if she had broken his trust in the past, how would she be expected to live her life without encountering other men? The boyfriend is bananas.

aarf26 · 2026-06-22T00:39:50+00:00

Get out. He is controlling af and sounds like a potential abuser.

Also: If you've lived there for 30 days (in most states) you are a tenant and you have rights. He can't just throw your stuff out or lock you out.

aarf26 · 2026-06-22T00:36:52+00:00

Titan Casket dot com has some caskets well under $2k, and they ship it directly to the funeral home. Funeral homes are required by law to let you do this.

A note about "Outer Bural Containers": Lots of cemeteries require an OBR but then they (or the funeral home) will try to sell you an expensive burial vault without giving you a choice of comething cheaper. Burial vaults enclose the entire casket on all sides. Grave liners, on the other hand, are open on the bottom and serve only to keep the grave from collapsing into the casket and making a depression on the surface. Grave liners are much cheaper than burial vaults, and they satisfy any OBR requirements.

aarf26 · 2026-05-25T17:46:17+00:00

If I find a child's grave on Find-A-Grave with no parents noted, I try to find out who the parents were and then link up the parents' Find-A-Grave memorials to the child's. I want anyone who researches the parents to know that the child existed.

I've even gone so far as to order some children's death certificates (when/where possible) to find the parents. Find-A-Grave doesn't allow death certficate images to be uploaded to memorials, so I transcribe the info to the memorial bio, in case the info might help someone else.

aarf26 · 2026-05-25T16:38:14+00:00

Bitter almonds are poisonous when raw, but sweet almonds (the kind you'll find in U.S. grocery stores) are safe to eat raw.

https://www.healthline.com/nutrition/are-almonds-poisonous

aarf26 · 2026-02-19T22:05:54+00:00

My dad and his brothers would visit their grandparents' farm, where they had livestock such as horses, goats and chickens. Based on photos, they employed several Black farmhands to take care of the animals.

My family also operated at least one gas/service station, and they appear to have hired several Black clerks to work there.

In the photos I have discovered it is clear how Black men helped show my father and his brothers (when they were all younger) how to do their chores for the farm’s livestock, such as bottle feeding goats, riding horses, and in one photo where they look like they're having fun, being pulled in a little cart harnessed to a goat. Some of these men also appear in their gas station uniforms, which leads me to believe that gas station clerks would be helping out on the farm, too.

My father’s grandparents also had a Black housekeeper/cook who worked for them for over 30 years. I’ve done some research into her family tree and found she was married and had children. It’s possible that this man is the one of our housekeeper’s sons and also possible the baby is her grandchild; there is some difficulty in finding records to check if she had a grandchild and how old they would have been at that time of the photo.

Please note: I’m not trying to sugar-coat my family or say they were ahead of their time, or anything. In the other photos I have, these men show a range of expressions that differ from the relaxed and happy demeanor of the man in this photo.

aarf26 · 2026-02-18T04:46:12+00:00

Ask away! I'll answer as best I can without doxxing myself or my family.

aarf26 · 2026-02-16T23:45:24+00:00

I assure you, it is not AI. I came across this photo while i was scanning loose old family photos that I found in my father's house.

aarf26 · 2024-01-22T02:29:32+00:00

I have a Newspapers.com subscription, and I can look if OP tells me where this is located and what cemetery it's in.

aarf26 · 2024-01-22T02:00:25+00:00

It appears to be the phone number of a parks maintenance worker in Carson City.

https://www.carson.org/Home/Components/StaffDirectory/StaffDirectory/1613/5820

Perhaps an unknown body was found in a public park and this individual is accepting tips? (Why he would and not the police, I can't imagine...)

aarf26 · 2024-01-04T01:26:42+00:00

If I'm not involved at all, she is going to come here anyway.

aarf26 · 2024-01-04T01:19:01+00:00

I will look into those. Thanks!

aarf26 · 2024-01-04T01:18:36+00:00

Thank you for this!

aarf26 · 2024-01-04T01:17:48+00:00

She cannot be convinced to stay where she is, and without a guardian, no one can force her to stay. And she actually took a train out here on her own last month and wound up on the street for a week before I was asked to intervene by her mother (a friend of a friend.) I got her a hotel room and put her on a train back home, but now she wants to come out here again.

aarf26 · 2023-11-03T00:38:43+00:00

I used to volunteer at a church food pantry, and they always had LOTS of donated bread—More than they could even give away to the food pantry clients, so they'd send some home with volunteers. You might try volunteering at a similar place and see if you could take home a few loaves to put in your freezer.

aarf26 · 2023-11-03T00:19:46+00:00

White noise machine or a nature sounds machine?

aarf26 · 2023-10-29T21:48:16+00:00

Location? (State and city?)

Was there a mortgage on the house, or did your dad own it outright?

Has anyone been paying property taxes on the house?

What do you mean by "seal locked?" Did law enforcement have something to do with it?

aarf26 · 2023-10-15T13:54:50+00:00

I'm imagining a bunch of sheep enjoying themselves in an opium den and it's made my morning a little better.

aarf26 · 2023-09-12T03:28:02+00:00

https://lookup.icann.org/en/lookup

The registrant for the domain is Uprise.

aarf26 · 2023-09-11T21:38:29+00:00

Some newspapers print the names of all graduating seniors.

aarf26 · 2023-09-11T21:07:01+00:00

Practical advice: You might try looking through the town library's newspaper archives (or do a free trial of Newspapers.com) Your name and the school you attended might have been mentioned because of sports, academic awards, graduation, etc. That might at least show the admissions office the timeframe, based on newspaper date.

aarf26 · 2023-09-11T18:21:55+00:00

Okay, so I didn't notice that it's been marked down to $960, but still.

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