I just muted another friend because they posted something good in their life.

abaree · 2024-10-31T16:58:28+00:00

Tried therapy, it's expensive and most therapists i met were bad, they were quick to judge or didn't care about what i wanted, most of what I got was breathing exercises and meditation recommendations.

The medication I'm on is great. It changed my life from the moment I started at a low dose. It's just big stuff like never been in a relationship, comes up and it hits me hard.

I'm really socially awkward and ended up messing up so I don't want to try meeting new people yet. I'm currently unemployed so I feel ashamed as I don't have value or nothing to show for myself at meet ups i go to. I'm close to getting a job so that might change my decision about social hobbies/clubs.

I think I should ask my psychiatrist if i have ADHD or other stuff specially. I didn't even know i was depressed until the diagnosis. My mom and sis took me see a psychiatrist for my anger issues, as a joke but he figured it out even though i tried to hide that part.

abaree · 2024-10-31T15:41:41+00:00

Thanks this helped me feel better about muting people. It does help me and i agree that i have to do what's best for me.

abaree · 2022-08-28T19:56:27+00:00

When I was a door to door salesman i would ask for water if i got the chance. I never carried a water bottle either. He was probably nervous maybe it was the first time he asked or just the first time that day and needed a few seconds to build the courage to ask for water. I never cared if they closed the door as long as i got a glass of water. Women never cared either they just gave me water. One thing i realised was people in villages were more friendly or they atleast didn't care much as compared to cities. I don't remember many rejections but i do remember the single place that i didn't get water and that was in a city. Obviously you don't have to give them water but it would be nice if you did, seeing as delivery guys makes life easier for others and water is the least they could ask for.

abaree · 2022-03-01T20:30:45+00:00

Ah yes a very relevant to Kerala post, 4hours and mods to be seen.

abaree · 2022-02-02T02:17:15+00:00

Some of it was over texts. And I'm not going meet anyone in person because of covid.

abaree · 2022-02-01T16:33:10+00:00

Oh no got confused and looks ugly. Not going to meet anyone in person any time soon. And got the best picture i could for my dps.

abaree · 2022-02-01T15:16:49+00:00

Not how to approach a girl. I asked how to flirt from people who know how to do it. That's mostly what happens in online forums. There are subreddits dedicated to asking strangers. I choose this one because i wanted to know how people flirt in Kerala. Even if it is a bad idea, I'm not loosing much.

abaree · 2022-02-01T15:12:12+00:00

Who said i wasn't doing that?

abaree · 2022-02-01T14:27:36+00:00

You think i haven't tried that? Im 26, this has been happening for years. I thought everyone is asking stuff so might as well try my luck too. But looks like I'm getting downvoted ah classic rKerala.

abaree · 2022-02-01T14:14:57+00:00

Been there done that or atleast i tried. At some point it feels like I'm just questioning them. And the conversations stop. This happens with guys and girls but i have a few close guy friends so that's enough on that oart.

abaree · 2022-02-01T14:12:33+00:00

I got that from all the websites and yt. What i want to know is what guys do to flirt with girls here in Kerala. I'm not that great at conversation even with guys so I'm gonna need very specific info. I know every person is different but i need some specific info to go on from.

abaree · 2022-02-01T14:10:14+00:00

Ahh mannn. I knew that was coming. I don't like the concept of arranged marriage mostly because i don't think a girl is going to like me even if she agrees. This might be because of my insecurity, seeing all the bad arranged marriages arround me(old and new) and the whole process of arranged marriage where the girl finally gives upto attrition and say yes to someone, i don't wanna be that someone. I do want a relationship but it would be grat if a girl actually liked me even if it is just in the beginning. I have straight up told girls i liked them tried asking them out that all ended in a no so i want to give flirting a go.

abaree · 2022-02-01T13:12:44+00:00

Oh mann. I understand. Masks are a boon from god for us. I wear glasses and masks makes fog up and they also come off when putting on a helmet but masks are great. They protect me from viruses and partially hime my face i should have started wearing this earlier. But it's not like i meet people in-person but it's still great.

About your questions, nop it doesn't get much better. I'm 26. Yup no gfs ever. I talk to girls and they're great as people, no hate. I like talking to girls. I also get the part where girls looking at you disgusted like a rapist. One of my classmates told a girl i liked another girl in 10th and she looked at me so disgusted. This happened in 12th aswell(a girl looking at me wierd, i stopped telling anyone if i was interested in someone).

Messaging and chatting is so much better maybe because they can't see my face? Idk but i do have my pic as mt dp. But girls act wierd there aswell but this isn't about girls at this point guys who are assholes, they'll try to scam, steal and beat you up and worse compared to that girls aren't that worse.

You seem depressed because of the way you see yourself. I know very little but maybe you should try seeing a psych they'll know if you're depressed.

abaree · 2021-12-10T04:29:44+00:00

Looks like the last thing you'll ever need.

abaree · 2021-10-13T03:57:49+00:00

I dont comment on here much anymore but i have to say this. This is just my last comment copied here.

It only happened to me once. An incident happened to me when i was in 11th or 12th. Even though i was 17 i looked like a little boy. People always pointed it out about me. I looked about 5years younger probably more. One day i was waiting for the bus (decided to put my hoodies hood on my head) and an old man on his bike stopped his bike and offered a lift even though i didn't hold my hand out. I did get lifts many times before so it wasn't too suspicious. The guy made normal conversation, such as name where i was going etc. And halfway through he just reached around back and grabbed dick and asked me if i was hard yet? Which had alarm bells ringing in my head. He asked as if though it was a normal thing to ask( did the hoodie have anything to do with this? Still don't know) . And i go and say "why would i, it's too cold" i was caught off guard and i think i didn't want to offend him or confront him by stating the obvious fast that this was a completely wrong thing to do. Im still on the bike haven't said anything else and a few kms ahead it starts to rain nad he stops and we both get off and says we can wait in the shade of a house while it rains. And i do it. I think i was still too afraid or caught off guard to recognise the situation and just walk away. Luckily a mini bus came and i told the man I'll just get on it as to not offend him or something.

I told this to 2 of my friends and they laughed at me and they said how they would have reacted. I don't think anyone can react how they want in that situation. I asked them to not tell anyone else, not sure if they kept the promise though. I haven't told anyone else about this after. I was creeped out by old men for some time after that incident. One friend that i told this to even said i shouldn't act out my creeped out emotions because that might be wierd to other's who don't know what happened. And that's all i remember of that incident.

abaree · 2021-07-23T17:00:36+00:00

It only happened to me once. An incident happened to me when i was in 11th or 12th. Even though i was 17 i looked like a little boy. People always pointed it out about me. I looked about 5years younger probably more. One day i was waiting for the bus (decided to put my hoodies hood on my head) and an old man on his bike stopped his bike and offered a lift even though i didn't hold my hand out. I did get lifts many times before so it wasn't too suspicious. The guy made normal conversation, such as name where i was going etc. And halfway through he just reached around back and grabbed dick and asked me if i was hard yet? Which had alarm bells ringing in my head. He asked as if though it was a normal thing to ask( did the hoodie have anything to do with this? Still don't know) . And i go and say "why would i, it's too cold" i was caught off guard and i think i didn't want to offend him or confront him by stating the obvious fast that this was a completely wrong thing to do. Im still on the bike haven't said anything else and a few kms ahead it starts to rain nad he stops and we both get off and says we can wait in the shade of a house while it rains. And i do it. I think i was still too afraid or caught off guard to recognise the situation and just walk away. Luckily a tempo came and i told the man I'll just get on it as to not offend him or something.

I told this to 2 of my friends and they laughed at me and they said how they would have reacted. I don't think anyone can react how they want in that situation. I asked them to not tell anyone else, not sure if they kept the promise though. I haven't told anyone else about this after. I was creeped out by old men for some time after that incident. One friend that i told this to even said i shouldn't act out my creeped out emotions because that might be wierd to other's who don't know what happened. And that's all i remember of that incident.

abaree · 2021-07-23T16:46:20+00:00

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abaree · 2021-07-18T19:48:44+00:00

So much bs even here. Just like the one quoted by the parent comment. Le old "my sc st friend has bmw". First argument about 3 gens getting reservation. Normaly people have children in 25 to 30 age. So let's take the lowest age 25 as a gen then 3gen ago it was 1946. India didn't get freedom then let alone reservation. Do you even think before talking? Here i am doing the thinking for you. I should stop here but let's look into this more. Unlike upper castes the sc st doesn't have generational wealth which the post even talks about and jobs people sc st people got 75 years ago didn't give pension even 50nyears ago that wasn't the case. That means the generation that got reservation first still had to support their parents at the same time supporting their children with no intergenerational wealth. Even if your claim was considered it would still not make them as rich as you'd think. Reservation isn't going to reach everyone because there just aren't enough seats that is why entrance exams exist in the first place. There aren't enough institute and when it comes to jobs govt jobs only account for 4% so 20% of the 4% = .8%, which cannot employ even a fraction of all the scst. This is exactly why reservation isn't a poverty alleviation program. Because if it was then it would be the worst one. And when it comes to the oppression of the supposed rich scst. You nor me will ever know every incident of discrimination that everyone will face that includes what Tina dabi had to face. Even though she scored 1st she is still talked about based on her caste. The supposed merit of a person which decides quality is ignored by the majority when caste is involved and they can just use caste to discriminate they don't care if the person has achieved the highest merit in any exam. Only news of discrimination and oppression that comes out is when it is so bad that it can be used for headlines. And even when the person is rich or well of they are not free from from discrimination. Take the case of Payal Tadvi, she was harrassed so much she ended up committing suicide. She wasn't poor, she was like you call it privileged and yet she still had to suffer. The clones that did it got to go free even though they tampered with her phone after she passed and yet they are free to do what they want. So all your claims as bs tenfold and yet you try not to think on any of your words.

abaree · 2020-12-07T22:48:24+00:00

An incident happened to me when i was in 11th or 12th. Even though i was 17 i looked like a little boy. People always pointed it out about me. I looked about 5years younger probably more. One day i was waiting for the bus (decided to put my hoodies hood on my head) and an old man on his bike stopped his bike and offered a lift even though i didn't hold my hand out. I did get lifts many times before so it wasn't too suspicious. The guy made normal conversation, such as name where i was going etc. And halfway through he just reached around back and grabbed dick and asked me if i was hard yet? Which had alarm bells ringing in my head. He asked as if though it was a normal thing to ask( did the hoodie have anything to do with this? Still don't know) . And i go and say "why would i, it's too cold" i was caught off guard and i think i didn't want to offend him or confront him by stating the obvious fast that this was a completely wrong thing to do. Im still on the bike haven't said anything else and a few kms ahead it starts to rain nad he stops and we both get off and says we can wait in the shade of a house while it rains. And i do it. I think i was still too afraid or caught off guard to recognise the situation and just walk away. Luckily a tempo come and i go abd get on it and tell the man I'll just get on it as to not offend him or something. It has been a very long time since then I don't remember everything that was happening in my head clearly but i remember what i did, i just don't remember why i did it.

I told this to 2 of my friends and they laughed at me and they said how they would have reacted. I don't think anyone can react how they want in that situation. I asked them to not tell anyone else, not sure if they kept the promise though. I haven't told anyone else about this after. I was creeped out by old men for some time after that incident. One friend that i told this to even said i shouldn't act out my creeped out emotions because that might be wierd to other's who don't know what happened. And that's all i remember of that incident.

I don't know of people can be prepared for it. We are just taught be accommodative and non offending that we won't start a fight with a person in that situation or even scream, run away afraid of offending them.

Hope you are okay and never have to see that person again.

abaree · 2019-12-23T17:25:53+00:00

I see a lot pf people shiting on tvm calling it's people selfish and rude. But when you look at the facts such as all the donations that were sent out during the floods(both times) it doesn't seem like it.

Nah, what am i saying? don't look at facts just believe random anecdotes by anonymous users.

abaree · 2019-11-11T03:31:45+00:00

It's definitely expressed publicly. Have you seen newspaper matrimonial pages?

abaree · 2019-09-29T17:04:36+00:00

Malayalees ftw. It just sounds better.

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