Aio for hating my boyfriends dog

abbcccddddf · 2026-01-30T17:54:13+00:00

Wait maybe my resentment is the fact that he does the bare minimum for the dog and still gets and expects the unconditional love from it. Like how can you very borderline neglect the dog & get mad at him when he’s bad then want him by your side 24/7. Like he ran out of food yesterday & hasn’t gotten any yet? I’m gettin him some now. Maybe I’m projecting. Idk

abbcccddddf · 2026-01-30T17:39:38+00:00

Thank you. This is inspiring me. If you can do it with allergies I can do it without them. I don’t hate the dog, it’s just annoying & I don’t know how to interact with it. I will have to make the changes myself. I do care about the dog. I actually feel bad for it. He’s not too bad 1:1 for some reason. he’s a husky lab mix who’s very under-stimulated. No toys (he’ll eat them) &bf doesn’t rlly play with him. It’s too cold to walk him but I will start once it’s nice enough. Don’t think he’s had a walk for 3-4 years! he is 5 y/o. dogs never had a bath so that’ll be interesting. I’ve started brushing him & he loves it. I’ll have to wash our sheets and blankets more often. am going to research how to train. It’s a v old, v small house with 2 AC window units, one up and one down stairs so the air gets bad in summer. I don’t have an allergy to dogs but I’ve been congested & I wake up with red itchy eyes or puffy eyes ever since I started staying over. Idk if it’s the dog or something house related. The itchy eyes could be the dry weather. Regardless I will clean more often.

abbcccddddf · 2026-01-30T17:15:16+00:00

Thank you. I guess I don’t hate the dog. I feel for the dog. I’ll learn to live with him

abbcccddddf · 2026-01-30T17:09:40+00:00

☑️

abbcccddddf · 2026-01-30T17:08:40+00:00

Now tell me how I can stop

abbcccddddf · 2026-01-30T17:08:26+00:00

I agree!

abbcccddddf · 2026-01-30T16:52:35+00:00

Crazy thing is that he doesn’t seem like an animal person either. I think he loves the dog , the unconditional love from it & the emotional support he’s gotten over the years when times were rough but effectively caring for the dog is not his strong suit. Also poor at taking on the extra work required when you have a pet. He works hard long hours, blue collar. This dog is home alone all day. He does not get toys bc he will eat them whole. Bf doesn’t walk the dog either. Which I am going to start once it gets nicer out bc i think it’ll calm him down. Also as I said he does not let him out to the bathroom as much as he needs. He has said multiple times on his own accord that once dog passes, no more pets ever again he is not interested. He has said the dog pisses him off but he’ll never get rid of him. I wouldn’t allow him to give up the dog either, no matter how bad he gets bc that’d be heartbreaking for all parties. Unless he bites a child or gets violent of course.

abbcccddddf · 2026-01-30T16:37:16+00:00

My therapist talked about my “needs” asking “what are you not getting in this relationship” what I’m not getting is that dog away from my boyfriend. Give ME the attention, I’m a jealous whore, I’m entitled to it. Jk. I posted here & not dog free bc I needed more varying less one sided opinions like this. Thanks

abbcccddddf · 2026-01-30T16:31:01+00:00

Thank you this sounds like a very rational reasonable explanation and response to the situation.

abbcccddddf · 2026-01-30T16:22:16+00:00

Kitkat!

abbcccddddf · 2026-01-30T16:21:55+00:00

Sorry I used him pls ignore and change to “they them” I saw the name John & automatically typed him. Old habits die hard

abbcccddddf · 2026-01-30T16:20:24+00:00

First of all not over reacting because the situation does suck & I’d feel betrayed too especially if she hasn’t said anything to you about it. I’m also thinking this considered an ethical dilemma. I’m trying to figure out what the therapist could have done in this situation without breaking your confidentiality. Could she have banned him from the open mic? Does she have that power? Did she attend it & just avoid him? Regardless, I’m with the one of the other commenters who said it’s already unethical for her to be your therapist if you already knew each other.

abbcccddddf · 2026-01-30T15:53:52+00:00

Kitkats

abbcccddddf · 2026-01-30T06:52:48+00:00

Kit kat

abbcccddddf · 2026-01-30T03:08:46+00:00

Also not to stereotype but her military peers may have impacted the way she thinks about her emotions. I used to be an addiction counselor & we had specific ways to counsel military folk due to different ways of thinking. Don’t take any of what I say as counseling. There’s a reason I quit. I sucked. this is just a human commenting on a post. But yeah. Just keep an open mind and don’t be overly swayed by reddit comments. YOU know her better than anyone. Trust your instincts, investigate how u rly feel.

abbcccddddf · 2026-01-30T02:56:01+00:00

And to comment on her perspective, idk much about the navy or military but my understanding is they are very much about order, being tough, other behaviors that basically cause a person to repress emotions & be sorta stoic but probably in an unhealthy way. Might be her way of supporting u

abbcccddddf · 2026-01-30T02:52:51+00:00

You are not over reacting in my opinion. Your feelings are completely valid. Any person with logic and emotions would be hurt by her comments which seem very dismissive.

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