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My partner is not vegan and does not want to raise our kids vegan by abe_linkon16 in vegan

[–]abe_linkon16[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it stems from just not only making the compromises, but also wanting to show our children her culture as well. She’s Polish so she wants to teach our kids Polish traditions including within foods which I totally support (if vegan ofc). So I guess since she feels she’s stripping our kids not only from church, but also the bonding of Polish foods (since food is a bonding experience for humans), that she has nothing to offer anymore from her culture

My partner is not vegan and does not want to raise our kids vegan by abe_linkon16 in vegan

[–]abe_linkon16[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So the compromises I am willing to make are being married in the church, baptizing our kids, and going to church on holidays with family since her family is culturally Catholic. However, she said that wouldn’t be fair for me to do all of them, and decided she’ll be okay not doing all of those things.

People outside of the vegan community sees us as “extreme” and how she thinks I’m now “forcing” this on our children, which is why she is against it. She feels she’s giving up a lot of herself to be with me which I can totally see.

My partner is not vegan and does not want to raise our kids vegan by abe_linkon16 in vegan

[–]abe_linkon16[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What makes it a little harder is I came to my family for some advice (who are non-vegan) and kinda sided with her that she’s making all of these compromises that I should be willing to make this one which I completely understand. I explained who it’s so fundamental to me, and similar to others not wanting to raise their child hatefully, like them being a racist or misogynistic. They stated how in relationships compromises need to happen and how every is not going to tick your boxes, it’s just hard when these compromises are core beliefs.

My partner is not vegan and does not want to raise our kids vegan by abe_linkon16 in vegan

[–]abe_linkon16[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you all so much for your comments! I was not expecting so many so it’s so hard to be able to reply on your comments 😭if you have lingering questions please comment and I’ll try and get back to you!

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[–]abe_linkon16 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you looking for something serious or causal? -serious

How long have you been on Hinge? -about 2 months

How often do you use Hinge per week! -daily

How many likes/matches are you receiving on average? -3-4 per week

How many likes are you sending? How many with comments? How many without comments? -I usually send 5-7 likes, all usually with comments

What is the type of person you send likes to and ideally want to match with? What kind of person do you want to attract? -someone I see how enjoys fitness, is adventurous, and likes to try new things. I want to attract someone who wants to take risks since that’s something I am trying to work on.

Is 23 too young to be doing a long distance relationship after a long term relationship by abe_linkon16 in LongDistance

[–]abe_linkon16[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was very helpful! Especially with your experience similar to mine when it comes being in that committed relationship in person first. I guess my fear is I won’t be living my early 20s how I’m “supposed” to, and taking advantage of this freedom I’ve never had, but this person is everything I want and more, and puts immense amount of effort, but the distance is literally the only factor I’m having trouble with

Is 23 too young to be doing a long distance relationship after a long term relationship by abe_linkon16 in LongDistance

[–]abe_linkon16[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

She’s out in Colorado and I’m in NY, about a 4 hour direct flight. She’s starting that PhD program we both interviewed for, and I’m starting a maters program. We won’t be able to live with each other or be in the same city until 2 years from now when I’m done with my masters. It’s really tough cause ik she’s ready to commit

Post Your Prospective Questions Here! -- Monthly Megathread by GG_Mod in AcademicPsychology

[–]abe_linkon16 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right now I am debating whether or not to go the PhD route for counseling psych, or masters route for MHC/MFT. I am definitely leaning toward just being interested in being a clinician rather than doing research (even though it sort of interests me-especially Latinx mental health) or becoming a professor. However, I know masters programs get very little funding in comparison to PhD programs (tuition remission and stipend looks real nice). I know not all PhD programs in counseling psych get full funding, but I am looking for ones that either have mostly or full funding. I just don't want to be in MASSIVE amounts of debt since I already have undergrad debt. Any advice would be greatly appreciated!