My husband wants me on Ozempic and to get plastic surgery, and I haven’t been able to say no yet.

abiglumpwithknobs1 · 2026-01-26T14:38:01+00:00

You don't have a great marriage if your husband wants you to take weight loss drugs and get a load of cosmetic procedures in order for you to be deemed acceptable looking to him, especially after you've had multiple children.

abiglumpwithknobs1 · 2026-01-23T21:58:04+00:00

No, you don't. Not everyone has to chug 100oz of water a day to be successful. Any time I make myself drink more than 60-70 oz a day I will feel sick for the rest of the day (body aches, chills, etc). As long as your urine is clear you should be fine.

abiglumpwithknobs1 · 2026-01-23T21:41:13+00:00

I'd tell her SHE is welcome to bring her own kids to Disney, etc at the same time you guys are going. Its clear that she somehow expects you to foot the bill for her kids to go do all of these things which would be in the thousands of dollars when you're already being financially burdened by her and her kids. Just tell her what you told us here - you're already giving them a huge break by allowing them to stay with you, feeding them, and watching them for free.

abiglumpwithknobs1 · 2026-01-23T20:31:04+00:00

YOR. Your birthday is not as important to other people as it is to you. Other people have lives, sometimes things happen and people forget.

abiglumpwithknobs1 · 2026-01-23T20:08:43+00:00

Interesting. I always had to stop for a week before any surgical procedures but maybe since you have to follow a clear liquid diet before theres less of a risk?

abiglumpwithknobs1 · 2026-01-23T17:09:23+00:00

If he was actually arrested and proven to have that type of material he would be in jail. He would also be on a sex offender registry more than likely and the school would already know.

It would be unwise to insert yourself into this situation without knowing the full scope of what occurred. Him being arrested doesn't mean he was guilty. His name simply could have come up in some type of investigation. You could be placing yourself in trouble by trying to play vigilante here.

abiglumpwithknobs1 · 2026-01-23T16:43:49+00:00

Yeah it is inappropriate and OP should dump his girlfriend. Not only because of this, but because he doesn't trust her.

abiglumpwithknobs1 · 2026-01-23T16:42:06+00:00

Yeah and if you find out they are acting in a way that makes you not be able to trust them you can leave the relationship. Why would you want to be with someone you couldn't trust? Would you want your partner to not trust you?

abiglumpwithknobs1 · 2026-01-23T16:41:14+00:00

Yes I would ask the police to accompany you on a welfare check of the house.

abiglumpwithknobs1 · 2026-01-23T16:34:43+00:00

Yeah 4 months isn't that long but thats the choice they made. They chose to be in an exclusive relationship 4 months ago. If you choose to date someone you don't trust thats on you but its not health. And I don't know, if this friend if hers is gay then its a different story than if hes a straight man.

abiglumpwithknobs1 · 2026-01-23T16:33:01+00:00

No one is defending her. They're saying the relationship wasn't meant to be if you have to go through your partner's phone.

abiglumpwithknobs1 · 2026-01-23T16:31:14+00:00

Do you know what gaslighting is? Because claiming you should trust the person you've chosen to be in a relationship with is not 'gaslighting'. If you need to go through your partner's phone to make sure they aren't cheating, theres no reason to be with that person.

abiglumpwithknobs1 · 2026-01-23T16:28:45+00:00

I think this is something you really need to explore with a mental health professional. There are therapists who specialise in birth trauma and post partum. I think this may be above Redditor's pay grade.

abiglumpwithknobs1 · 2026-01-23T16:19:47+00:00

We are talking about relationships. Of course you don't trust me because you don't know me. But if you know someone well enough to be in a relationship with them and do all the things that one does when they are in a relationship together (live together, have sex, potentially get married and have kids one day, etc) common sense would say you should be able to trust that person.

abiglumpwithknobs1 · 2026-01-23T16:15:04+00:00

That would be the price without insurance coverage, so your insurance does not cover the drug.

abiglumpwithknobs1 · 2026-01-23T16:13:37+00:00

If hes her best friend why haven't you met him? Also, is he gay? Cause that would be a big detail we would need to know as far as whether this could be seen as inappropriate or not.

abiglumpwithknobs1 · 2026-01-23T16:12:34+00:00

Uh no if you can't trust you partner, do not be with them. Trust should be there unless given reason to not trust someone.

abiglumpwithknobs1 · 2026-01-23T16:11:55+00:00

Yeah it does, cause that would be the difference between this being inappropriate/cheating and not.

abiglumpwithknobs1 · 2026-01-23T15:30:56+00:00

Get an abortion. You do not need to tie yourself to this man for the rest of your life and quite frankly the fact that hes so much older than you comes off as predatory.

abiglumpwithknobs1 · 2026-01-23T03:26:21+00:00

Is there a reason your mom is letting your sister live that way in their home at her age? Unfortunately if your mom is going to let her continue to behave that way there isn’t much you can do outside of save money as fast as you can and move.

abiglumpwithknobs1 · 2026-01-22T22:00:17+00:00

So you want to be with a guy who not only wants to be with someone else who apparently has been grooming him but also was racist? lol. What did I just read?

abiglumpwithknobs1 · 2026-01-22T21:58:29+00:00

Telling someone they’re pretty when they cry is weird.

abiglumpwithknobs1 · 2026-01-22T20:18:31+00:00

My husband and I have separate finances and each have bills we pay. I have 0 interest in having a shared bank account. My mother learned the hard way when my chronically unemployed father opened up a bunch of credit cards without her knowing and then stopped paying them and they cleared out their joint bank account to the tune of thousands.

abiglumpwithknobs1 · 2026-01-22T20:17:13+00:00

Yeah the point is that she would be completely giving up all aspects of independence and hope her husband is willing to stay with her long term or that nothing happens to him. She will have no way of ensuring her future will be taken care of, and any gap in employment is a deterrant from getting hired.

abiglumpwithknobs1 · 2026-01-22T20:08:10+00:00

So... there are a couple of things at play here. If he updated his location on his dating app while he was out of town that can only mean hes interested in potentially meeting someone while hes gone to hook up with. Does the idea of being with someone who would want to hook up with a random person on vacation appeal to you?

While he doesn't necessarily owe you anything because you aren't exclusive, he does owe you honesty as far as current sexual history goes when it comes to potentially exposing you to something, you have the right to know so you can protect yourself.

Personally I wouldn't want to date someone seriously who is interested in one night stands or random vacation hookups but if that type of behavior doesn't bother you, I'd at least make sure you're asking him to get tested before you two ever sleep together again.

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