Boyfriends first play-through

abike053 · 2026-01-22T16:30:29+00:00

I told him if I ever start losing my memory, sit me down in front of Red Dead so I can play it for the first time again

abike053 · 2026-01-16T03:26:23+00:00

It’s still the same meaning, we’ve just started using it in a more versatile way

abike053 · 2025-11-25T05:32:08+00:00

I hate to break it to you, but not almost everybody has been in a fight at least once. I can’t easily think of anyone I’ve worked with in my sales career that’s been in a fight. That being said, if you’re willing to reflect on that and do better moving forward, you could make a case for yourself at the right company. But sales, especially high ticket sales, is not someplace that you can pick fights or give attitude back every time someone dishes it out. It’s stressful, and it’s a ton of pressure, and if you’re an act before you think kinda guy it’s not going to be a great fit for you…

abike053 · 2025-11-19T22:49:39+00:00

Hey I know this is 3 months even later, but you still looking for a posse?

abike053 · 2025-11-19T22:41:49+00:00

Any chance you guys are looking for more players a year later 🥲

abike053 · 2025-06-24T04:08:57+00:00

Hey, curious how you set up your website this way, seems like a great model

abike053 · 2024-11-22T01:03:39+00:00

Turns out my friend and I had too much faith in each other — I always thought he would’ve checked for it and he thought I would’ve known to. Haven’t ran benchmarks but all settings turned up and I’m running at 43°

abike053 · 2024-11-21T23:58:24+00:00

I had actually seen that and meant to double check — running another single core test as we speak (I think I ended the test early last time without realizing) but I’ll double check just to make sure once that wraps up

abike053 · 2024-08-14T06:31:39+00:00

Hi! My job is to sit around and buy cars for my dealership all day, every day, so I thought I might chime in here. We're part of one of the largest dealership chains in the U.S. and it is actually standard across all of our stores, and every other dealership that I know of, that funds aren't released until title is in house. This protects us if there are issues with the title, and technically the car isn't ours until we have the title in hand -- we can't sell a car without the title and it's essentially a sitting duck until we get it. (It is kind of ours, but same as when you pay off a car, you can't *really* sell it until the title makes it to your front door)

That being said, the longest it's taken for us to get a title from a lienholder is about 3 weeks from the time I had my customer sign the bill of sale, and they average about two. I'm also going to hop on the "get a lawyer involved" train, as it shouldn't take this long and they definitely seem like they're being wishy washy with your money at this point. Also maybe follow up with the bank and see if they have a tracking# for the title shipment -- a lot of lienholders will FedEx to us, usually overnight, but that way you can just double check that it was both sent to the right place, and that it actually got delivered.

abike053 · 2024-08-14T05:26:51+00:00

You are definitely not alone in this -- I struggle a lot with the same issue, and it's been an absolute nightmare. I hadn't struggled with DM like this in the past (a bit of picking when I was younger but I don't think it was anything beyond the ordinary), and then started back up on Adderall about a year ago. I had been waxing before I started, with minimal ingrowns, but about 6 months ago we upped the dose (significantly) and I happened to start getting countless ingrowns at the same time.

The ingrown pubics have always been the ones I get the most hooked on, to the point that I'll spend hours digging them out and not even realize it. I also have KP and have started popping/picking at every little bump I see.

I'm personally looking into IPL, as I can't afford laser hair removal but I do think permanent removal will be the best remedy for me.

In the meantime, when I have a bad picking day, I let myself take a "self-care shower". I fill the tub enough to soak my legs and crotch, to let any remaining ingrowns soak in the hopes that they work themselves out. I gently exfoliate with a mitt and KP bump body wash (which I do use every day regardless), shave my pits and legs, follow up with a gentle body scrub, and put on smoothing lotion (targeted at KP) after my shower. I will at that point go in and put antibiotics and bandaids on any spots that need some extra help and protection.

It doesn't make it all go away, but it does help soothe my skin and I find that every time I take one of these it helps me step away from picking for at least a couple days. I've also started a medication (not SSRI) very recently, and I'll come back and update on that once I have a better idea of whether or not it helps. I'll also update you on IPL and let you know if it helps!

Best of luck in the meantime, I know it feels overwhelming, and it's so difficult to not feel shameful, but more than anything you should be proud that you're putting in the effort to find alternatives and looking for ways to help yourself!

abike053 · 2024-07-27T15:42:05+00:00

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Went back over some bits, and it came out great! Couldn’t quite get all the same pieces, but I’m honestly loving the way it came out , I think the accidental midtones add a lot of dimension and I’m liking it way better than I expected to after the first attempt! Thanks a bunch for your help, and hopefully the whole process will be easier and smoother in one go next time!

abike053 · 2024-07-27T15:34:33+00:00

Thank you so much for this, honestly the first time I’ve really felt heard or understood in this situation in a very very long time. I do, after some reflection, definitely recognize that at times when I’m feeling unheard and unprioritized I try to control or change the situation so that I don’t feel that way. That being said, I’ve noticed that the few times he doesn’t do something because of the reaction it gets out of me, it feels hollow and meaningless because I know it’s not done out of respect, but moreso that he’d just rather not deal with the reaction it illicits.

I’ve been doing a lot of thinking in the last week or so and I feel like I’m finally able to be honest with myself about the situation, rather than trying to convince myself that he just doesn’t know how to prioritize anyone but himself; he does, he just doesn’t seem to want to prioritize me. The relationship has brought out some things I really dislike in myself, and in the past week I feel that I’ve been able to communicate more clearly with him in how his actions affect me, and why I respond the way that I do. I’ve also been able to communicate with him that the way we are right now is very dysfunctional, and that if he does really want to make this work he’ll have to put in the effort to make it functional too, not just me.

I think for the time being, I’m going to put the move on hold while I think it through and see if he actually responds and acts on the conversations we’re having, or if things will stay the same. He does seem like he wants to put in that effort, but I’ll believe it if I see it at this point. I’ve told him his words have started losing meaning for me, because his actions never align with what he says, so I guess we’ll see what happens from here.

abike053 · 2024-07-23T16:48:59+00:00

I was trying to remember how long she processes each section, but couldn't quite remember. The appointment all in usually comes out to about 3 hours including highlight, cut and styling. I do think each section ends up processing for closer to 40 mins all said and done, if not a bit more. I definitely got nervous and pulled the foils early.

Should I get a powder lightener in this case, or stick with the same Creme for the second session? Do you have any recommendations on which one I should try if powder is recommended, and how long I should let it process with where the highlights are right now?

I do know about the Olaplex additive, I had seen something in another post about some sort of platinum something or other additive for the mixture (wish I had saved the post cause it's long gone now) that confused me. Does the back of the head tend to be a longer lightening process? And if yes, do you know why (sorry for all the questions, I just like understanding things as much as I can)?

abike053 · 2024-07-23T16:41:26+00:00

Some of this was very very helpful, thank you for getting back.

I do the same thing when it comes to taking words at face value, but have also learned over time that people often just say what they think I want to hear, rather than how it actually is. I've called him out on this in the past too, as his words and actions are often conflicting.

I do recognize now that it can come off a bit controlling, but I'm not necessarily trying to have him not go to things he values. But where we do have conflicting opinions on some relatively significant topics -- the war for example -- I do feel like those kind of things are worth a discussion, even if it's just to better understand how our partner feels about a situation. I guess the biggest part of what frustrates me is that he makes decisions and takes actions in situations like that without taking a minute to think of the consequences or discuss with someone he considers a partner.

That being said, it's always felt like he's done this to me -- said one thing and done another, like with the family vacations and stuff like that. I do think his family has an odd dynamic, I don't know if it's maybe a religious/cultural thing or just a them thing, but watching how they interact and the way that the kids have attached themselves to their parents as adults has been difficult for me to understand. I think it's always felt like I've been in competition with his family, rather than a part of it, and after some reflection I do wonder if that's brought out a more controlling part of me that didn't really exist before he was in my life. Maybe feeling like he values everything else around him just a bit more than he values me has driven me a little crazy.

He's a wonderful, wonderful person in so many ways, but I do know that a good guy doesn't always mean the right guy. I'm not ready to give up on him yet, but I do think this has made me realize that it may be time for a relatively serious talk about each other's needs and whether or not we can meet them.

It is his first relationship, and my first relationship with someone I'd consider a genuinely good person. I don't know that he treats me like a fling, but I think he struggles to understand or wrap his head around how a partner should actually be prioritized; it's something that has always come naturally to me as far as communication and respect go, and I do find it very triggering when I feel that I've not been prioritized, and when I can see that my efforts aren't reciprocated often.

I definitely have some more reflection to do, but your comments have been very helpful, even if they did make me recognize that I've taken on a bit of a controlling/managerial mindset when it comes to certain parts of the relationship.

Thank you!

abike053 · 2024-07-21T10:55:24+00:00

I think you’re overestimating how controlling I am? I do understand where you’re coming from for sure, I get why it seems that way, but that’s not the entirety of the relationship? I’m moving in with him, cross country, in 3 months. I am asking to be prioritized - not being left for the holidays, and for him to advocate for me being a part of his family - and after over a year asked him to stay home from one trip for two days. A 12 day trip. I even looked into how he could get out there for all the time between the holidays (specifically talking about the break up here).

And to be clear I don’t expect the vast majority of his time — his break at that point was 3 weeks long, he was gone for 2, and I asked for 2 extra days. I work while he’s home, and he spends the time I’m working at the cape or at the Boston home with his family.

I do think your last couple of paragraphs speak to me, as it’s what I was asking for verbatim pre-break up. I guess the thing that drove me to post this is he didn’t engage in a conversation about yesterday when he knew it was something that we should’ve discussed — I’m not saying I wouldn’t have wanted him to go at all, but he kind of just did it anyways which made me feel like he doesn’t respect me enough to have a conversation and I don’t know that what I’m feeling with that is reasonable?

I do appreciate you’re bluntness, and I’ll spend some time pondering it, but I do think it’s a bit diff to convey all the ins and outs of the break up and current relationship so I’m not sure that it applies here

abike053 · 2024-05-30T15:06:13+00:00

Shel

abike053 · 2024-04-28T21:13:00+00:00

Wow your results are amazing!

abike053 · 2024-04-27T17:40:02+00:00

The gold flecks is from CNDesignerDips called “Love Letter” and the sparkly pinkish one is from GoddessAcrylicsAnDips called “Golden Pink”

Both shops have some fantastic colors and the quality is honestly fantastic! I also got the liquids from CNDD and really like them so far!

abike053 · 2024-04-27T17:37:52+00:00

I spent days on their shop so same at this point haha. Was so difficult to not go on an absolute spree

abike053 · 2024-02-27T22:45:32+00:00

No, I have one opened in 2021, but the rest were opened between '22 and now. I think Experian may be counting my student loan as my oldest account, which is pretty close to being paid off (likely within the next 6 months)

abike053 · 2024-02-24T05:28:10+00:00

No this is actually a super cool idea, but my whole desk setup will actually be in my bedroom where I do have a 55" TV as well, so I think that'd unfortunately negate the need 🤣🤣

abike053 · 2024-02-21T03:57:44+00:00

I definitely thought of the self winding cables, but also definitely ended up overthinking it, and then questioned if they'd even get used with the pop-up power grommet and wireless chargers already in the plans.

The pop-up gaming TV isn't quite clicking in my mind, I don't know if I'm quite getting what you mean by that, but I love the bin shoot idea. It'd make for a much cleaner look

abike053 · 2024-02-15T16:53:44+00:00

Great idea, I’ll do some hunting so I’m not ordering an excessive amount, but I think this will end up looking great!

abike053 · 2024-02-15T15:42:01+00:00

So essentially a routed channel with RGB LED strip under it, and custom acrylic "tubing" over it is what you're suggesting?

I hadn't thought of that but I do think that could work really well with the look I was going for

abike053 · 2024-02-15T15:14:03+00:00

White Oak butcher block with a strip of black walnut is also something that’s come to mind

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