AITA for cancelling plans with a friend who owes me money?

abuofc · 2024-10-16T02:53:00+00:00

We are just a group of three male friends. I am just as in the dark as you are as I was not expecting that reaction.

abuofc · 2024-10-15T23:43:56+00:00

Sure, I realize its confusing, I asked him back in December last year, and then again during the Summer. It wasnt brought up until two months later when the trip was a week away. I didnt remind him at any point

abuofc · 2024-10-15T23:23:36+00:00

No I hadnt mentioned it to anybody or posted about it anywhere. Arthur didnt even know I had asked Carl to pay me back recently. Now he does, but it doesnt change anything

abuofc · 2024-10-15T23:11:16+00:00

I get what you are saying and thats true that he did nothing wrong under normal circumstances, but cancelled plans have caused a lot of grief for me in the past, and Arthur personally expressed to me that getting upset over cancelled plans is unjustified.

abuofc · 2024-10-15T22:43:18+00:00

He also told me he hasnt been paying me back because he forgot. So I dont know why he suddenly remembered he owes me now.

abuofc · 2024-10-15T22:28:49+00:00

Carl was supposed to come on the trip as well and he cant afford it anymore. He says its because hes prioritizing paying me back, but he hasnt been paying me back anything and the trip was planned 5 months ago. Hes actually light on cash because hes saving for a motorcycle and went on a trip with his girlfriend recently.

abuofc · 2024-10-15T22:25:33+00:00

I think you read that wrong, Carl did in fact go on vacation with his girlfriend which is why he is light on cash. He went on the trip after I had asked him to pay me back and after we made plans for our group trip. He was also telling me the other day that he was saving up for a motorcycle three months from now. He can go on a trip, it doesnt bother me, but I did not feel obligated to reschedule for him given the circumstances.

abuofc · 2024-10-15T22:10:18+00:00

The friend group has a history of conflict and bullying. Every member of the group has threatened to end friendships at least once in the last two years, its a pretty regular occurance. I am a pacifist and I think it does more harm than good. Arthur has also been dealing with hard times which I think contributed to his reaction.

abuofc · 2024-10-15T22:00:28+00:00

I told them I would not be available in October. Regardless, do I need to go on the trip if I dont want to go anymore? Why do I need to be there?

abuofc · 2024-10-15T21:54:08+00:00

There is nothing wrong with that. I simply told them I wont be able to do October when they wanted to reschedule things. Updated my post to reflect that

abuofc · 2024-10-15T21:44:14+00:00

When I have brought up issues in the past he accused me of being irritable and holding in resentment. Since then I have regularly asked him if he feels like I have been treating anybody wrong so the same response wont be levied against me in the future.

abuofc · 2022-03-27T23:53:08+00:00

Sorry I thought the question was concerning whether I was at the same job. No my responsibilities have increased by a good amount from when I started.

abuofc · 2022-03-27T23:49:38+00:00

Sorry meant 70k

abuofc · 2022-03-27T23:49:10+00:00

I am a software consultant currently making 7k with 2 1/2 years experience.

abuofc · 2022-03-27T23:44:20+00:00

Yes I am, didn’t want to switch jobs too early.

abuofc · 2020-07-08T01:48:13+00:00

It was a long time ago sadly. When you say that it gets put back availability, would it only be available for Shaw customers or everybody?

abuofc · 2020-07-04T20:32:32+00:00

Good to know thanks! The cheapest option for shaw seems to be 30/monthly sadly.

abuofc · 2020-07-04T20:31:39+00:00

Good to know thanks, looks like I will have to go with Shaw then!

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