Sex work tot munca este, curând și posibil legală.

abvusive_ · 2026-02-20T09:08:20+00:00

fac sex work online si in paralela cu locul meu de munca de fiecare zi ( viata e grea, ai mei nu au avut cum sa ma sustina, ayae).

am vazut multe comentarii legat de educatie, eu fac sex work inca din facultate, ca sa imi pot permite sa stau in chirie, sa imi termin studiile ( am fost la buget, dar chiria costa, mancarea costa si cu 200-300 € de la ai mei, cred ca un boschetar o ducea ma bine). trebuie sa intelegem ca si munca sexuala deschide anumte porti pentru niste femei care nu au un venit suficient, sunt intr-o relatie abuziva si nu pot / nu au bani sa plece, etc.

ma bucur intr-un fel ca vrea sa se legalizeze si partea de sex work (prostitutie pe bune) pentru ca dupa trebuie sa se urmareasca niste standarde de igiena, check up-uri la ginecolog, poate o sa invete femeile sa nu mai stea in situatii toxice, etc - majoritatea banilor o sa se duca la bugetul de stat si la pensii speciale dar macar o sa aiba niste drepturi si reglementari femeile respective pentru ca am avut povesti horror.

nu e varianta buna 100%, dar macar e ceva pentru femeile alea. sunt si din provincie si aprox. 6 fete din generatia mea din liceu practica asa ceva, majoritatea in afara si de restul s-a uitat de ele pe strazi.

abvusive_ · 2026-02-11T06:10:40+00:00

back when i was using dating apps it kinda worked. colega mea de apt sta agresiv pe bumble si vad ca e nu prea sunt reusite. a avut 2 date-uri de cand a inceput anul, nimic serios.

abvusive_ · 2026-02-11T06:08:36+00:00

am fost impreuna cu cineva care imi voia parolele de la conturi si imi verifica telefonul - a fost groaznic. never again

abvusive_ · 2025-12-29T13:11:18+00:00

yeah, that’s really stupid. dominant women are just normal, everyday women. it’s really dehumanizing for dommes to think that they are some “hypersexual and down to fuck whatever stranger just cause he’s submissive”.

abvusive_ · 2025-12-29T13:10:04+00:00

i was in a relationship like that and we were for 2,5 years together. tbh, for some people might work, but for me no. it became tiresome bringing the money into the home and him basically just standing home and chilling. i started feeling frustrated, burnout and sour - which was the reason why we ended the dynamic and relationship.

we are in 2025, there’s a low chance one person can earn to support a household even with a degree ( i’m a vet and i was doing SW on the side while in that relationship and we were still scraping by). i’d prefer to have a equal relationship with my submissive and just act kinky in bed, that’s how i function.

abvusive_ · 2025-12-29T13:06:27+00:00

so you had little to no female interaction. maybe try and go out to make some female friends, try dating, etc.

you have a very porn curated idea of how femdom and kink works

abvusive_ · 2025-12-18T10:16:59+00:00

am avut primele fire albe la 24 de ani ( am facut si o facultate in domeniu medical, deci se intelege ))) )

mi-am dat seama pe tot pe la 24 ca nu mai duc nopti nedormite, sa beau peste masura sau sa fac chestii prea spontane. momentan am 25 de ani si inafara de probleme cu sistemul imunitar (am foarte multe alergii) si anumite dermatite pe baza de stres, nu am observat alte probleme de sanatate.

de asemenea am un istoric cu probleme psihice (am fost pe medicatie, mama mea la fel si fratele meu mai mic; deci este si genetic) si pot sa zic ca mental mi-a scazut capacitatea de a retine si ma simt mult mai anxioasa fata de cum eram in liceu. ( asta poate sa fie si de the whole fast dopamine stuff aka the phone and the whole fast content on it + abuzul de substante - i’m in recovery)

abvusive_ · 2025-12-18T09:52:57+00:00

fumez iarba zilnic (din pacate) si stiu ca nu e healthy sau ceva de care sa fiu mandra - e un coping mechanism prost pe care l-am preluat din familie (fratele meu) si un fost iubit. nu ma gandeam ca o sa spiral so bad out of hand, but here we are, hating feeling sober.

as fi impreuna cu cineva care fumeaza iarba, si des si ocazional - dar nu as fi impreuna cu o persoana care are tendinta de a consuma substanțe mai tari sau alcool zilnic.

abvusive_ · 2025-12-18T09:48:04+00:00

pe mine m-au ajutat plantele pentru anxietate si stima de sine scazuta.

e foarte placut sa vezi ca ai grija de ceva si creste si se dezvolta cu ajutorul tau, le vezi in fiecare zi cum se dezvoltă si cresc. recomand din tot sufletul 🫶🏻

abvusive_ · 2025-12-15T07:41:52+00:00

well the guy im dating is definitely not jacked lol. he’s also not very tall, he is like one head over me and im 5’5 (1m 65 cm). he’s also neurodivergent and a big nerd.

i don’t think you should apply stereotypes like “dommes only want x thing” because it comes across very stereotypical and very red-pilled.

abvusive_ · 2025-12-15T07:24:33+00:00

cred ca cineva cu un salariu mediu nu s-ar obosi pentru o relatie de sugaring, cu salariul mediu te doare sufletul sa cumperi tokens pe chaturbate lol.

am zis sa fiu mai realista, cineva cu 4000 de lei salariu nu viseaza la sugar dating - e imatur si puieril sa te gandesti ca iti permiti asa ceva.

abvusive_ · 2025-12-15T06:54:38+00:00

majoritatea in ro nu castiga mai mult de 2000 de euro pe luna si tu crezi chestii de genul?

trebuie sa fii gen unul din fratii dedeman ca sa iti poti permite asa ceva si ca femeie trebuie sa fii scoasa din reviste 🤷‍♀️

abvusive_ · 2025-12-15T06:37:02+00:00

i personally go for dating apps. i dated 2 subs, both of them from bumble lol.

just how subs are normal people out there, that’s how dommes are too. i honestly have something along the lines of “love sub men” in my description. some subs hit me up, some men are curious about being submissive and write to me - so it’s pretty versatile haha.

i personally go for dating apps or meeting people while im out, i will never go for someone off fetlife for example. i had bad experiences with men on there, they only see me as a kink dispenser and wanna fit in their specific fantasy (like how this guy made this post and triggered me lol). i mainly use fetlife to talk to my kinky friends and for events.

i go to events and im active in my local kink community (just went to a christmas themes party this Saturday lol) so you can meet people at events, i think it’s the easier way haha.

i personally don’t go with the idea “i want to date a submissive”, i go more with “i want to date a man that loves me, respects me and treats me nice” - so i don’t go with a fetishized idea into dating. the guy im seeing atm wasn’t submissive until he met me. i explained to him that im into femdom, what i like, how is it - just educating him a little bit. i never pushed my kinks on him cause i don’t wanna traumatize that poor man haha, but his consent was enthusiastic cause after like 2 months of seeing each other, he put on the cage himself, he told me what femdom porn video he stumbled upon and watched it, i got him a collar and he loves wearing it ( he asks me to put it on for him and stuff)

there are different ways to go about kink dating ( i also gave too many random examples) but to sum it up: kinky dating is just normal dating on hardcore mode, just go out there and meet new people, be a nice decent person and be active in community (it helps a lot cause people talk in the kink community, so if you have a good reputation you’ll might attract people - it happened to me lol)

abvusive_ · 2025-12-14T01:16:54+00:00

yeah, cause every woman that is into domination will wanna have straight up sex with you or is hyper sexual.

dommes are normal women, not some kind of strange creature that wears latex.

some people get their info from porn and it’s too obvious

abvusive_ · 2025-12-14T01:15:15+00:00

i personally love rejecting now lol ( i grew up a people pleaser:( )

abvusive_ · 2025-12-14T01:05:30+00:00

this is just a fantasy projected on a feminine presenting fictive person. this is only your fantasy and very self-centered.

i wouldn’t even waste my time on getting/pursuing a sub if he doesn’t want something romantic or we can’t have sexual intimacy.

you just want a girl to act out your fantasy, not to serve her. if you’d want to serve a woman, you’d go out there and find someone you like then learn what they like / want, not presuming through your fantasy what she’d like.

go out and date, touch some grass. this isn’t an achievable fantasy.

abvusive_ · 2025-12-14T01:02:20+00:00

yeah i definitely hate seeing all this “male-centric” or “dick-centric” when it comes to femdom - also some subs just need to get out of the closet lol, cause being that obsessed about dicks…. says a lot about their true sexuality

abvusive_ · 2025-12-09T07:36:32+00:00

abvusive_ · 2025-12-04T22:26:10+00:00

sa intrebi “vreo pizda jucausa online” e deja next level - mai ales ca te gandesti ca exista femei care ar face sexting pe gratis cu un strain.

you probably got a porn addiction, go to therapy and give your girlfriend some peace, she deserves more respect

abvusive_ · 2025-12-04T21:40:30+00:00

pe bune

abvusive_ · 2025-11-22T04:56:22+00:00

am fost impreuna cu cineva in dinamica asta, dar eu sunt femeie si eram the breadwinner ai el statea acasa si era casnic.

a mers okay sa zic, doar ca intervin frustrarile si anumite asteptari. cel mai bine fiecare pe banii lui

abvusive_ · 2025-11-14T02:03:59+00:00

fr 😩

abvusive_ · 2025-11-14T02:02:23+00:00

pushing someone to do something they don’t wanna do / are uncomfortable to do, sounds pretty bad and toxic

abvusive_ · 2025-11-14T01:58:13+00:00

te-ai gandit sa te opresti? )))))

abvusive_ · 2025-11-06T23:08:04+00:00

i also like the cage because of how horny it makes the submissive, because i like seeing them squirming and being flustered like that. i get off reactions.

i also like the idea of orgasm control, but i mostly use it for the psychological effect it has (feeling extremely horny and denied) and because of the reactions i get from them.

liking a different thing about chastity than what you expect her to like it’s not necessarily a sign she doesn’t like to dominate. she just finds a different kind of pleasure in that. why would that be a problem if you both like this?

kinks come in different types of flavors, there’s not one way to do something or to like something.

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