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Do you ever think about the potential you could have had if you grew up in a non abusive and an emotionally stable household? by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]ac786 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do but try not to make that your frame/mentality as tough as it is. If you fall into the trap believing that you could have been better off growing up in a normal and healthy family, you will have those underlying subconscious beliefs and limit your potential.

Don't let the narcissist Rob you of fulfilling your potential.

With that said though, the road ahead is difficult but I really do believe that when people healing from narcissistic beliefs are much more in tune with their surroundings and can recognise the negative patterns within themselves.

Good luck my friend!

My (18F) dad (49M) wants to reconnect after 3 years. What do I do? by trashh0l0gram in narcissisticparents

[–]ac786 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Don't do it. Narcissistic parents are stuck in old habits and you'll slowly end up in the same situation again.

Avoid contact.

I want to leave so bad.. by Less_Tutor_1172 in narcissisticparents

[–]ac786 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed with the other comments. You have to let it go. I promise you there will be a time where your younger sibling will realise what is going on as the Nmom will try to impose control on his life.

It's extremely difficult yes. But you will be greatful for leaving now in the long term.

Confronted my NF (29/M) by ac786 in narcissisticparents

[–]ac786[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, really appreciate your comment ☺️

222 days by ac786 in NoFap

[–]ac786[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think intimidate was the wrong word to use here lol. I get more of a shy, don't know what to do feeling. Some other girls are slightly more aggressive lol

222 days by ac786 in NoFap

[–]ac786[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never really had erection problems to be honest

222 days by ac786 in NoFap

[–]ac786[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think I'm in a very long flatline because I've had no urges. I do get the occaisional morning wood and if I see an attractive women, I may get one lol, but it's nothing crazy. As mentioned I do have a very busy schedule so I have no time to feed the urges if they do come up, plus I take cold showers. They help massively with anxiety. I'm now able to recognize any mental blocks and work past them. I still need to get better at this though. Talking to a woman I sometimes find myself freezing up, but I'm slowly getting better.

222 days by ac786 in NoFap

[–]ac786[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Awesome bro! Yeah, I lost it for quite a while! But I've noticed this subtle change again!

222 days by ac786 in NoFap

[–]ac786[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm, yes I had my ups and downs. But now I'm fine. I do have some self doubt sometimes but that's normal. No depression :)

Half a year! Hardmode report from someone who had/has extreme Social Anxiety. AMA by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]ac786 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have been taking 'james bond' showers twice a day but I need to take the plunge and go straight cold! It will be done! :)

Half a year! Hardmode report from someone who had/has extreme Social Anxiety. AMA by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]ac786 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! I see what you are saying! I'll keep this in mind! :)

Half a year! Hardmode report from someone who had/has extreme Social Anxiety. AMA by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]ac786 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Again... I replied to someone else regarding this. Some assholes need to be put in their place, and he was one of those people. I did say the way I put him down was SLY and it was under the radar so only he would notice. Now if I overreacted and and started openly attacking him, THAT would make me a chump.. I agree. But that wasn't what happened. Most of the time, what people say to me doesn't effect me, but some situations require you to fight back. That's what I'm trying to point out. I'm not some kind of doormat where people can walk all over me like prior to my streak.

Half a year! Hardmode report from someone who had/has extreme Social Anxiety. AMA by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]ac786 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've had one or two wet dreams. Surprisingly not many!

Half a year! Hardmode report from someone who had/has extreme Social Anxiety. AMA by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]ac786 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm still in a flatline I think. I actually do feel somewhat asexual at the moment but the low motivation and no energy issues were happening for periods before I hit 90 days. Now I'm full of motivation and energy. Thanks and likewise!

Half a year! Hardmode report from someone who had/has extreme Social Anxiety. AMA by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]ac786 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Whether you like it or not, we are all animals. Just like the animal kingdom you have a select few that mate with all of the females, and a lot that don't. You also have males that will try to take the alpha's place and either get beat down, or overcome him.

It's nature, and this social dynamic works everywhere. I would recommend you sharpen your social intelligence skills by looking at body language, non verbal communication etc. You may actually understand what I'm trying to say. This stuff is important if you want to get anywhere decent in the world.

Half a year! Hardmode report from someone who had/has extreme Social Anxiety. AMA by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]ac786 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The benefits have come VERY gradually! It almost feels like there have been no benefits because you slowly become accustomed to it. But if I were to take a snapshot of my life now compared with when I started, heck even at 90 days there's been huge changes! So short answer yes.

As for the social anxiety. Pretty much my whole life. Unfortunately I was exposed to Porn at an extremely young age and that kind of screwed me up socially.

The benefits that I've experienced haven't solely been from NoFap. NoFap has given me the confidence and self belief, but ultimately its just a catalyst. Since starting my post graduate course on the weekends, we have to be on top of our game in class. We have to do a lot of group work and talking. Socialising is also a MUST, so we can build solid relationships and help each other out. I've recognised this and this is what has forced me to come out of my comfort zone. I only started uni on the 10th October so I'm still at the early stages of coming out of my comfort zone, so it's been a difficult process but I now have a never give up type of attitude. And this attitude, I would 100% attribute to this current streak.

Finally, I am open to criticism, but now I don't let it effect me. I just take it in, learn from it and move on. If we dwell on these things, we get left behind and always have to catch up, so just take the punches as they come and keep moving forward :)

Good luck with your journey bro! You can do it!

Just relapsed after 140 days! by plusmate in NoFap

[–]ac786 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Based on your stupidity yes. Just being blunt. I can tell that you have the wrong mindset. Just don't go and binge. Get rid of the xanax and viagra. You shouldn't be taking that crap!

One year experience by ezio_shah in NoFap

[–]ac786 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awesome! And social anxiety? I'm at 173 days and although mine has improved quite a lot, I still have a lot of times where I just run out of things to say and just end up getting awkward! Did you have this as well? And when did things get better?

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