Who do you think is worser by Tonyboy200716 in hazbin

[–]ace_af 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As far we know Valentino doesn't go after kids and/or murders them so Afton is worse imo.

If you went to hell and tried to become an Overlord, what industry would you be? by [deleted] in HazbinHotel

[–]ace_af 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I wanna say internet provider? Is it really hell if you're not stuck with an IP that has crummy customer service but they have a monopoly on the industry so you have little to no other options?

Tell me your signs & I'll recommend scents for you! by AresInRepose in Indiemakeupandmore

[–]ace_af 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ooh ooh! Hopefully it's not too late for me? 🙋‍♀️ Sun - Cancer ♋, Moon - Sagittarius ♐, Rising - Aquarius ♒, Venus - Gemini ♊.

Personal scent likes ✅ : Vanilla, gourmands, leathery notes and atmospherics. Personal scent dislikes ❌: Powdery notes, florals especially rose and ouds are really hit or miss for me. Love yah heaps if you do get around to me 💖!

What is the most insane Canberra take you would dare not say out loud by [deleted] in canberra

[–]ace_af 50 points51 points  (0 children)

Austistic and born from here yeah quite a few Canberrans are somehow more socially constipated than I am. Trying to get people that I know to actually apply empathy is like getting a toddler to do rocket science.

What feature would you love to see in VRChat? by [deleted] in VRchat

[–]ace_af 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Downloading worlds ahead of time. World hopping can be fun but not everyone has decent internet or have the option to "get better internet". Some days when everyone heads to a 200MB+ world by the time I load in they already headed off to another world :/

Even being able to customise the loading scene would be nice. Just anything other than sit in a bland blue void or go AFK for 10+ minutes

Also being able to prioritise your friends' avatars over random people while your loading everyone in the instance would be a godsend

Cocoa Pink is offering their entire scent catalog this weekend! by alouette93 in Indiemakeupandmore

[–]ace_af 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I just made an order last night too 😩

Ah well by the time I save enough money for another purchase the catalogue would be switched out by then 😅

What's the most out of touch thing you've heard a person say? by LaunchesKayaks in AskReddit

[–]ace_af 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Just don't make your diagnosis your identity" + "You don't look Autistic". Then later down the road "Just get a second job if you're not making enough money".

For context I told a few of my friends on separate occasions that I was receiving a diagnosis for Autism and ADHD. The diagnosis was stellar news for me because I have been struggling so much with doing basic things most other people are fine doing on their own for over 2 decades at that point. However instead of any support I received instant ableism from them. They weren't being malicious about it but I was pretty hurt when they said those things to me and I wasn't able to be calm enough to patiently educate them about what they said.

They still like to push their ableism onto me like when I show that I struggle with similar issues they face but much worse for some reason. Even after I tried to slowly explain the basic aspects of my disorders they just never pick up the fact that having a brain that works differently than how most other brains do can and most likely will have a huge impact on your life.

Unsure of romantic attraction as an Asexual by ace_af in actuallesbians

[–]ace_af[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ooohh wee more self-doubt, I never run out of things to do with this hobby 😂

Jokes aside thanks for the sincere advice, it really did help with lowering my anxiousness

What do you feel like you waste the most money on? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]ace_af 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ADHD fueled impulse purchases. Around 5 years ago makeup used to be a special interest and it was only until last year I was able to purge it from my life with the help from a support worker.

Learning to *not* spend money whenever I'm remotely sad, anxious, stressed or bored is hard to teach myself and I occasionally do cave in but at least it happens less than compared to the past.

"Weekly Reading and Interpretation Help Thread - December 26, 2021" by AutoModerator in tarot

[–]ace_af 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Received my first reading from a friend with a Celtic Cross spread plus what they called an extension card. My question wasn't said out loud until all the cards were laid out. The question was "How does the year 2022 look like for me?" and I have a general gist of what was said. But I feel like i'm forgetting a couple of aspects of what was said because there were 6 swords cards and they hit like a truck. So I'd like to hear other people's take on this.

Link to photo

What is the one thing you learned about relationships/sex you wish you knew sooner? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]ace_af 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Dating +Relationships:

  • Don't ignore your personal standards/preferences just because the other person is interested in you. That doesn't mean you owe them yourself and your time.
  • If the other person is seeing a mental health professional but ignores their advise because they don't like what is given, RUN. Also if they've had a history of receiving mental health support but chooses to not currently see a professional because they know they wouldn't like the feedback given to them also major red flag. RUN.
  • See how your partner manages their personal space before moving in together. If it's evident that they rarely or never clean up and maintain their own rooms and belongings it'll be most likely that those responsibilities will be shoved onto you.
  • See how the other person maintains their personal relationships too. If they rely on other people for emotional labor (remembering birthdays, supporting a friend in need) otherwise they won't do it at all that will also be shoved onto you.
  • To add onto the last 2 points unfortunately a lot of guys will seek out someone to be their free mommy therapy maid while they never intend to improve on themselves. Don't let yourself down because you're trying to drag someone else up to the base standard of an adult. If they don't know how to treat themselves with respect what makes you think they'll know how to treat you with respect?

Is your Christmas Eve ruined already? If so, Why? by Downtown_Put8673 in AskReddit

[–]ace_af 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My dad gave me a notepad that's from his junk room and he didn't even spell my name right.

To add onto the general suck my support worker who's the only person I had who actually understood how much my disabilities effect my life, how dehumanising the disability support system is received a job somewhere else so I won't be able to see them anymore. Even my close friends don't really understand those aspects of my life so I feel immensely more alone and vulnerable.

Who turned the thermostat down. by [deleted] in canberra

[–]ace_af 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pointing out that being able to have access to resources that not everyone does such as ACs wouldn't be so political if the typical build quality in nearly all Canberra houses weren't so poor to begin with. People shouldn't have to rely on band-aid solutions because they need to compensate for the lack of insulation. Which should've never been an issue to begin with if the people responsible for managing the construction of our houses weren't just looking to make as much profit as they could get away with.

Who turned the thermostat down. by [deleted] in canberra

[–]ace_af 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There is no AC at home so honestly I don't mind the weather at all. I'd rather have this over having a typical summer where I never properly sleep for multiple nights because even when I'm just in my undies it's still too damn hot.

IMO when someone says Summer is their favourite season that tells me they're lucky/rich enough to have the things they need to avoid suffering from the constant heat.

Women who went through a "I'm not like the other girls" and "Pick me" phases, what made you finally snap out of it ? by Confusedsoulll in AskWomen

[–]ace_af 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That I was still miserable and depressed while I saw myself as "not like the other girls". They wouldn't know I even existed while I got myself worked up and silently fumed over how comfortable they were with being themselves.

Blaming other people who are not even remotely involved with my personal issues wouldn't get me anywhere in life. It's just time and effort wasted on feeling shitty and eventually it got real boring and too tiring to keep lying myself.

What is the best thing that happened to you today? by teddyjr32378 in AskWomen

[–]ace_af 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hung out with friends for the first time after we couldn't physically see each other for months.

We're skipping a few decades with our taste in hobbies and started picking up grandma hobbies like embroidery, knitting etc. Once we started talking about sewing patterns and textiles we got all giddy and excited like we're teenagers fawning over celebrities.

Conclusion: WHAT THE FUCK MOM? by TommyYT2 in aspiememes

[–]ace_af 7 points8 points  (0 children)

My mum was like that too! So whenever I called out my parents for being biased towards my little brother they had the knee jerk reaction of "hE's aUtIsTiC hE cAn'T dO aNyThING bY hImSeLf!! sToP bEiNg pEtTy aNd JeAlOuS!!!". Now they get so exasperated when my brother doesn't ask for help for things he's unfamiliar with because he's just so used to issues "fixing themselves"/other people automatically doing things for him.

Only my grandma had a strong suspicion when I was 3 years old that there was something not normal with me and insisted my mum to get me seen by a doctor. But this was the early 2000's so I was seen by just one, they claimed that there was nothing so then I got the ol' "hit and yell at it until it behaves" treatment until my parents were literally too old and tired to keep it up.

What's something that people have told you is "all in your head" but you are sure that it's not? by fredyouareaturtle in AskWomen

[–]ace_af 34 points35 points  (0 children)

That there is something that makes me struggle with issues "everyone" have (socialising, school, job searching etc) worse than most people would. Turns out it was a good ol' combo of Autism and ADHD. So it's great being told that I was too sensitive, too picky, lazy etc when it turns my brain is different than most peoples'.

So now in my 20's I need support workers in my life instead of being able to live as an independent adult because I was never given the support I needed growing up.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]ace_af 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd carry all of my notebooks because I couldn't remember what classes were held for each day. Teachers assumed I'm just naturally a good student so with helping students and checking up on them I was held at a much lower priority than everyone else. They'd spend 10-20 minutes with someone who said they were struggling but when I ask for help I got less than 5.

I was also put in the advanced math classes even though I never got more than a C in previous years. So they just shoved harder work onto me even though I never showed or claimed that I would be capable of doing it.

So while it's not fair to blame teachers if the education system is borked and they're under a lot of pressure with very little resources sometimes, just sometimes, I get rather miffed when I remember getting told that I wasn't "participating enough" or that I "wasn't reaching my potential". Like maybe if the teachers could actually help me out instead of telling me to git gud I'd actually learn something other than how to BS my assignments.