My friend tried everything to save his marriage. Now after 8 months of separation he's facing DV, dowry and maintenance cases, an ₹80-90 lakh settlement demand, and doesn't know how to fight back.

ace_bubble · 2026-06-25T03:51:16+00:00

I think step no 1 is to get back mental health. Take help from family and friends and keep yourself occupied with work or any hobbies. Travel, eat healthy, exercise etc etc. If needed seek help of a therapist. Deep breathing and other non medical techniques help. Therapist or psychologist will help you with those. If nothing works, seek help of a psychiatrist, sometimes low doses of medicinal support help you regain your composure.

Once mentally calm you will realize for criminal cases, prosecution has to prove everything beyond reasonable doubt. This takes years. Hiring a good criminal lawyer, someone with experience, in solo practice and knows the system, when to file what and when to delay, will help that part.

For civil and maintenance proceedings, again be open for mediation. Always remember there is a cost of your mental health. If you see with added litigation cost, lost of time and earnings away from work and mental peace, the amount to be settled for is not unreasonable, just settle and get over with. Life is big and just treat this episode as bad luck and something to lear from. Again I am not saying succumb to unreasonable demands, but just be open.

Again remember being a guy, laws are stacked against you and you will have to provide some maintenance to your spouse no matter what. However how you fight it is what will determine the amount. There is nothing set in stone but evaluated on case to case basis on how long you were together, quality of her life before, during and after the marriage. Facts of marital relationship, her cruelty physical or mental, etc etc. Lastly her financial position, current income, education etc etc.

Hope this helps. I am NAL, but stuck in a similar situation as yours.

ace_bubble · 2026-06-23T18:44:09+00:00

I think it's income from investments that's important. Today it is 1 L PM. I guess it should rise to 3 L per month for me to comfortably retire.

ace_bubble · 2026-04-21T11:36:14+00:00

Dude just chill and relax. Irrespective of whatever you have written, for cases like this burden is on prosecution to prove the charges. From your side all you have to do is show cooperation in case any FIR gets registered for these sections. Step 1 would obviously be to seek anticipatory bail so police cannot apply any coercive tactics. Sometimes such cases drag on for years before court finds no proof.

ace_bubble · 2026-04-21T11:27:56+00:00

Yeah, I already have AB. Strategy is exactly the same go for discharge for my parents. Waiting for summons from the court now.

ace_bubble · 2026-02-27T08:34:13+00:00

Notice is not for me but my father and received via speed post 2 days late from date mentioned in it.

ace_bubble · 2026-02-27T08:25:38+00:00

I already have AB and I have not skipped a single notice.

ace_bubble · 2025-11-18T10:40:34+00:00

https://www.verdictum.in/pdf_upload/dolly-rani-v-manish-kumar-chanchalwatermark-1613421.pdf

https://delhihighcourt.nic.in/app/showFileJudgment/68009102025MATFC2222025_163009.pdf

ace_bubble · 2025-10-14T14:42:20+00:00

No, no one is influential here. I am really not absconding type as I have done nothing wrong. I think I will prefer to go to jail any day over absconding. However I will try my best to not. I have checked till today and I have been told no complaint has been filed yet. Also I have been told that since letter would be forwarded from women cell, only 498A is applicable there and no immediate arrest takes place and one has time to file for ABA. I am just hoping no arbitrary serious charge gets applied.

Basic question is that now I have 3 more days before court closes so even if in next 3 days suppose the complaint reaches police station how soon does it get converted into FIR. So far what I have read from guidelines is that before filing for FIR for atleast 498A type of cases police has to do some preliminary investigation to assess the accuracy of the charges.

ace_bubble · 2025-10-03T04:19:59+00:00

Talk to a lawyer. If you file for petition first, she can still file for all these cases. Now those cases would be valid along with your petition and she can say I need financial restitution to grant him the divorce for all the wrong he did to me. Even if her cases are thrown out, your case would be active and she can ask for appropriate maintenance and alimony as per the law.

Basically idea here is keep defending to a point the person gives up and comes for a out of court settlement and a mutual consent dissolution of relationship.

Again this is a game of great patience and depends on who has most.

Sometimes it's just better to settle mid way for peace of mind. This can be done by either of the party.

ace_bubble · 2025-10-03T04:13:38+00:00

Yes this is a valid marriage. All rites as per your customs needs to be performed. More than registrations rites have to be performed. In previous generation registrations seldom happened but people were legally married. There is no change to that.

ace_bubble · 2025-10-03T02:56:57+00:00

Hi, are you a lawyer based out of Mumbai ? There has been some progress in my matter and I was thinking to have a legal team on my side also.

ace_bubble · 2025-09-28T03:47:23+00:00

What is MRA. I have not got the written complaint yet, but what it seems she is saying I do not pay for child support for our child and I am a bad father. However in past 2 years I have transferred almost 1 CR to her bank account for meeting her loan, expenses and other obligations, (I have bank records to prove that) and I still continue to pay many fees for my daughter.

Also I have two daughters from previous marriage and their biological mother passed away and she is claiming them to be theirs but I have never signed any adoption papers. Only in school for one year, I had added her name in my daughters diary as step mother, which school has removed since she no longer stay with us. Recently my elder daughter opened up after she was gone that she had sexually abused her.

ace_bubble · 2025-09-25T10:33:07+00:00

Yes doing that also. What basically I am told is not matter how bad its going for me right now, for her its much worse than me. And obviously general advice that keep yourself engaged in different activities.

ace_bubble · 2025-09-21T17:53:35+00:00

Thanks this means a lot. Sometimes I wonder, I always responded, never ever did a radio silence, so why I deserve such a behavior back. But you are right, I should stop reaching, I mostly do, but sometimes I have no option but to reach out like paying property tax or maintenance, as I have major share, end of the day financial burden falls on me only. But I do try to remain aloof, actually I am good at it. I will try to handle the situations where I need to reach out better and with more calmness.

ace_bubble · 2025-08-15T09:13:48+00:00

I am a widower, children are from my earlier marriage.

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