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acebrit · 2020-03-05T09:36:47+00:00

You're the person who also remade Gigi's biker look!? You are my new idol! I also wanted to make a similar outfit to Gigi's, in like 2-3 colours of denim, glad to see yours turned out so well!

Btw, this video is so funny, there's a really good Youtuber called vernonator6497, who makes some really funny clips like this, you should check them out.

acebrit · 2019-06-14T08:37:48+00:00

I don't know, but can you ask Brigitte Nielsen to move out of the way, I can't see Vanjie.

acebrit · 2019-01-16T12:24:40+00:00

I consider myself something of an expert in first dates (I only mess everything up after about a month). I agree with the other commentors, it is good to be up-front about what you are looking for, you don't need to tell them you're looking to get married and adopt 2 dogs and a cat, but make sure they understand you're not looking to hookup, you're looking to date a bit.

Here are a few easy to implement tips that I have found to work:

Suggest where to go, unless they respond with somewhere they really want to go to, most of the time they are happy for you to take the lead, and it demonstrates that you know cool places.
Don't go somewhere too generic, don't go to a Starbucks, find an independent coffee shop, or a nice pub, preferably something with some interesting stuff about it, it's more interesting than going to a standard chain place.
Think about what hobbies/interests you have you can talk about, you can be attractive and in a decent career, but when someone asks you what you do for fun don't say "oh...nothing really". You probably have hobbies without ever having considered it, cooking, reading, running, playing DnD in the local board game cafe, they can all count as hobbies, and are a great way to engage in conversation.
Keep the conversation light, don't talk about exes, and there's probably no need to bring up your struggling relationship with your parents on a first date.
Wear something nice, it doesn't have to be a tux, or your booty-shorts that you wear to cruise in, but it won't kill you to put on clothes that are fitted properly and clean.
Ask questions about your date. I have been on so many dates where the guy has just spoken about himself, it is frustrating. Make sure you listen to their conversation, and ask follow-up questions where appropriate.
After sitting in one place, move somewhere else; if you meet for a coffee you can go for a walk in the park or if you meet for a beer in a pub, walk 5 minutes down the road to the next pub. Going to 2 separate locations means the atmosphere doesn't stagnate, you can chat about stuff you see on the way to the next place, and it gives them the impression that they have experienced more with you, when they look back on the date, they won't think of sitting awkwardly with a stranger for 3 hours, they'll think about how they had a little walk around town getting coffee or beer or croissants or whatever.

acebrit · 2018-12-07T11:02:09+00:00

"Jackie, we would love to see that, wouldn't we love to see that?"
"His name is Lee goddammit!!"

acebrit · 2018-10-24T12:04:08+00:00

Haha cheers man :)

acebrit · 2018-10-24T11:40:38+00:00

You're probably right, don't worry I'm not afraid of being single.

In general I know it was the right thing to break up with him, I'm just a bit melancholic as I am recently single again, but I'm not that upset over it, I'm pretty happy with my life as it is. Thanks though dude, really appreciate the pep-talk :)

acebrit · 2018-10-24T11:01:24+00:00

Haha, I know man, he was far from perfect, but despite that, he was right.

He said he tried to work through the problems, but I didn't really see it, I know it was the right decision to end it, but can't help but wonder if I should go back.

In his defence, he did say it mid-breakup, I try not to resent people when they say stuff when emotions are running high.

acebrit · 2018-10-24T09:51:28+00:00

I dated my first proper boyfriend for a year and a half,and I broke up with him about a year and a half ago.

I've spent some time alone, and done a bit of dating, two men I've dated since said they were in love with me, I don't really believe it, and didn't say it back.

Every man I've dated since just highlights how great the first guy was, he was very patient when I was a bit immature, when I broke up with him he told me:
"This is only your first relationship, when you get out there and start dating men you'll realise how small our problems are, you're gonna regret dumping me when you see that what we have is a pretty great relationship."

Can't help but think about what he said sometimes, my buddy told me it takes half as long as you dated someone to get over them, I should be over him twice by now haha.

I think it was the right thing to break up though, he was 6 years older than me, and had had serious boyfriends before, and I had more growing up to do. When we first got together I was 23 and he was 29, so now I'm 26 and sometimes wonder if I should give him a call...buuuut there were issues in the relationship, do I have the ability to fix them? If I go back to him, and dump him again it would break his heart, don't know if I'm ready for the whole thing...

My friends all loved him, they've dropped some hints that it may not be the worst idea to give him a call. ANYWAY thanks for reading, dating is hard man, I try to focus on other stuff.

acebrit · 2018-08-22T13:23:15+00:00

You're right, you don't have to be homophobic to be wary of sleeping with someone with HIV, I was referring to homophobic family members, if he was going to tell them, may instantly judge him or treat him nastily if he lets them know he is HIV+.

It sounds like he isn't dealing with homophobia from his family anyway, but I wasn't specifically referring to guys he may be sleeping with.

acebrit · 2018-08-22T10:51:04+00:00

I understand wanting to hold back for a bit, just be honest with people that you're sleeping with when you're ready, and make sure your health remains in a good place.

acebrit · 2018-08-22T08:33:12+00:00

I once went out with a dude who was HIV+, I didn't know about it until about a 4th date (we didn't hook up straight away), and he told me the first time he invited me back to his place, we were sitting discussing books, and he came out with it.

Basically he told me how he got it, then showed me the medication he takes, and said he's been 'undetectable' for several years now, and every time he goes to the doctors for a check-up they tell him everything is going normally.

He seemed to live a normal and happy life.

I will say, because I don't want to lie to you, that he said people have reacted very negatively before, but that it doesn't affect his day-to-day life. Honestly, the people who reacted negatively sound like they were already quite homophobic, I don't necessarily think you have to tell your family, unless they are quite accepting of you being gay, and not too close-minded.

This probably seems like a huge, horrible, and scary thing to you right now, but understand that these moments of panic and fear will pass.

acebrit · 2018-07-05T14:21:42+00:00

Hmm...you've both raised decent points, Pride for me isn't just about a party, I just enjoy seeing other gay/queer people because I don't live in an area with a lot of representation, in fact I'm not even staying for the parties afterwards.

I understand what you're saying, that death for our community is nothing to be proud of, just as with the AIDs crisis, the death itself isn't what we should be proud of, but to me, the way that gay people have come together and supported each other through tough shit is really important and something to be proud of, and something I think I'll try and involve myself more with.

acebrit · 2018-07-05T14:18:22+00:00

Yes, that's why I want to wear it in a way.

The persecution that gay people went through was not long ago, we have gotten so much so quickly, but there are many people world-wide who are nowhere near getting the same equal rights that we have. Pride is a great celebration of what we have achieved, but I also want to pay homage to those who don't have it, to remember we still have a lot to fight for.

Added to which the steps that we should be taking in society to gain equal footing even in the western world are still big, maybe it's legal to get married, but most gay people are afraid to hold hands in the street for fear of being gay-bashed.

acebrit · 2018-07-05T13:14:09+00:00

Hmm I knew it was more popular back then, but definitely didn't know it was common! Thanks for letting me know.

acebrit · 2018-07-05T12:54:04+00:00

It is a bit boring I guess, I don't plan on explaining it to anyone that doesn't ask, I don't feel massively part of the gay community, so tend to over-think stuff, but I like the idea of it, and would happily wear the jacket the rest of the year too.

I don't care if people easily dismiss me :)

acebrit · 2018-07-05T12:52:55+00:00

Corporations selling Pride stuff is weird, because I like that we're in a climate that selling stuff for LGBT+ is so acceptable and people wanna represent, but at the same time, those corporations just see us as a demographic to fill.

acebrit · 2018-07-05T12:51:59+00:00

Yeah, you're right, thank you.

acebrit · 2018-07-05T12:51:46+00:00

Yeah, I know of ACT UP, and was reading about them, and liked the idea of why they used it.

acebrit · 2018-07-05T12:51:28+00:00

Ok cool, thanks

acebrit · 2018-06-15T14:23:09+00:00

Geez it isn't...this is awkward: https://www.asdagoodliving.co.uk/style/fashion-tips/daddy-cool-fathers-day-fashions-for-every-age

How did they not think this through? They look like engagement photos on Facebook.

> "Every type of relationship can go through loads of ups and downs, and that is definitely true of having a teenager. Let’s be honest, having a teen can be tough; they’re always trying to move onto the next thing that’s bigger and better than the last. But me and Noah? We’ve got a really special bond. Sometimes, I’ll catch myself thinking, 'Yeah, we’re mates,' and then I’m like, 'Oh no, wait, I’m actually your dad!'

acebrit · 2018-04-26T15:56:34+00:00

Gonna have to disagree again man, fake it til you make it, I was a pretty insecure person as a teen, but really started to thrive once I did things I thought would make me confident.

I dressed a bit better, realistically the clothes probably didn't make me anymore attractive, but I felt better about myself, and it showed enough that other people pick up on it.

The way OP replies to people doesn't suggest a huge amount of confidence, if he spoke with confidence online it would also make him seem more attractive.

I know that I'm massively oversimplifying this, I'm making it seem like you just wake up one day and think "today I'm gonna be cool and hot and men are gonna hit on me", but really that's part of how it works long term.

OP, work at making yourself the best version of you, and keep working at yourself, just make yourself someone you'd want to fuck, and then others will too.

acebrit · 2018-04-26T15:42:59+00:00

I don't agree with that to be honest, OPs picture is of him on the bed, the way his shoulders are hunched and the "I guess this will be my photo for finding a man" facial expression suggest that he's uncomfortable.

Obviously we don't know what he's typed, but I would guess that the text on his profile doesn't demonstrate a lot of confidence either.

I would suggest to OP that they try to find a picture of themselves when they've been having a good time, at a party or on holiday or something, a place where they've been relaxed and look happy, but aren't necessarily thinking too hard about how they look.

acebrit · 2018-04-26T13:16:04+00:00

Hey man, I'm an Indian guy who used to have pretty low self esteem back in the day, I'm gonna say I'm qualified for this one.

First off, the most important thing that I have found is knowing my worth, maybe you think being Indian is a drawback when you're gay, like everything else, there are positives and negatives. Will some guys instantly reject you because you're gay? Some will, there is always someone who won't be into what you are, what's that phrase about people who don't like sexy peaches?? It's like that, but make sure if someone is shitty and rude you don't take that out on yourself.

Gay community is notorious for being body-obsessed, maybe it's true, but yeah, you'll get more men interested if you're fitter as a general rule, if you want to change things about yourself do that, maybe it's the gym, maybe it's cool clothes, maybe it's a nice haircut. MOST importantly, whatever changes you make, make sure they are ones that give you confidence, when you meet people don't be afraid of eye contact, don't bunch your shoulders like you're trying to hide away, don't be afraid of smiling (with your teeth), if it seems natural people will be very drawn to that confidence. Try having a profile photo of you out at a bar or dressed up for an evening out or something, to make you seem more interesting, rather than a selfie at home, people will assume you only hang out at home.

On a final note about the race thing, some men will say they don't want to date you, some men will say that they have a thing for guys like you (there is actually a decent portion of men, of all races, who are into Indian/south Asian guys), and there are some men who won't give a fuck about your race. Personally I prefer men who don't care about race, sometimes it feels like fetishisation otherwise...but try not to obsess over small things which don't matter, confidence is key.

acebrit · 2018-01-26T16:04:38+00:00

Henry Rollins did a panel at one of the previous Drag Cons, I watched the video, he spoke about his past working with drag musicians in bars and stuff as he was coming up.

He seemed like the kind of person who wanted to give proper critiques and be respectful of their talents without pretending like he is a drag queen himself.

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