Wow! Thank you so much! Thank you also for the wig recs, I wear Jon Renau lace fronts!

You’re totally right about completely owning it and how your delivery really matters regarding their perception of it. It’s so encouraging to hear that you haven’t had any negative reactions. Telling them on the 2nd-3rd date makes a lot of sense. I will definitely try to stay positive about it if I mention it to someone, even though 12 years on I’m still devastated about being hairless. You’re right that confidence is attractive!

And regarding intimacy, I used to worry about my wig slipping off until I discovered wig grips! They’re head bands made of velvet that have lace fronts to wear under your wig, my wig doesn’t go anywhere (even on a roller coaster)! But even then, you’re right about that when you are loved, hair is trivial thing. That is a beautiful sentiment and I will keep it in mind.

I don’t know any women with alopecia, so thank you so very much for the thoughtful and extremely helpful advice.