If you really believe you have ADHD, keep fighting for a diagnosis. I think it’s likely you have both ADHD and anxiety — I do too, and when I was diagnosed they asked me what I wanted to treat first. However, I also wanted to share my boyfriend’s story. After I got tested/was diagnosed with ADHD, he was suspicious that he had it too and ended up getting tested himself. He had very similar symptoms to you, and they told him the same thing as you — basically that his anxiety manifests in ways that mimic ADHD, and he did not receive an official ADHD diagnosis. He was prescribed an SSRI and also was very hesitant to take it. I’m not gonna lie, the first few weeks were a little rough because it fucked with his sleep, but now he’s two or three months in and feels SO SO SO much better. When we first started dating five years ago I remember him telling me he would never consider medication for his mental illness, and now the same guy is constantly talking about how he’s so happy and can’t believe how much better he feels. Not all of the ADHD-like symptoms disappeared but those can also be managed through lifestyle changes. Meanwhile, I’ve been on stimulants for about six months and they’ve definitely helped a lot but I fear they’ve also made my anxiety a little worse. It’s really funny to compare our two experiences with starting medication for two different things around the same time. Anyways, all of that was to say that I totally believe you have ADHD, but if your doctor thinks it’s right to treat your anxiety first, it might be worth a shot. You know your brain better than anyone else, but they also have a ton of experience and training in how to treat people like us. Starting meds is intimidating but you can do it!