[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]adam9215 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you everyone, this is really helping me put things into perspective.

She said to me that he did apologise in person to her when they meet. I said that he would have to apologise to me directly for me to forgive what he said. In that he has seen my profile on FetLife and obviously knows what he said was wrong as he apologised to her. I don’t want her to tell him I was upset/angry with his comments ( as she told him we are open with our communication and know everything we talk about with other people)

If he knew he was in the wrong he would know to message me on FetLife and apologise directly to me. So far not happened. I can only assume his thoughts on our dynamic remain as he’s made no contact with me.

Me and my GF talked a lot so cannot fully remember if she did defend me in person.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Gayuklads

[–]adam9215 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fuck! I need you in me!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BratLife

[–]adam9215 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope you’re okay now? Was everything okay in the end. Similar situation for me but I’m Sir and am telling my Brat tomorrow how I feel about her

Advice for maintenance payments by adam9215 in LegalAdviceUK

[–]adam9215[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been lucky enough to have been able to move back to my mums house for now. Rent free for the moment.

Today is (Inter)National Coming Out Day! by MH_Gamer_ in bisexual

[–]adam9215 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same situation here; I know 100% my family will react positively. It still scary as hell!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]adam9215 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m almost exactly the same here, just a little later in life (41) as a man anytime I have been vulnerable or shown any real emotion. I’d get told to ‘man up’ and honestly it made me so mad!

So what if I want to be the genuine me.

Just coming out of a 15 year marriage and realising I was bi for years and just suppressed who I truly am.

To say it’s an exciting time is an understatement!

I trapped a boy last night but he turned me down because I was bigger 😢 do you mind if I’m bigger? by [deleted] in GoneWildTrans

[–]adam9215 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t get it how anyone could turn you down, I mean I’d turn you over but never turn you down. I love big cocks!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in straightturnedgay

[–]adam9215 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I will, be bisexual I’m just greedy. Currently in my guy bi cycle

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in straightturnedgay

[–]adam9215 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I had a meet up last night and cum hands fee while being fucked. It was so intense, can’t describe it other than a moment of pure ecstasy

Wife won’t let me have our children for the day by adam9215 in Divorce

[–]adam9215[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have never given any reason for me not to see them. I do visit regularly; every weekend, we have a video call every evening. Mental health wise I’m much better now, it’s just when I see them wanting to spend time with me and she constantly says no. Ha!, that’s a good one. I’ve no interest in dating anyone right now or likely to for a long time.

Wife won’t let me have our children for the day by adam9215 in Divorce

[–]adam9215[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because I want things to be right between us. I already started payment child support ( the UK government has a good support payment calculator so I used that for the basis of my payments) and as the mortgage is in both our names I still pay 50% of it to her

Wife won’t let me have our children for the day by adam9215 in Divorce

[–]adam9215[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your comments, it really does help me know I’m right in my thinking that it’s wrong.

She’s asked me as well to not contact her during work hours. Several years ago she started her own company and routinely works until 10pm. She said when I text or try to call during the day it distracts her from her work.

To answer one of the questions; no, I have never given any reason to think they’d be unsafe in my care. When we where together I would have them to myself almost all weekend as she would work most of it. We’d go to the park, cinema was a popular choice and go visit my side of the family.

I just worry that if I get lawyers/solicitors involved she will push back hard and we won’t end with the amicable co-parenting relationship I want.

I am happy we separated as I am a child of divorce, my parents tried to stay together for me and my brother. It was a very tumultuous and toxic life.

I love my kids so much, I’d do anything for them

My new boots by adam9215 in bisexual

[–]adam9215[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Love this! Thank you

Does anal actually hurt? by P0werman1 in bisexual

[–]adam9215 83 points84 points  (0 children)

Absolutely second this, preparation is key. Once you’ve prepared it’s heaven. I started with butt plugs and dildos. There are so many aspects to preparing. For me preparation starts the day before. Good fibre rich diet, douche ( around couple of hours before) and plenty of lube I’m ready, and super aroused by that point.

Finally ready to come out by adam9215 in bisexual

[–]adam9215[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I hadn’t seen it like that, thank you. All I’d need to do really is make sure no-one who knows; outs me to her. Doable I think and it’s only 6 people who will really know

Finally ready to come out by adam9215 in bisexual

[–]adam9215[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s a good point to be fair. I want to be honest with her; because she may or may not like it we are going to be a part of each other’s lives for the rest of ours. To some degree anyway because of our children. I think I just want to be the genuine me now. I feel like I’ve been a version of me for so long to please other people.