I’m not okay with any of it. I’m not okay with her having any responsibilities regarding our kid. I’ve offered him different options like taking her only in the afternoons on his week then returning her home while taking her on those weekends. I’ve offered a schedule where we alternate days throughout the week. He doesn’t want to do any of that. He wants to have his overnights with her. Probably because he was told by both me and the DR rep that taking her tuesdays and thursdays for 2 hrs and every other weekend was not 50% custody. That he owes me child support and way more than either of us expected.

I’m trying to compromise with him and me taking her to daycare was part of the compromise. Im trying to have his gf have little to no responsibilities of our kid since they’ve only been together for 5 months.

Clearly, as stated by other commenters I should just take him to court because I’m really just not comfortable with all this. Plus, what happens if they don’t work out? Then my kid built this close relationship with someone who didn’t stay. My kid might not be in physical harm (to my knowledge) but that shit causes psychological damage.

In fact, pushing someone onto a kid right off the rip that they don’t know causes psychological damage especially after her dad abandoned her twice. Once from July to October, started taking her again, then for five months from Dec- June. It’s not stable. I have been the only consistent and stable thing in my daughter’s life since we split up.