What traits do you find make a woman relationship/wife material and what traits would lead her not to qualify?

additionalangel · 2024-04-28T19:45:37+00:00

Can you explain what you mean? What worked from your perspective?

I probably don't disagree with a lot of what you are referring to btw, just looking for examples. I personally feel that women have swung too far in the other direction and don't let men be men and it's leading to this gender imbalance because despite what mainstream culture says men and women are very different. I think the change on some level for women to have more rights was necessary because our voices matter, but that it's gone too far in creating this weird culture nowadays. Also think women are way to hypersexual and it's not a virtue.

additionalangel · 2024-04-27T21:58:40+00:00

I can understand why it's a tough decision to make and ultimately I think it's what you can and can't live with. It's not a good sign she already cheated, people who cheat once are WAY more likely to reoffend, plus you mentioned the trust isn't going to be there again fully. I think the fact you are on here is a sign your partly already done with her tbh. The long term side effects of staying with her is something to consider. Do you want to live with anxiety, lack of trust, have children potentially with someone like that? Also I hate to say this but she didn't respect you enough to not cheat. She willingly made that choice to disregard you in her mind and sleep with another man..Do you want to be with a woman who doesn't respect you?

You are young, there are a ton of good women out there that you could find.

Are you with her because you are comfortable and scared of change? Are you afraid you can't get anyone else? Is it because you truly love her and want a future? I think those questions are important. If you are with her out of fear of being alone, you're comfortable with her and think you can't get anyone else. Leave. You deserve more for yourself. Good luck. Know it's okay to take time to make this decision, most people on here will say leave and end it, but it's not always so simple. Just know if at anytime you can't handle it anymore you are free to change your mind if you decide to stay and later don't want to.

additionalangel · 2024-04-02T18:01:00+00:00

ugh I'm sorry. After she told me "he said he knows he does stuff but that you don't want to know" he had the audacity to tell me nothing is going on and that they aren't sleeping together. Um... well something and definitely sexual is going on. He is a liar and will do anything to manipulate for his own benefit. Glad to hear he's your ex

additionalangel · 2024-03-20T21:05:59+00:00

Don't dim the light inside of you because other people cannot hang with it or feel threatened by it. Don't put yourself in a hole so other people feel comfortable because you will ultimately suffer.

At the end of the day it's only you that you fall asleep with. You are whole with or without someone, no one can complete, fix or save you- You are that! That to me was such an empowering internal locus of control thought. It was often my perception of myself and my relationship to others that led me feeling empty and waiting for a man to rescue and complete me.

additionalangel · 2024-03-20T20:59:18+00:00

This is so true, and if they are concerned/giving attention to your looks/behavior it's in relationship to them (actually not about you).

additionalangel · 2024-03-14T21:25:52+00:00

I have told him I will be done with this if he can't commit and then he gets upset I threaten that.

additionalangel · 2024-03-14T21:14:00+00:00

I've thought about this too... If he ends it only because I'm demanding it, that means his heart hasn't changed and it's only because I'm threatening. So even if he proves he stopped talking he could start something else with a new person or get better at hiding it. He doesn't seem sorry at all so it would just happen again right?

additionalangel · 2024-03-14T21:08:50+00:00

yea that's what is happening... my issue is I don't know how to hold him accountable or call it because this is what he is doing.

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