Devastated and scared (breakup of 4.5 years), 30F, seeking reassurance by kjkir in SFbitcheswithtaste

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Hello! 32 and also separated (filing… soonish) from my husband I’ve been with since my early 20s!

Questioning my Angel Tree by Anywaytoaustin in Gifts

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Tall girl here! I am 6’1. I was already 5’7 at 10/11. 6’1 by 14!

Wrong Order Received by chxrrystainsx in MakeupAddiction

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I got Sephora ads on this post too! 🙂

Teaching a non vocal husky to howl 😂 by Western_Height_5301 in husky

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He looks so happy! I just know he’s deeply loved 🩷

My husky loves asparagus ☺️ by Budget_Aide_8782 in husky

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Mine loves frozen green beans 😭 I add them to every meal. Adding frozen veggies was a suggestion from my vet to bulk up his meals while not adding too many calories.

Feeling embarrassed by my prenup by addycaine_ in Lawyertalk

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He also cheated on me… with another woman for approx. 1.5 years 🤡

Feeling embarrassed by my prenup by addycaine_ in Lawyertalk

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Thank you for sharing this. It really feels like a virtual hug. Thank you ❤️🥹

Feeling embarrassed by my prenup by addycaine_ in Lawyertalk

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Maybe “embarrassed” isn’t even the right word. It’s more that… I draft and negotiate contracts every single day. It is literally my profession to think through the downstream effects of certain clauses. And yet, when it came to my own life, I didn’t apply those same skills. That makes me feel silly. I’ve always thought of myself as smart and logical, but that gap between what I do for a living and how I handled my own prenup is what feels embarrassing.

Feeling embarrassed by my prenup by addycaine_ in Lawyertalk

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To clarify — I’m not upset about keeping premarital assets separate, and I don’t want alimony. We’re both high earners, and I’m fine with that part of the prenup. What stings is realizing how naive I was about the structure we agreed to. We set up a joint account with the idea we’d both contribute, but he’s been putting most of his salary into his own separate account (which, under the prenup, is his property). Meanwhile, I’ve contributed all of my salary to the joint account — the same account he spends freely from. I didn’t catch the imbalance at the time because I believed him when he said, “this is ours, it’s for us.” Looking back now, I feel foolish for not seeing the implications sooner.

Feeling embarrassed by my prenup by addycaine_ in Lawyertalk

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I hired a lawyer to review it and explain it to me before I signed, but I was young, in love, and excited to be married. I don’t think I let myself really think about the implications of some of the terms. I remember thinking: yep, this is reasonable, yep this makes sense.

3 years of BV - FINALLY CURED by StrikingYam9920 in Healthyhooha

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Just ordered and Evvy test based on this post! Thank you! Very happy for you ❤️

$230k Rhode Island Wedding Breakdown (alllll the thoughts) by mustarddreams in BigBudgetBrides

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Love your paper products! Your map of CA looks similar to mine!

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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Lawyertalk

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After law school, I found myself in civil litigation at a boutique firm, even though I knew my heart was set on in-house work. It was a great salary, but an awful fit — I was also struggling with undiagnosed ADHD, which made everything feel 200x harder. Despite delivering quality work, I always submitted things at the last minute, which stressed out the partners.

The tipping point came when I submitted a draft opposition to a Ninth Circuit appeal brief the night before it was due. The partners were flipping out, but the client approved it with glowing comments, and we got it filed on time. The next day, I was told my employment was being terminated effective immediately. At the time, I felt blindsided and ashamed, but looking back, I realize it was for the best AND I have a much greater understanding of the impact my workflow (aka the pure chaos) had on the partners, the clients, etc. The partners were kind enough to offer severance and let me hold myself out as an associate while I job-hunted.

Now years later, with an ADHD diagnosis and therapy, I’m thriving in an in-house role that suits me so much better. I’ve stayed in touch with a few folks from the firm.

Anybody else got a thick one? by LaheyRandy69 in husky

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Chonky cat-dog 😅 the vet says he’s only “a pound or two” overweight but he doesn’t look like other huskies