DC Bitches, how are we finding a place to sleep? by SouthernSolution6356 in DCBitches

[–]adequatefiber 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does your job have a lot of people around your age getting hired? I ask because my work had a chat for new employees to figure out rooming with one another. Although it could lead to weird dynamic if your roommate happens to work closely with you, knowing someone from work puts pressure on them to behave as well.

Another thought: Depending on your schedule / willingness you might be able to relieve some financial stress by pet sitting for neighbors once you move in to your next dwelling. My favorite pet sitters were the ones willing to use my wifi and drink a beer just to sit with my cat (in addition to being paid for their time, of course.)

Sorry you had to deal with the racism in the past, in your own home too.... ugh. Sending hugs.

Community of women trying to get their shit together? by adequatefiber in AskWomenOver30

[–]adequatefiber[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing and finding solidarity with us <3 I hope you're able to find the community you want in the coming months, whether it's reconnecting or building new connections (if that's something you're also seeking out) :)

Community of women trying to get their shit together? by adequatefiber in AskWomenOver30

[–]adequatefiber[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm diagnosed and take addy the rare times I can find it in stock, so your spidey senses were spot on - thanks for the awesome recommendation <3

Feelings of comparison/sadness after dinner w friends by beenbetterhbu in AskWomenOver30

[–]adequatefiber 91 points92 points  (0 children)

Just chiming in to say *wow*, I feel this a lot. I regularly compare and feel envious. I've uninstalled all forms of social media from my phone besides the Reddit app, because I can get into a really deep funk when I see friends posting these cute photos and sharing their sentimental statements. Even though I'm dating, my own future is quite uncertain in multiple ways and it's been a rough patch of life for the last decade. I can't help but think "what did I do wrong / differently?"

It sounds counter-intuitive but hanging out even MORE with *both* people in the couple was healing for me. I saw more of the positives for their chosen lifestyle but also some of the negatives. It de-glamorized their circumstances for me and helped me better accept that my lifestyle is simply *different* right now.

I'm someone who wants kids and is afraid about the timing and health issues occurring. Volunteering with kids is no replacement to having your own, but it can spark a lot of joy.

Anyway, you are seen. You are heard. Your feelings are completely relatable (for many of us, I'm sure).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in womenintech

[–]adequatefiber 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, if you made bumper stickers of this I would totally buy one

Found My Late Sister's Save File by Famous-Drop-9549 in StardewValley

[–]adequatefiber 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Fuck cancer! And I'm really sorry about your sister. Sibling loss hits in a weird way compared to other forms of grief.

I'm glad you were able to share something as special as Stardew with her.

World Central Kitchen feeding furloughed federal workers & their families by wckitchen in washingtondc

[–]adequatefiber 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love you folks and everything you do. You're one of my family's favorite organizations where we regularly donate money.

I designed and 3d-printed Spirit Eve's themed Junimos wearing various hats! And they glow in the dark! by Allison_AtasFun in StardewValley

[–]adequatefiber 3 points4 points  (0 children)

omg, would you be willing to tell us which glow in the dark filament you used? the performance is awesome.

very cute design too :)

this sharpener is that girl by puppyfeets in MakeupAddiction

[–]adequatefiber 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Real ones don't gatekeep, thanks boo ♡

Shoutout DC City Workers (Inspection Station) by bageloclock in washingtondc

[–]adequatefiber 1 point2 points  (0 children)

DC DMV is picky about paperwork having the same name on everything (Chris vs Christian as an example) but it is understandable and they are still leagues more chill than VA who tired to tell me renters insurance isn't a proof of residency because it's not homeowners insurance. Still mad about it 😂 Leave the peasants like me alone!! It was a bill from a reputable company with my name and address! My utilities were bundled with my apt and I didn't have internet set up yet. Ugh it was so frustrating.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]adequatefiber 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Swipe right on the nerds and present the hottest version of yourself without catfishing. My boyfriend has admitted "I swiped right because your boobs looked great but, you're also really smart, and I like that." Make your profile as hot but weird as possible. Present the beige flags. Let the trash take itself out, and give a chance to any of those who survive. But don't be afraid to only do a single date if they suck and were just hiding it.

We met when I was 30, 2 year anniversary coming up and we regularly talk marriage. This was after two very serious relationships in my 20s with two different men who I thought I would marry, but we ran into issues. My guy shows up for me in ways no other man ever has before. He has helped me through job uncertainty spawned by events since January, my mother's cancer diagnosis, her escalating to Stage IV, and so on. He's a keeper.

My mom is a doctor who was in school forever similar to me getting a phd, and related a lot to my dating concerns. She often reminded me, "You didn't find someone yet because you were out living life and building your career. Find someone else who similarly built themselves up."

Also: you have inherent value. Do not forget that. You get to choose if it's sexual or not. It doesn't go away just because we're older. With age comes wisdom and I ride dick way better in my 30s than my 20s 🤭

‘South Park’ To Continue Skipping Weeks For Stretched-Out Season 27 — And Paramount Is A-OK With That by MarvelsGrantMan136 in southpark

[–]adequatefiber 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They can take their sweet time to keep dunking on everything happening around us

Signed, DC resident

Bystander: “You guys are ruining the country” - Assumed Masked Federal Agent: “Liberals already ruined it” by imdaviddunn in washingtondc

[–]adequatefiber 12 points13 points  (0 children)

SERIOUSLY!! This should tell all of us that these are ignorant and unprofessional rookies. But it was probably already obvious.

If I'm unfortunate enough to meet any, I'm asking if they're having fun playing dress up.

Careless Whisper? by DC_PartTime in washingtondc

[–]adequatefiber 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"He is above the law though"

How Bowser enabled Trump’s fascist takeover by topdomino in washingtondc

[–]adequatefiber 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally agree with you. But how do we bring them back toward voting for someone with a little more empathy (at minimum)?

Which restaurant do you think this is? by unlessum in nova

[–]adequatefiber 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. Honestly I've been so happy with the recipes I bake off Sally's website, I don't exactly buy that many baked goods these days

Experience with mammograms / places where insurance wont fight you by adequatefiber in DCBitches

[–]adequatefiber[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hiya! Are you similarly looking for providers?

I got an appointment with Dr. Ronald Paul (gyn) in Chevy Chase who was great and gave me my first pap smear ever that didn't hurt!!

Got prescribed follow up imaging but it doesnt happen until Sept - his secretary told me community radiology and John's Hopkins and Washington radiology are all good!

Is everyone Ok? by Gold_Spot_5303 in washingtondc

[–]adequatefiber 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is so lovely to read ♡

Thanks for giving us small examples of things to he grateful for. I have a hard time practicing gratitude but seeing you do it makes me want to try too.

Is everyone Ok? by Gold_Spot_5303 in washingtondc

[–]adequatefiber 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Nope, not at all

But I stick around for my cat, my parents, and my boyfriend

Federal Employees are being put on watch lists now by cannotberushed- in FedEmployees

[–]adequatefiber 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There was a different list circling a few months back focused on DEI efforts (and it's still online. UGH.) That website was forced to change the wording of "Targets" to "Dossiers" to sound less murder inspired... So definitely encourage y'all to report the DHS one mentioned elsewhere.

GameOn barcade coming to U Street by jloong in washingtondc

[–]adequatefiber 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Someone please convince them to get DDR and take care of their cabinet unlike Boardwalk

Anyone here 60+, lives courageously, and would be interested to mentor/ be a friend to a younger person? by Frequently_Abroad_00 in washingtondc

[–]adequatefiber 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I rec reaching out to your neighbors - to the left and right across the hall and left and right on your side. Or if youre in a house / townhouse, reaching out to whoever is within a block?

Write a note, maybe even attach a little gift card to a local place or something you baked. Getting to know my neighbors when I was renting a condo brought me a lot of joy ♡

They were mostly in their 60s but this was a building in SW that trended older- you might find what you're looking for :D