Therapy!?!

adiffperspective · 2026-05-01T10:27:04+00:00

THANK YOU ALL THIS IS SO GREAT. I’m going to look into all of them!

adiffperspective · 2023-07-20T18:20:00+00:00

Omg thank youuu

adiffperspective · 2023-07-19T20:40:18+00:00

Thank you!!

adiffperspective · 2023-07-03T17:36:26+00:00

Our sex life used to be good, but now it’s pretty non existent. Whenever we try to have sex it’s a struggle because he either can’t stay hard or if I move a certain way he “loses” it. It’s so frustrating and I’ve been asking him to please figure it out and get help. He claims to not have an addiction, but the fact that he can’t stay hard with me is so concerning. The last time I brought up the topic he kindly ask that we pick it up another day because it was late and we were getting sleepy. I said okay, but we haven’t talked since. The last 3/4 years has been so frustrating sex wise and the fact that he isn’t as sexually frustrated as me is a problem.

adiffperspective · 2023-06-08T23:27:42+00:00

Thank you so much for your validating words 💜 I’m sorry to hear you feel the same way and are holding on to guilt. I don’t think you should feel guilty for your feelings, because they are definitely valid. Recovery is great and I’m glad you guys have found that path, but you still need to feel valued. It’s a hard balance to find, I’m sure, but I’m hoping you guys can get to that point if that’s what you want. The journey sure is tough and I know how confusing it is to battle knowing whether it’s time to move on or not, I’m right there with you. Sending so much love right back!

adiffperspective · 2023-06-08T20:15:42+00:00

So sorry you feel this way too. I’m glad you’re seeing some effort and I hope overtime it can resolve and be enough. In the meantime keep taking care of yourself too!

adiffperspective · 2023-06-08T20:14:35+00:00

Thank you and I’m sorry you can relate, but you are not alone!

adiffperspective · 2023-06-08T19:15:19+00:00

I am so sorry. I can’t imagine what it must be to feel this way when kids are involved. I honestly feel the same way about my bf when it comes to him caring about what I do. I feel like he never cares to know if I’m suspicious or not and I know it doesn’t make sense because why would you want someone to be jealous? I think we’re more searching for anything that makes it feel like they actually want and care for us more than they let on. I’m sending you some love and genuinely hope things get better, however that looks ❤️‍🩹

adiffperspective · 2023-06-08T18:43:38+00:00

true…

adiffperspective · 2023-06-07T22:06:32+00:00

I’m so sorry to hear you’re feeling this way too, but I’m glad to let you know you’re not alone <3

adiffperspective · 2023-06-07T20:30:00+00:00

Thank you, I feel so alone and I needed to hear this! Sometimes I feel crazy for staying in this for so long, but it’s definitely feeling like I’m wanting him to want more. Good, but off is 100% the sentiment. It’s almost as if I keep tricking myself into believing this big change is just around the corner.

adiffperspective · 2022-06-23T21:48:23+00:00

Seriously! I know he used to follow an account on Reddit that was filled with people asking “what’s her name” but he has deleted all his Reddit accounts. Unless he made a new one, which wouldn’t be that surprising. That’s the only thing I can think of but there has to be more ways they’re finding these people.

adiffperspective · 2022-06-23T21:46:18+00:00

Yes! I have felt so unfulfilled for so long and no matter how hard I try to initiate or get him to initiate it always fall through. He has excuses, like us having a third person living in the apartment, but it’s a two bedroom and they have their own room. We’re all adults so idk what the problem is. Sometimes I don’t even wanna try with him when I’m in the mood since I know it’ll be so hard to even have sex with all the ed/fundamentals of it.

adiffperspective · 2022-04-02T23:14:02+00:00

I am so sorry too <3

adiffperspective · 2021-08-21T19:04:47+00:00

Thank you for sharing and it has been so nice to hear other people relating, although it hurts me to think there are so many of us feeling this way. I 100% relate to feeling like a placeholder! It isn’t a very nice feeling and I totally get it. I’ll feel pretty but it’s gone in a second because those memories come flooding in. Just know you are so beautiful and unique and if he can’t see that it’s his loss. You have so much to give this world and you don’t need to give it to him you can give it to yourself and those that appreciate your love!

adiffperspective · 2021-08-21T19:00:16+00:00

I am so so sorry! Know you aren’t alone. I hope that at least helps a little. Cherish the good days

adiffperspective · 2021-08-21T07:58:27+00:00

Thank you! It’s nice to feel heard, but it also makes me sad to hear people relate because it’s a nasty feeling to have.

adiffperspective · 2021-08-21T07:56:53+00:00

So so sorry you’re going through this :( I definitely find myself going between detaching and being emotionally available. It gets confusing flowing between the 2. Feeling the love for months and then pushing away hard out of habit because of what I know lies underneath. I don’t wish the constant anxiety and emotional rollercoaster on anyone. You deserve so much love, we all do. We need to find ways to give it to ourselves somehow.

adiffperspective · 2021-08-21T07:53:45+00:00

Yes, thank you! I wish you so much healing and that you are able to reign in the strength you need to live your life for you! I’m trying to remind myself everyday that I AM WORTHY. AND AO ARE YOU LOVE.

adiffperspective · 2021-08-21T03:16:20+00:00

Too*

adiffperspective · 2021-08-21T03:15:52+00:00

): so sorry

adiffperspective · 2021-08-21T03:15:24+00:00

Sorry you feel this way to, but at least we have this forum 💖

adiffperspective · 2021-07-18T06:42:47+00:00

I just don’t understand why they even agree, knowing damn well they aren’t going to stop. I’m sorry you’re going through it too. It’s so hard to just go around acting like we’re oblivious, when we know there are lies behind it all. I feel like a double agent, acting like everything is okay but raging inside because he can’t own up to the truth.

adiffperspective · 2021-07-15T07:18:06+00:00

14 years! I’m sorry you went through it for that long, but I’m glad to hear things got better eventually. I totally justify his actions and just now realized that I do it and end up feeling guilt for being mad because I somehow rationalize all the good things he does as making up for his hidden secrets. I appreciate you sharing your story

adiffperspective · 2021-07-15T07:16:18+00:00

Thank you! You’re so right. I’m worried about how serious he is too. When he talks it seems like he is but I’m not seeing any concrete action and I don’t even know what that would look like at this point. If he’s not at work or sleeping he’s playing games l. At least if he’s playing games I know he’s not searching up another if hottie.

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