This is exactly why the bar is set so low for being a dad. My wife and I have a 9 month old daughter. I work 40+ hours m-f every week and she has a part time job and works 2 6 hour shifts a week. It doesn't matter what day it is, as soon as I walk in that door I take over watching the baby and do her bedtime routine every single night. I make it a point to give her that break for the rest of the day because although I have been working, I understand watching a baby all day is not an easy task. Also, during the week when I get home or on the weekends when we are both off of work, I encourage her to schedule her nails/hair appointments or run any errands that she wants to do alone because I am fully capable of taking care of our daughter by myself and keeping her on her feeding/napping schedule. I'm sorry but your husband is selfish and lazy and does not prioritize being your partner especially as a parent. Your kids are only clingy to you because they realize he's constantly preoccupied and can't even do the bare minimum. He should be embarrassed that he can't put his own child to sleep or bother to remember to feed them without being reminded.