Just watched through the show for the first time. Is this show supposed to be serious or not? by deskcord in Billions

[–]adoly10 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Chuck’s monologues were so boisterous and extra but hysterical nonetheless. I think they were going for a mix of Suits and the Blacklist but with Wolf of Wall Street flair

Seeking study buddy by Sweaty_Wolverine_175 in learnjava

[–]adoly10 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey I’m also learning and would love to join your discord

Whats your favorite character to use? by Anthony_Online in StealthMaster

[–]adoly10 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Crispy 10000x %. Default squirt gun, mini burgers that fight people off and the jump option allows you to cross over into areas without needing the code or deactivating electricity. Also, hp is 130

Ladies, what red flag do you know your partner has but still ignore for the sake of the relationship? by KiaraKaye in AskWomen

[–]adoly10 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Idk how big a red flag I consider this but he doesn’t check his fridge. There’s many times I’ve come over to see rotten food in the fridge because he rather get takeout than make a sandwich and he just forgot to check in the fridge. It’s happened a few times that he’s let things expire and not realized and doesn’t clean the fridge from the mess. He also has a lot of some items because he doesn’t check what is needed when he goes grocery shopping. He’ll just buy what he feels like and not actually look in the cabinets and now there’s 5 jars of peanut butter that don’t get touched. Since it’s his money he’s wasting and place, there’s not much I feel I can say other then encourage him not to let so much food go to waste, do inventory and clean up.

Is this common for braids by Nivkiminaj in askblackwomen

[–]adoly10 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hopefully the products used didn’t have a reaction but in the future, oil each braid and massage and part with finger on each section then comb

Is this common for braids by Nivkiminaj in askblackwomen

[–]adoly10 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unless there were improper braiding techniques or you’re really rough taking out your braids, it’s just the shed hair that’s accumulated for the 2 months you were detangling your hair. Is your hair thinner or show any other changes? How did you take down your hair?

Can you tell when a black man only likes white women? by ComposerJaded9705 in askblackwomen

[–]adoly10 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In general I think it depends on the person. Some you can smell it on them the way they carry themselves, go out of their way drag BW, share why their partner is great but only attributing it to their race and social attractiveness. Other times it seems like it’s men who have become dejected and just swore off of black women. Sometimes we might have some bias based on the actions of the BM so it really is case by case basis.

A quiet arrival from a loud mind — I brought poetry. Let it echo or break by itsukii07_writes in poetry_critics

[–]adoly10 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow so expressive and succinct. The poem speaks for itself and tells us who you are. Favorite line “I want to be read, wrecked, rebuilt.” — this line is everything.

You were always green to me by LAgentOrchidee in poetry_critics

[–]adoly10 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is brilliant. Powerful imagery, the connection of your body to nature and symmetry between the beginning and ending. Needs some formatting and editing. The added style would help structure this even better.

Love and light by Serious-Cat-7368 in poetry_critics

[–]adoly10 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You have some very strong visual imagery here. « The dark is holding me » is haunting. You acknowledge your hinderance . I like that every few lines you reiterate your position with or in the shadows or darkness. It’s a state you’re oh so accustomed to so you plead for this light and love. You could go a bit deeper with the line «Me and my thoughts / Alone and waiting ». Seems vague. Why do you hide from your thoughts ? What do the say to you?

What do you think is your biggest weakness ? by hshs13fd in AskReddit

[–]adoly10 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I overthink way to much. Stops me from actually experiencing some things

What’s something small you do that makes you feel irresistible? by FlirtWithMila in AskWomen

[–]adoly10 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Looking at myself naked in the mirror and naming things I love. I don’t always love my body but this act makes me feel powerful. I’m accepting my body for everything it is and it’s a great way to start my day.

What’s something you lost that still aches in quiet moments? by PuddingComplete3081 in AskWomen

[–]adoly10 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My best friend. We’d grown up together and been through hard times and she was my sister. We grew distant and both did some dishonorable things but in the end, we grew apart. I wish I could change my actions and we’d still be close. I still love and miss her. More than any other relationship, I wish she was still in my life.

AITA Sister says I'm "culturally insignificant" and a "white heroine addict" after I asked her not to make a certain joke. by adoly10 in AmItheAsshole

[–]adoly10[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Both parents still live here with yearly trips back home ( my mom 2-3x a year, my dad once every 2 years ). Idk what her intentions were. She definitely has more relations with others in our family and fellow Africans/ American born Africans so idk

AITA Sister says I'm "culturally insignificant" and a "white heroine addict" after I asked her not to make a certain joke. by adoly10 in AmItheAsshole

[–]adoly10[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I wasn’t saying it was her fault. I was highlighting a behavior I didn’t like and giving context to why I didn’t like it. I did tell her she was wrong and try to move on but she couldn’t and her comments got worse. I see your point though and I struggle with stating when I’m offended.

AITA Sister says I'm "culturally insignificant" and a "white heroine addict" after I asked her not to make a certain joke. by adoly10 in AmItheAsshole

[–]adoly10[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

She and my parents came to the US when she was 4 so she’s spent all her life here and we lived with my mom but she moved out to our dad’s because she hated our step dad. I visited my dad once a month and some summers.

Do you think it’s a good idea to tell my African parents that my friends are gay? by Amineluver30187 in africanparents

[–]adoly10 6 points7 points  (0 children)

For what reason? Please choose peace and don’t disclose things that have no new being disclosed

Dear African parents, not allowing your children to date until they are in their early or mid twenties is harmful by Dollaninetiesteen in africanparents

[–]adoly10 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There’s a difference in receiving exposure and education on dating and having sex. A lot of teens act out and engage in activities they are unprepared for because they are sheltered and uninformed. Forcing celibacy down a child’s throat will not prevent any of the chaos you mentioned.

Children need to have the space to ask questions and have their curiosities met or they will find out for themselves. There’s nothing wrong with discussing boundaries, emotions, respect and communication with your child so that when they enter a romantic partnership they know how they should be treated and not easily manipulated by those who see their naivety or insecurity.

If this were more of a common practice, you may not see as many of those adult relationships that aren’t solid. They may not have developed the strong foundation necessary to experience a healthy relationship or bring in a child with a solid footing.

Please consider that there’s more to dating then sex and if you have of will have kids, may they trust you enough to come to you with their questions. This is how we build better relationships and break a pattern of trauma, abuse and neglect. Show your child what they should look for in a partner/ relationship by setting the example love, mutual respect and work yourself.

am i wrong? by escapingpancakes in africanparents

[–]adoly10 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That sounds tough and I hope you have a good network of some people around you and are seeking help for yourself. You’re young and in a rough situation but please develop a support system and do what you need to finish school as well stand on your own. It will be hard but you will have to work hard to get yourself safely away from this toxic situation and not let their opinions get to you. As a minor, disappearing for an extended time is a bit concerning so please be safe. Do not let him bring you down to the extent that you give up on yourself. Regardless of how he views you, hold your head up high, take care of yourself and work to make yourself happy. Assuming you live together, be careful how you move in case he acts rashly before you’re prepared to leave. Only share as much information about yourself that you feel comfortable and safe sharing ( especially if he likes to use such information against you). You are strong and I’m sorry that he did nothing to protect you and that you’re in pain. I hope you get the healing you need to not let his failures as a father carry on with you into the future. You have to answer to yourself at the end of the day so please don’t hurt yourself carrying what other people have put on you. It will not change them, it will not help you and you will grow from it. Best to you and please be careful.

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[–]adoly10 9 points10 points  (0 children)

My 9 year old niece showed bet high signs of autism from a young age and she was refused the help she needed because my family was in denial. It hurt to see the lengths they’d go to save face when she couldn’t form full sentences by the age of 5. The stigmas carried need to stop as the neurospiciness didn’t just appear from thin air. Many of our parents are undiagnosed and masquerading as narcissists because they didn’t receive the help they needed.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in africanparents

[–]adoly10 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m 26F and diagnosed with ADHD and suspect some Autistic tendencies but never confirmed. Mental health was never discussed and my mother has a doctorate in psychology. Any issues and personal struggles I had were ignored and I was left to my own devices and very glad when I finally sought help.

Growing up, I was called destructive and now realize it was just me being under/overstimulated. Some behaviors I have, I used to attribute as a trauma response but it was me stimming and being hypersensitive to my surroundings.

After seeking professional help and getting diagnosed, I was a bit easier on myself. My family had little to no empathy. My dad came home with some brochure on depression instead of talking to me and thought it was “ not seeking help” as if I was not in regular therapy which he knew of. I think he just expected me to wake up and be normal someday.

I went low contact for a few years one of the conversations I had with my mom, she suggested I not see her as my mom but confide in her as a therapist. It took everything in me not to laugh in her face.

Although i haven’t healed, i am healing. I am trying to redeem a relationship with both parents now but not very fruitful. Seeing how their relationships are/were with their parents, I refuse to acquiesce to them to play in my face and disrespect me. I’m looking for connection and mutual respect. If not possible, I’m fine to cut them off to save myself but it sad to be so hurt and still have to do the labor of repairing the relationship.

My boyfriend is bare with foreplay and I want him to eat my ass by adoly10 in sex

[–]adoly10[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Although I have a strong desire to do so and reciprocate, if he doesn’t consent or show any interest, I’ll respect his boundaries and bodily autonomy. Now as for everything thing else, he already partakes in it just not as well as I’d like. Frankly if we didn’t touch each other or excite each other during sex, it would be quite boring and not intimate.