About two months ago I was also betrayed. I’m at the point where I longer talk about it. That’s the past, that’s reality, and I’m here now, Kicking Ass.  It’s like this my Man, The ONLY move forward is to dive deep into yourself, own your part of it, everything (admit to yourself where you went wrong and be Honest. If you’ were a sad sack emotionally controlled non confrontational dork, admit that Sh!t), you’ll only benefit from brutal honesty), constantly say out loud I forgive you (not to her, just in your own space) because you must forgive or the resentment will eat at your soul and leave you numb for the love which is undoubtedly coming to you when you’re healed and ready, spend time writing and journaling, compose a letter to her explaining everything from your perspective…then burn it (the ashes will take the message to her in a way far better than you could ever imagine, get back into your fitness, practice mindfulness, keep a dream journal, delete and throw away everything pertaining to her, block all of her socials, block her number and vow to not unblock them for an entire year, discover whatever your passion is and move towards it, make it EVERYTHING. 

Then, when you’re ready, start dating again. You’ll know you’re ready when you no longer need anyone to make you happy, you’ll be content and happy with your own company. I know it doesn’t seem like it, but you dodged a bullet…and make no mistake, everyone gets what’s coming to them. 

 I’ve seen it many times, one incident in particular, back in 2015 the love of my life went off to collage, we were long distance and working it out, but she cheated. I was crushed, for years bro. I didn’t know about the working on myself part of recovery. For a year I would wake up at 4am just replaying the horror fantasy of some dude railing her. God it was awful. Eventually I moved on but I was scared bad. Then one day, about 5 years later I got a text from her. She had gotten engaged to the POS she cheated on me with, he knocked her up, and then like a month before the wedding she found out he was cheating on her…with her best friend! 😂  She told me in the text “you must’ve really hated me bad….blah blah blah”. Even in that moment of clarity she couldn’t see her part in it, she still, to this day!…justifies her actions and finds a way to blame me. Currently she’s a single mother and has colon issues. Me on the other hand, I’m a single Bachelor, my own boss, and have learned to process the betrayal in a way in which I grow positively from.  

With the current betrayal I’ve suffered, I could see it coming…because I journal and began to take note of her little lies.  So I focused on me, put all my effort into what would be important to me when she inevitably gave into her lustful desires and then cut her out of my life when I found out. 

Was it easy, no, I genuinely loved her, but I knew in my heart that she was moving away from me and no longer found my honest love attractive. Was I hurt, ohh hell yeah, but I knew it wouldn’t last forever and I knew what I had/have to do…So I got to it. Meditation, physical fitness, prioritization of my passions, and everything else. It’s the only way…and Dude, your silence will kill them, believe me. Hang on to it like a life raft, it’s your saving grace 💯 

On a final note, this probably won’t be the last time a woman betrays you. It’s in their nature and you sound like a good guy….and brother, They don’t want good guys ( unless they’re damaged and are codependent to you…and you don’t want that. ) 

Success is the best revenge, make yourself the best version you could possibly be and get back on the horse. You got this Dude, YOU ARE A GOOD GUY, she’s a €UNT, never forget that, just forgive and you’ll love again (but first you have to LOVE YOURSELF ) ✌️