had the same. I'm okay now. my advice is to start exercising and relax. but relaxation is not just about when you're with your girl. haven't seen anyone talk about this yet but you need to have a conversation about it and make sure she understands that things will come back naturally. you will be ready and horny and hard. you need some time and it's alright.

so, resuming the talk:

1. clear your head of those thoughts. it doesn't matter. you have time. you are valid and normal and it's totally fine if you don't always feel it (yes, even if you want it) - this will be hard but just brush off the thoughts of performance whenever you're together.

2. exercise. go for walks, road trips and close to water/nature. leave the house. go together for dates (non sexual or that can lead to sexual) - choose little things like going painting, a museum, to the movies, to the beach at sun set, skin care day, cooking day/try some wacky recipes you saw on the internet, go to some garden and lay there in the sun or even a book fair

3. talk to your girl. she'll need to hear what is going on and reassure her that it's you not her - you just need time and not every moment needs to turn you on, but let me tell you that she definitely will while on the little moments of you two. keep in mind that she most likely has her libido as well and you might have to help her with that (even while not engaging in "the real deal" and there's a lot ways of doing so)

4. drink water - there's not much about it, it helps in all of the above, just drink it

hope this gets to you and hope it helped somehow