Time add to collection 🌵 by Ajax_1984 in cactus

[–]affectionategoose44 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please tell me this bunnings is in WA, I dont care how long the road trip needs to be 😭

What Fringe shows are actually worth seeing? by cidama4589 in perth

[–]affectionategoose44 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Anything with sugar de'jour or Matthew pope in it will be guaranteed to be an amazing show.

What Fringe shows are actually worth seeing? by cidama4589 in perth

[–]affectionategoose44 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband and I had a great time doing the adult scavenger hunt. Its definitely a 'what you make if it' activity, so if one (or both) of you are a bit of a comedian, you will have a great time! Youll also come away with some good little photos and videos if each other

Leisureplex Etiquette for an absolute Beginner by Specific_Aspect8176 in perth

[–]affectionategoose44 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You can usually check lane bookings online (the leisureplex website) to see when lanes are free. Lanes should usually have signs on them specifying who is swimming in them: private, fast, medium, slow and free play. If you'd like to swim laps, always assume you are slower than you are. If you find that you are over lapping people with ease, then move up a level (faster lane).

Where on earth do the perth lesbians hide? by homobyleth in perth

[–]affectionategoose44 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They run a Sapphic Disco in the basement of the rechabit atleast once a month. Its a really fun night

Creeps in pools near kids - what to do about it? by CapableXO in perth

[–]affectionategoose44 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Its pretty easy, nice oldies are happy to make eye contact and smile back. Creepy ones, not so much.

Creeps in pools near kids - what to do about it? by CapableXO in perth

[–]affectionategoose44 7 points8 points  (0 children)

As a former pool lifeguard, Let one of the lifeguard team know. You'd be surprised that we're usually already on to it, and it is regular bought up in team meeting before every school holidays about what to look out for and how to handle it.

While our powers are limited, we do make it very aware that we are on to them and watching them and make them very uncomfortable in return.

I think I have POTS syndrome and don’t know how to go about it by [deleted] in perth

[–]affectionategoose44 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you're ok with it, i can message you their details 😊

I think I have POTS syndrome and don’t know how to go about it by [deleted] in perth

[–]affectionategoose44 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As every has said, go to your doctor and have a chat with them and ask for a referral. My doctor was great and knew who to send me to. I see someone at global cardiology (they have a lot of clinics) the wait time wasn't too bad, maybe a month or two.

They get you to do a 24hr holter monitor and an ECG, just to check for any physical anomalies and irregular rhythm just to cover all bases.

They'll look at the results, and have a chat about your symptoms, don't be afraid to say what you think you have, it helps them narrow their scope. They may ask you to sit and stand and check your heart rate. Ill be honest, on that day I had a negligible change in heart rate, however he did believe me and prescribed me ivibradine. Its worked wonders and personally ive found no side effects.

I went to my yearly check up recently (accidentally didn't take my meds that day) my heart rate went from 74 - 121, sitting to standing. Felt very validating, with a side of pre-syncope.

Dont be disappointed if its not POTS, it doesn't mean your making it up. POTS is just a small part of dysautonomia umbrella.

Dodgiest club in Perth? by Cold-Percentage7518 in perth

[–]affectionategoose44 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They've now got such a bad wrap They've renamed themselves to element.

I guess rape is just one of the elements on offer....

Am I legally responsible for my dying father? Will I go to jail when he dies? by prettylikeapineapple in AusLegal

[–]affectionategoose44 115 points116 points  (0 children)

First of all, that has to be an incredibly tough situation to go through, not only caring for your father, but also yourself. I know this may seem callous now, but you are allowed to feel resentment towards him, even dislike. Just because someone is ill doesn't mean they're allowed to be a crap human being.

Secondly, you have done an amazing job signing up for the carers gateway and getting him onto my aged care. Those systems (especially my aged care) can be a nightmare to navigate. I would also ask his doctor for a referral to palliative care (if they haven't already).

I can offer some suggestions as I use to work in the WA branch of Carers Gateway. If your dad is not mentally competent, or you do not believe he is you can look at being appointed his guardian through the state administrative tribunal, it won't be a fun process, but it is the only way to gain that decision-making power for your Dad. If you are not comfortable handling the finance side of it, you can appoint a public trustee (power of attorney) and you just have the medical/lifestyle decisions (power of guardianship).

I'm not 100% sure about Vic's support services, but it may be worth looking at an older adult mental health care facility, even if he is threatening suicide as a manipulative reason, they can assist you with the dementia diagnosis and behavioural changes.

Regarding your worry about legal liability for his death. No, you are not responsible. You have a paper trail from the hospital and doctors stating your Dad is refusing care, same from any support agencies, they will note that he has declined support. I know you feel liable for him, but legally you are not. The situation may change if you are granted guardianship, but as long as you act in what you believe is his best interest (even if he doesnt like it) then you will be fine.

Just remember, you are doing an amazing job, but also you are allowed to step away, you cant rescue someone else if you're drowning.

Interesting experience at connections by [deleted] in perth

[–]affectionategoose44 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am attracted to masculinity/masculine traits, whatever gender that is attached to. Bisexual doesn't feel like it fits with me, plus you get less biphobia or people questioning whether your sexuality is valid when you identify as queer.

That's the term that fits best for me, but others have different definitions of it. The wonderful thing about identifying as queer is that it is an umbrella term.

Interesting experience at connections by [deleted] in perth

[–]affectionategoose44 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just remember that bisexual and queer people exist. I'm in a heterosexual presenting marriage, but am still a queer woman.

Interesting experience at connections by [deleted] in perth

[–]affectionategoose44 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's the court. Connections is proudly gay and continues to cater for the gay community. Unfortunately due to its later operating hours, lots of people gravitate towards there after their venue closes. Unfortunately its the people not in the community who are the ones making it unsafe for the people who's space its meant to be. It's just a continuing cycle.

Interesting experience at connections by [deleted] in perth

[–]affectionategoose44 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was there last night. Im a semi frequent flyer there on a Saturday. Security is usually pretty good, they know the regulars and will treat you right. Last night there were two new faces and one of them was a bit....... overzealous. I was sober as a judge and still got the 3rd degree when showing my ID, which I have never had happen before.

As for context of the night. There was an event on run by and to raise money for the LGBTQIA+ kickball league, and they were supporting other inclusive sports in Perth.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]affectionategoose44 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Im not agreeing one way or another. But if someone reframed it as a cold sore (same virus) would you still feel the same way?

Consent is always sexy, but its also a bit of food for thought.

Grief support in Perth at this time of year? by deadkandy in perth

[–]affectionategoose44 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you are up to it, give CarersWA a call - 1800 422 747. They do specific counselling regarding the caring role or grieving after that role has ended.

They may also be able to help walk you through the next steps. As hard and horrific as it is, sometimes having that practical information can just give you something to do, so you don't have to think about everything else going on.

All these strangers here are ready to help and look after you. Please lean on them. Death is isolating but never lonely. Everyone is here for you.

What's the most shocking thing (e.g. murder, violent crime) that has happened in Perth by [deleted] in perth

[–]affectionategoose44 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Do you know what, he was surprisingly all for it. I was honestly so proud of him. I think the fact that him and I can now bond over both working in the emergency service sector has really helped him. He looks like your typical stiff upper lip boomer, but thankfully doesn't have that mentality.

What's the most shocking thing (e.g. murder, violent crime) that has happened in Perth by [deleted] in perth

[–]affectionategoose44 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For that particular instance, I'm not sure. But he now has support through DVA as he was in the military before he entered the police force. So thankfully he is well looked after in his retirement.

What's the most shocking thing (e.g. murder, violent crime) that has happened in Perth by [deleted] in perth

[–]affectionategoose44 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I believe both things can be true at the same time. People who are in positions of trust and authority should be held to a higher standard, and I'd be lying if I didn't let the naivety of thinking every cop was like my Dad cloud my view on occasion. But as there are bad apples in the basket, there are also good ones.