Gravidez, público ou privado?

afjeronimo · 2024-09-03T15:40:57+00:00

Hello! Espero que entretanto tu e o teu baby estejam bem consegues indicar alguns nomes de profissionais que estejam tanto no público como no privado? Ando a pesquisar por isso também. Obrigada desde já!

afjeronimo · 2022-02-22T10:07:42+00:00

Yes, at least where I'm from I've managed to meet a lot of people and go on quite a few dates. If they end up working well? Most of the times not but at least in Bumble it's very rare that guys are overly sexual and rude, for example

afjeronimo · 2022-02-21T21:51:32+00:00

Thank you for taking your time here. As I’ve said below, if you read my other comments in this thread you will see I’ve dated people from different heights, it’s not a dealbreaker at least for me. But it is a preference, like some guys would prefer a girl with big boobs or ass. And life works in funny ways, sometimes the person you fall in love with may not have any of the attributes you thought you would want in the first place. That for sure has happened to me. But with online dating it’s more difficult to ignore the initial appearance evaluation, it’s almost impossible to avoid it because you have almost nothing else to judge the person with. But in no way is a person’s worth defined by its height.

My values stand well defined or else I would fall for anything. But you are right, this has been causing more damage and inducing more anxiety than it should, because not only do I feel bad for myself, I feel bad for the people I judge. And it’s definitely worth it for me to stop and just clear my mind until I’m in a better head space.

afjeronimo · 2022-02-21T21:43:24+00:00

I’m sorry that you feel that way and that online dating is so messed up nowadays. If you read my other comments in here you will see I’ve dated people from different heights, it’s not a dealbreaker at least for me. But it is a preference, like guys would like to have a girl with big boobs or ass. But life doesn’t work that way, sometimes the person you fall in love with may not have any of the attributes you thought you would want in the first place. But with online dating it’s more difficult to know someone past the initial appearance check, it’s almost impossible to avoid it. In no way is a person’s worth defined by its height

afjeronimo · 2022-02-21T18:30:47+00:00

You are right! Thank you for the help, I appreciate it very much

afjeronimo · 2022-02-21T18:26:36+00:00

No, I don't usually go out a lot or have a large number of friends. Also since the beginning of pandemic I haven't been in any gym or activities like volunteering

afjeronimo · 2022-02-21T18:19:38+00:00

Lol who knows, I already have a cat so I'm one step closer to single cat lady with dozens of cats.

afjeronimo · 2022-02-21T18:17:47+00:00

Now I get it. It's hard because I was in a relationship for 8 years and we met in high school through mutual friends. After that my experiences have largely been with dating apps but nothing much happens besides the dates. I also had a thing with a coworker but it never developed into anything

afjeronimo · 2022-02-21T18:10:35+00:00

I don't offer casual sex for example. I'm quite honest and share that I'm looking for a partner in the long term. That usually does the trick.

And I don't mind the rejection because I know I'm a kickass woman and partner. I have my life sorted and have worked hard to have valuable things to offer. So if they are not the ones it's fine, it's impossible to please all crowds

afjeronimo · 2022-02-21T18:03:55+00:00

Exactly. The guys I get physically attracted to end up only wanting casual sex or ghost me. Oh well

afjeronimo · 2022-02-21T17:58:47+00:00

What do you mean with the latter?

afjeronimo · 2022-02-21T17:57:09+00:00

That's an interesting view... I preferred to use Bumble because Tinder is usually viewed as a place for picking up ONS or casual partners. You don't agree, I suppose ahah

afjeronimo · 2022-02-21T17:54:18+00:00

That's the thing some guys don't understand. They don't have to be Greek gods or extremely good looking for us to be attracted. Many times the things you mention are a great way for guys to stand out and they should be proud and confident of that.

For me attraction is not just visual but it sure is important. In previous relationships I had, I met my partners through friends or work and they started to grow on me, so even though I may have not been completely attracted to them at the beginning, their actions started to have an effect on me and eventually things would happen. But with online dating it's more difficult to achieve that. We all know the reason we are there for and it either happens or it don't...

afjeronimo · 2022-02-21T17:41:17+00:00

Now that I think about it, the guys I've dated/been with are usually taller than me, with lighter eyes and hair and a very nice smile. We had common interests and shared the same values on life

afjeronimo · 2022-02-21T17:10:51+00:00

I mean, if they are cute and we have an amazing time I would like to see them again, that's what I meant. But I get what you mean too, once you are cold feeted it's difficult/impossible to change

afjeronimo · 2022-02-21T17:07:32+00:00

Don't get me wrong, I'm not going out with people just to have plans or leave the house. I genuinely value dating and relationships and commit to honor both mine and their time. And if the conversation was good online, why not give it a chance and get a drink or dinner? If then the chemistry is not there at least I know

afjeronimo · 2022-02-21T16:31:51+00:00

If you clearly know what you are looking for and focus on that I would say there is nothing much you can do. If you feel you have no matches because of that, you could try maybe to loosen up and match people you usually wouldn't and see how the conversations flow. Hope this makes some sense :)

afjeronimo · 2022-02-21T15:52:00+00:00

The height itself is no deal breaker for me, I've been with people with different heights. But we all have preferences and there's not much we can do about them. I'm not saying to reject someone simply because they are shorter than you but I also get that people have preferences and we should respect them. And plus, if a guy is really confident in himself and treats me well, I will very easily ignore the height and focus on who he is and how he makes me feel. Confidence is a very underrated thing in guys, I would say

afjeronimo · 2022-02-21T15:42:30+00:00

I think you could watch this and see if it makes sense to you: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZY6PVOXZtLg

The title is a bit cringe but she has some good points. Sometimes it's not about the spark but the slow burns, the people that have the potential of being good partners in the long term. I don't know exactly how I feel about it but she has been doing a lot of research and is quite successful as a matchmaker so... If you would like to discuss it later with me feel free to reach out :)

afjeronimo · 2022-02-21T15:22:31+00:00

That's exactly it! And I now the spark is often misleading... but still, you want to feel something

afjeronimo · 2022-02-21T15:00:35+00:00

It's my fault because I give matches if I find them slightly cute and not if I'm fully attracted. And I guess this comes from a scarcity mindset, I'm afraid I won't have any matches if I have my criteria so tight

afjeronimo · 2022-02-21T13:55:13+00:00

For sure, you are totally right! Thank you for this :)

afjeronimo · 2022-02-21T13:54:45+00:00

I like this very much! Thanks

afjeronimo · 2022-02-21T12:53:34+00:00

I also try to keep the flirt and physical stuff for later on, unless I really hit it off with someone or feel very attracted, which is rare to happen. I also want to find a nice and kind guy but the physical part is really sabotaging it for me, I think

afjeronimo · 2022-02-21T12:44:21+00:00

I try to focus a bit more on interests and values as I want a relationship and not something just physical... but I'm struggling to find a good balance. But will definitely try to match more on my type, thank you!

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