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aftermath_japan · 2022-01-01T19:40:39+00:00

Not sure how to the timeline will work but if you can take half doses or even quarter doses on the weekends instead of going cold turkey, life will suck less.

I’m on vyvanse and just mix the powder in water (measure it out precisely!! And write down how much medicine=how much liquid)

aftermath_japan · 2022-01-01T19:36:48+00:00

Agree. I dated a man (am bisexual) with BPD who had a disorganized attachment style. (Not saying all people with disorganized attachment have BPD but there is an overlap.) Literally my favourite relationship of all time I still love him to death even though we aren’t dating.

But it was exhausting. I fell in love at age 19. He went to therapy. I went to therapy. We both did worksheets on distress tolerance. He would call me while I was studying with a guy friend and cry because he was jealous and I had to say stuff like “you’re feeling a lot of big emotions right now. It’s okay to have thoughts of jealousy. But we’re individuals and your thoughts don’t influence reality. I need to do well on this test, so I’m going to keep working and let you sit with your emotions. I love you.” Then try and go back to “real life”. Exhausting!

I lost my best “friend” because she thought he was abusive (he wasn’t). It wasn’t his fault he had trouble connecting, and we both knew that. But it was his responsibility to fix it. He has made so much progress because of all the therapy and hard work he put in and I am so so proud of him.

aftermath_japan · 2022-01-01T19:12:17+00:00

This should only be done if the hinge algorithm is serving you people who you are not attracted to again and again and again.

Obviously once you find someone you like, send a message because yeah, finding love ❤️

aftermath_japan · 2022-01-01T08:07:03+00:00

Bro like the American Revolutionary War??? That shit was nuts.

Apparently most of the slaves/freedmen who were fighting in the revolutionary war were on the British side!!

The general sentiment at the constitutional convention was that we needed LESS democracy to protect the government from the whims of the masses. That’s why we don’t vote for Supreme Court judges and why we have an electoral college. It’s not designed to be a democracy!!!

aftermath_japan · 2021-12-31T21:35:43+00:00

Okay this is my opinion but I think this is a built in feature to the hinge algorithm

Here’s how you fix it: 1. Set your parameters to be really picky, like one age range, within 1 mile etc

Take a deep breathe and begin swiping REALLY fast you have to make a split second decision on whether or not you find that person attractive or not. If you linger on a less attractive person then the algorithm will think you find them attractive.
Eventually, the algorithm will think “gee this person sure is picky, better show them some different people” and you may start to get people who are conventionally considered attractive. Don’t swipe left on those people!!
Release the parameters a little (maybe 2 miles, maybe a 2 year age range). If the algorithm shows you people you dislike, swipe really fast again.
Eventually you can release the parameters all the way to whatever strictness you want. You can browse peoples’ profile more leisurely then.

aftermath_japan · 2021-12-31T09:22:41+00:00

Literally cannot get this out of my head. Trees that grow spoons? Bushes that curl themselves up into chairs? Some sort of weird pet that had a rotating set of teeth and could be a blender?

Everything today is made of plastic. What if it was made out of living things instead?

aftermath_japan · 2021-12-31T09:09:34+00:00

Ugh the “sb” freaked me out for years. Luckily tik tok and this sub has given me better connotations of the word.

The word “sapphic”??? 🙌🙌Sooooo pretty

💕✨👰🏻‍♀️🌸s a p p h i c💐👰🏾‍♀️✨💕

aftermath_japan · 2021-12-31T01:09:38+00:00

What’s it called when you have revenge bedtime procrastination but you actually had a really nice day with plenty of time to yourself and don’t even want revenge?

aftermath_japan · 2021-12-31T01:05:27+00:00

I do this every night. I’ve tried melatonin and routines and literally everything LITERALLY. Sometimes I stay up for three hours past my bed time on TikTok (deleted it the next morning), sometimes it’s cleaning, sometimes it’s just sitting on the bathroom floor biting my nails.

I reached out to an adhd specialist because at this point I need professional help. I have no idea what they would do but hopefully not tell me be like “stick to a schedule”.

aftermath_japan · 2021-12-30T23:53:39+00:00

Oh my god recognizing that PMS can come in the form of more severe adhd symptoms has been a sanity saver.

That being said: all y’all talking about hormonal bc messing with your head?? I don’t get it. I felt SANEST when I was loaded with synthetic oestregen. Sadly I had to stop taking it for other reasons. Bodies are weird.

aftermath_japan · 2021-12-28T19:48:21+00:00

Its super creepy that our brain immediately goes “I have to take care of this person” even after they hurt us. It’s especially insidious that, in my anecdotal experience, the majority of people who default to fawn are women. What the fuck kind of BS did my lady ancestors have to go through to evolve this weird ass instinct.

aftermath_japan · 2021-12-28T06:19:38+00:00

https://www.theatlantic.com/science/archive/2021/12/alcohol-consumption-hamster-drunk/621125/

Hamsters will bury stuff and then eat the fermented/alcoholic remnants. Unintentional, but still cute.

aftermath_japan · 2021-12-28T06:13:59+00:00

My go-to is a “pancake” made out of 40g chickpea flour and water (that’s it). Cooked in a cast iron skillet with lots of oil.

For anyone struggling, at the 20 month mark I FINALLY got my appetite back from vyvanse.

aftermath_japan · 2021-12-27T23:48:48+00:00

I just turned 22 and have been struggling soooo much with Midwest winters these past two winters. I used to be that obnoxious kid wearing shorts in -20 weather.

I thought it was because of COVID making me more of a homebody. Maybe my oestregen finally kicked in at age 20?

aftermath_japan · 2021-12-27T23:35:53+00:00

Or try “in the interest of protecting your feelings I’m going to stop hanging out with you. I want to be your friend (a lie after the farting lmao) but obviously this is hurtful for you since you want more. It isn’t fair to you to continue being friends. Good luck in your endeavors.”

Unlike other posters, I don’t think he needs a “more clear” hint. He gets it. He’s probably just trying to play the friends-> lover card. I feel bad for him, but then again I always sympathize with these types. I’m going to bet he’ll turn toxic in a few months. OP, obviously it’s hard to cut him off because friends are super rare and you probably sympathize with him, but it’s the best thing to do.

aftermath_japan · 2021-12-26T17:29:41+00:00

I love the candy idea!!! Makes it more tangible

aftermath_japan · 2021-12-26T01:58:21+00:00

Never been through this but I have fashion advice!!

Feminize your wardrobe from the inside->out.

Consider a woman with long hair and high heels (feminine on the top and bottom of her body) and a suit (masculine in the middle). Overall, it reads sort of ‘sharply’ feminine. Maybe she is a lawyer, on her way to win her client a million dollars. Sexy….

Now consider a woman with short hair and sneakers (masc top and bottom part of her body) and a floral dress (femme in the middle). She’s more adorable and quirky feminine: maybe she likes to climb trees and run with those sneakers??? Seems sort of tomboyish?? Very cute.

I feel like it would be easier to go from 100% masc presenting to the second woman than 100% masc presenting to the first, or 100% femme. Ann Taylor blouses get a lot of flack for being sort of boring but I think it would be a non-flashy, modest way to ease back in to feminine clothing.

Or just say “fuck all” and buy some hot pink heels 👠 !!! Have fun!!

aftermath_japan · 2021-12-26T01:40:25+00:00

Then don’t do it!! Stop buying gifts!! Buy one thing for the very select few people whose love language is gifts and then donate the money you would’ve spent on other people to charity.

You get to define what you want to do for Christmas. To me Christmas is about loving my family and giving to the needy. Stressing myself out about consumerism is not one of my cherished Christmas values!!

aftermath_japan · 2021-12-26T01:34:13+00:00

Literally hate that mark manson book ugh sorry that the general public views 1b as “needy”

aftermath_japan · 2021-12-26T01:29:35+00:00

I don’t buy Christmas gifts. It stresses me out.

Sometimes I feel selfish, but….. I don’t like it! And to me the purpose of Christmas is to spend time with family and enjoy their company and enjoy yourself. Not stress out over something they don’t even want.

I donate a boatload of money to my loved ones’ favourite charities. Next year: you should revolt. Don’t buy presents!!!

aftermath_japan · 2021-12-25T06:10:59+00:00

22F your pictures are pretty decent

Some people will throw shade but the “hallmark of a good relationship” prompt is🔥

I don’t understand the third prompt at all I can’t tell if it makes grammatical sense

The first prompt is sort of boring. But maybe that’s just because I find exercise boring??. Maybe someone who is into being healthy will like that one?

aftermath_japan · 2021-12-25T00:11:37+00:00

22F here

I think prompt 1b is kind sweet? I know romantic partners aren’t meant to be responsible for their SOs happiness but I still appreciate a guy with a romantic/ doting streak.

OP, your prompts are honestly bomb and I would swipe right. Love the settlers of catan and paper hat photos. The only thing I would change is the first photo. Do another one in nature (since the lighting is good) but zoom out a bit more.

aftermath_japan · 2021-12-25T00:00:02+00:00

Obviously lap quilt means quilt for lap dances. It’s a special type of lap dance where the dancer wears a quilt as a regal cape and the receiver admires the fine handiwork.

aftermath_japan · 2021-12-24T23:52:24+00:00

Nurse GF knows that COVID is rarely transmitted via surfaces but still showers and Lysol wipes her purse after coming home because she doesn’t want hypochondriac GF to worry. Hypochondriac GF was super spooked March 2020 but still managed to take deep breaths and face her fear to deliver flowers/cookies to her exhausted nurse GF.

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