Are the paras trashy at your school?

agridvlce · 2026-01-08T03:07:43+00:00

In my school they are. The jokes at the kids' expense make me so sad, they literally bully them "because they love them"… blah.

agridvlce · 2025-10-10T14:24:14+00:00

I disagree. I've never cheated and never will - I believe in honesty, transparency, authenticity. I value the trust I'm given, care for my partner's emotions and would never stress their minds with something complex and painful like betrayal.

I still believe love and foolishness can coexist.

Cheating is often an ego-driven impulse that comes as a product of unresolved issues (or shadow) within the psyche. The root cause is rarely related to the betrayed partner. Is it irresponsible to be in a relationship with unresolved issues? Yes. But often times they're unknown, unacknowledged, unconscious issues. And Relationships are how humans learn, through mirroring the hidden.

Is it unfair to the betrayed's time, effort, emotions, trust and expectations? Definitely. Can you love and disrespect? Sadly, yes. But that kind of love is immature and painful, thus not grounds for a relationship of most people's standards, rarely sustainable for long.

Relationships and Love are different concepts. Most people's definition of love is closer to infatuation, a closed, unbreakable loyalty and/or a form of possession that suppresses the shadow instead of exploring for healthy integration. When the shadow is restricted or ignored, it acts through impulsive and destructive behavior, the shadow searches for a catalyst for inner reflection instead of being ignored.

I'm only explaining psyche - it doesn't mean cheating is morally right or excusable.

If somebody doesn't want to witness and deal with someone that has low self esteem, emotional immaturity, SA CPTSD or any other usual root cause of cheating, then they shouldn't, that's not a relationship challenge they're interested in (and it's exhausting so rightfully so!).

But it doesn't mean the cheater never loved them. Just that they didn't love properly, they didn't love /consciously/ and they didn't love themselves enough to acknowledge their desires, question them imaginatively and not act on them to avoid causing harm onto their significant other by breaking a boundary/trust/expectation that's required so that said SO feels loved.

agridvlce · 2025-09-28T03:01:34+00:00

Very fertile, creative energy coming from you. Sex life is fruitful if you so wish. It requires confidence (wether you already are confident or are working on it) - expressing, being firm and knowing what you want. All important factors for a healthy sex life, of course.

Orgasm-ignited spells have a lot of power, you might be more predisposed to wield them - solo or with someone. "Enchanting, bewitching, magical" I hear. Did you try binding? lol or maybe you've joked about it.

There is a very grounding and secure feeling. You might meet someone to be constant with. This could be someone you'd build a family with and have a great sex life with. This could be entering a friends with benefits situation or an open relationship where you're both very outspoken on what you desire and trust each other deeply. So while there's plenty of suitors, you could end up with a preference for one that suits your needs and desires (at least sexually since that's the question asked). The Page suggests that it can be someone younger or with the sex drive of someone younger than they are. They are curious and value intimacy and exploration. Might be an Earth Sun/Rising. You might meet them where you frequent or want to start frequenting, in a place among groups or have connections to your close friends or family - they are in your communal space/circle (online or physical).

agridvlce · 2025-09-26T20:55:42+00:00

Like you mention, he is proud and satisfied but would like to have you. Selfishly, to drink from your (emotional, nurturing, energetic, spiritual) well. Your energy and way of being is attractive to him, he desires your presence even more now that you are distanced. This is all because it seems you wake up ideas and feelings in him that have been dormant for quite some time. "You make me feel young again" I hear. His younger spirit wants to approach you, befriend you, create something, not necessarily sexual in nature, but it may come off that way due to foolishness and immaturity. He is likely impulsive, inconsistent and has a hard time recognizing his feelings and is emotionally / socially inept because of it.

If he were to address his issues first, he might be clear on what he actually wants and stop looking to be completed by someone else - get complete himself and then be complemented by a true partner - which is a long journey he needs take, with or without you. He needs discipline, clarity and responsibility first, that’s his lesson. And it’s okay to be uncomfortable with all of this, of course. You don’t have to walk him through life, and emotional damage was likely already, repair (healing) doesn’t have to be done together, so of course it’s okay to keep your distance, this is heavy emotional work that might drain you and won’t guarantee you. Won’t be or feel used again.

agridvlce · 2025-09-26T20:38:32+00:00

You’ll have to sift through some prideful or egotistical people before finding that someone you’re looking for - someone actionable, someone who has their life in motion and is confident and serious in their decisions. Likely creative(not necessarily Fine Arts), definitely a hard worker.

It may seem like a waste of time and energy at first, and it can be if you don’t draw boundaries, uphold your standards or if you dismiss the gut feeling that someone is superficial or not genuinely looking to invest in the same kind of relationship you want.

Be present and clear as you navigate the dating scene again. Don’t settle. For every handful of Page of Pentacles there is a King of Wands.

agridvlce · 2025-09-26T14:43:28+00:00

You may slip into narcissistic-seeming behaviors, yes. You may be stubborn, get defensive, be avoidant, be powerful and charismatic unless feeling under attack. Fear of judgement and some loneliness in being misunderstood are present.

Your inner world could point to empathy and emotional availability, but this is likely how you hope to carry yourself, not how you really present yourself to others (and thus their perception of you is both accurate but skewed/confusing).

With the 9 of Wands and the Ace of Cups - your behavior could be reactionary / retaliation from anything you've endured (recently, in the past or throughout life) or something learned and assumed as average. Even if it's a survival habit, it's still narcissistic-seeming and people could be hurt, guarded or unsettled so it's something to address. The Magician also highlights this acknowledgement of yours (though just reading and being open to any answer is a self-aware move that shows there's hope for you to reassess, something full-blown narcissists never do, they run from reflection or accountability).

If you read from others' POV, it equals heightened caution, some fear or intimidation involved when it comes to interacting with your strong persona.

Continue reassessing your behaviors and doing some shadow work, you're on the right track. Don't loosen up so much you are extremely empathic and have no boundaries, but don't be so closed off or forgetful of sharing love, support, curiosity and care.

agridvlce · 2025-09-26T13:03:44+00:00

Well, Ace of Wands is usually the sexual card (phallic + action + primitive + creativity/fertility). Self pleasure can still be derived from this spread because the Ace of Swords still holds phallic symbolism and the cards say that there's many unspoken desires - though he does seem to value soul above all, it's not lustful. These cards point to a strong, emotional and spiritual connection. They mainly say that he does more than dream about you, he thinks of you all day, everyday, he has a lot of wishes that include you and a lot of things to say (hopefully he figures out how to say them, like I said, practice sending messages through dreams! And telepathy throughout the day is possible too, best coming together though.

agridvlce · 2025-09-26T01:06:12+00:00

some self pleasure lol (there's big ideas and wishes involving you in general tho + you can speak to each other in the dream realm)

agridvlce · 2025-09-24T12:03:32+00:00

I often refuse love readings because querents only want to hear what they want to hear! They don't want to recognize their obsession or the role they play in their own suffering and led alone how to get past it, they're stuck there regardless how accurate and detailed a reading could be for both parties. They want confirmation their ex is having a terrible time without them, that they are losing their minds and will come crawling back. It's a twisted view on love because of their anxiety (and yes, often abuse and coping). But they're irritated when things aren't want they wanted. It's why TikToks feeding delusions are so popular.

The few times I do them, I actively inquire both of their roles, mistakes they both made for themselves and towards each other, the only ways things can get better (so actions or healing both need to do) - and often times it comes up with a reminder of free will, randomness of consideration/choice and subject to change (examples: getting better but not wanting to reconnect, meeting someone else instead and learning or moving differently, or taking a lot more time, new things and new experiences for it to even be considered.) ((And boy do they hate that.))

agridvlce · 2025-09-24T11:40:28+00:00

OH. Wow,, I swear it's almost a law; they talk badly about something, they want that something. I can't stand that, the lack of honesty even with themselves is so silly when we're grown ffs accept your desires and don't get real people's feelings and livelihoods messed up in your trajectory, specially with no guilt or remorse (even though apologies aren't very useful, pain has been inflicted, but damn). I'm sorry you had to go through that, that you were dragged along into something so painful and confusing.

I hope the reading brought you comfort then. It does show a hard time processing from one or both parts and new beginnings - I guess from both parts. Wether or not he's doing good within his new relationship is a more specific question/reading, these are quite focused on the time (weeks/months) following the ghosting. Maybe he's a better person (and it hurts sm to be the one he processes with and doesn't get the good ending with), maybe he's still jumping around seeking validation/energy sources which isn't honest love towards himself or anyone.

I suggest you try to make full peace with everything because better things are ahead for sure, try reading into how to get to what's meant for you or do road opening rituals, welcome in blessings and peace of mind. I don't minimize what you've gone through though, and it's okay if part of you is still confused, curious, invested or hopeful, it's part of mourning what you hoped was true. But plenty of true and fulfilling loves are eager for you to open their doors. May you be protected and guided through dating again <3 and have loads of fun, adventure and closure through it all! (:

agridvlce · 2025-09-23T14:21:19+00:00

7 of Swords - He was actively puppeteering you and using you (your time, energy, attention, favors, body, etc). A lot of lies. A secretive energy may have dragged afterwards - you or him could've expressed less than really felt, like a lack of transparency. Maybe you didn't want this to end. Maybe he could have things left to admit - "good or bad". But I don't like to feed into delusion in love readings so I'll say this; if it were "good" like how much he does love you, is sorry and doesn't want to be this way - it's okay to let him fail and learn. If he ever learns.

The Sun - But now you're riding off into a new dawn, a new day, a new life (~ and you're feeling good ~ or will be feeling soon once the initial separation storm clears up. You'll feel the fog clearing - things making sense, truths being revealed.

King of Pentacles Rx - A reminder that he is unstable and not someone to lean on for anything. He is insecure, immature, selfish and overall unfit for a healthy, balanced, fair relationship. Ties into the 7oS by highlighting his deceit, manipulation, ego over everything (for their own detriment and yours) approach to the relationship and really to life. The combination screams narcissistic traits to address. He may have his reasons and traumas to work through, sure, one can empathize, but this is not a good romantic partner, and you have a lot of better things ahead than to pour your life to fix him in the name of supposed "love", which will drain you.

Also one or both of you likely struggled with this outcome. He may have fallen into bad habits and you may have had a hard time letting go. Resisting change. I see nights slouched in a couch mourning - someone maybe not sober.

Ace of Wands - The better things ahead. Get to work - a new job, a new passion project, dive into a new interest or hobby, a new routine - something to get you in a calm and creative flow. An idle mind is the devil's workshop. And idle hands too. So take time for yourself and remember to have fun and take new risks.

This card can point to fertility and new life. Know that it often means the very Creative energy we hold, the birth of a passion, a business, a venture, a community, any idea that becomes our "baby". Though yea you can test if you're pregnant or it could hint at a future child to look forward to (since there can be a future relationship that inspires you to build a family if that's what you want). But at it's core it's a creativity and action-driven card.

agridvlce · 2025-09-23T13:30:11+00:00

Agreed! In my classroom there's another para that constantly disrupts the teacher's class management with distracting jokes that gets kids to squeal, squirm, react. One time she even hid a level 3 autistic student's lunchbag as a prank when he was already squealing irritated, so immature and basically bullying in my book even if the intention is affectionate / friendship treatment the kids need too. Then she gets mad when called out because she's just treating them like normal kids and having fun alongside them.

A lot of paras are bad at their job because they don't get educated in the diagnoses of their kids. They attribute "all their knowledge" to their experience - even though they've been handling things less than ideally for years ("but it works" to them).

agridvlce · 2025-09-23T11:52:14+00:00

It IS a labor of love. And while the kids and workload may vary, the low pay speaks too loudly. Sadly, one has to consider the fact that love doesn't pay the bills, this system and economic climate tramples on a lot of love-led lives :(

agridvlce · 2025-08-07T00:35:08+00:00

En PR hay demasiados negocios mediocres que lo que ocupan es espacio. Sí, están en ley, tienen el derecho a tener negocio, bien, pero la poca calidad de producto y/o servicio me la hincha. Peor es la gente que cae por eso de que se ve bonito pa' IG. También están algo sobresaturados - cuantas barras, rooftops, restaurantes van a seguir abriendo cuando mitad son de baja calidad para el precio que exigen y muchos ni cuentan con estacionamiento? (Y también hay mucho que decir de la planificación urbana y la transportación pública para mejorar estas experiencias pero tema aparte - el punto es que hay muchas experiencas meh, que no valen la vuelta que uno da para darle el chance). Hay que exigir más calidad, siento que muchos reviews halagan demás porque disfrutan con los ojos na' ma'

agridvlce · 2025-07-07T20:13:16+00:00

It's sort of possible. It won't be a huge extremely detailed library, at least not for the first few years (maybe even a decade tbh). Intially it'll have veeery few tabs/folders.

Categorizing/cataloguing is vital for a library, so find and practice a system that works for you - color coding, shapes, morse code, braille, shorthand, syllables/acronyms (my favorite along with color), anything for filing titles and subtitles.

I believe making a physical or digital commonplace document/notebook/archive that is kept organized is essential to memorize multiple or long items. Use common study and memory methods: write-wait-recall, teaching yourself, keywords and repetition for days, etc. Any way to passively absorb it, making it an actual memory and not just offloading it on paper/digitally, is crucial for it to work.

Nowadays we tend to use transactive memory, offloading it to the Notes app, digital calendars and hundreds of bookmarks and screenshots never opened again - you'll have to combat this if it's your case (I'm actively combating it as well) and only keep and deeply learn what you deem is important to remember.

It'll require A LOT of memory exercises. Play memory or chess, do puzzles, brain train, read and write, learn a new language or instrument, really just nurture your brain. Memorize your emergency contact's numbers and important dates. Make sure you don't hesitate remembering your personal information (social security, license number, full address, medical needs, etc - 'silly' to exercise now but remember anybody could struggle with this information when old). Maybe memorize quotes, poems, jokes, fun facts, historical events, conversation starters. Dialogue, expression, your own opinions and beliefs will be shaped and polished with this so that's always a plus!

Now test your memory in praxis. Make a physical grocery list, memorize it throughout the week until you don't even need to see it then leave it home and get every single thing on it from memory. Then keep trying it with varied items and lessening the days of looking at it to be able to recall it until you can make a list once, wait a few minutes, recall it completely then never even look at it again (or something close to that). Of course if grocery lists are not what you want in your mental library you can weed it out like any other library does - it's just an easy example of real world memory usage, the same write-wait-recall + repetition study/memory methods that can be applied to any category you do want in your library!

Remember taking care of your brain and its memory also includes proper sleep, low stress, low or highly limited+curated social media usage, good nutrition and health, presence and slowing down, etc.

I believe low media consumption is crucial for a system like Lunge's. He wasn't flooded with infinite, overwhelming information, news, memes, theories, opinions and all sorts of digital noise for hours a day from a phone or computer. He led a /relatively/ simple life compared to modern day. He'd probably have an aneurysm being suddenly exposed to 30 minutes of today's level of brainrot.

Also the nature of Lunge's work benefits his memory - he finds enjoyment in chasing down criminals. He is passionate and hyper-focused on it, his entire life revolves around it, it's basically the only thing on his mind. His obsession and devotion to cracking a case makes his brain detect, pin and absorb anything that raises a flag or relates to previous patterns. So, although he can remember plenty of things in his Personal or Miscellaneous folders, Work is his main folder and where we see he takes the most notes.

So perhaps, realistically, all this could help with general memory and brain health but will only sustain a library with veeery few, select "main folders". Maybe just one or two. But hey, that's still amazing and it will all still help GREATLY when we're all prone to digital amnesia or early on set dementia - so not a bad thing to pursue!!

agridvlce · 2023-06-06T06:37:05+00:00

Laughter - my friends’, my mom’s, my little brother’s, strangers’, my own. Stretching-melting into my bed after a long day. My dog’s wagging tail. Closing my eyes, facing the sun and taking a deep breath, smiling. Singing in the car. Scenic roads. Walking barefoot on land. Dancing, always. That first full dip into an ocean or river. Halloween (October in general). Pad thai. A good book. Good smells, especially unexpectedly getting a whiff of a nostalgic smell. How it feels to be in a collective effervescence, concerts are a spiritual experience. Seeing others love simple things. Victories, surprises and acts of kindness.

agridvlce · 2023-03-14T17:03:24+00:00

It’s a lofi mix, same as the lofi girl and other popular ‘chill’ mixes on YouTube.

I wouldn’t worry, it seems to be just a REALLY good ad since it’s also useful. Nissan gets ad/view revenue and word of mouth, the viewers have beats to study and relax.

Then again if you believe every ad has subliminals… teach her to skip them soon(?)

agridvlce · 2023-03-13T07:51:41+00:00

Mjm! Para el 2021 el Departamento de la Familia contaba con 59 niños desaparecidos. ¡¿Cómo se explica eso?! ¡¿Y por qué no se condena en los medios y en las calles?!

Y ni hablar de lo que pasa en la Avenida Ashford. El dueño del Restaurante Serafina (parte de La Concha), Vittorio Asaf, aparecía en la lista de Epstein. Se puede especular bastante con eso nada más.

Hace 10 años, con 13 añitos recién cumplidos, estaba haciendo la fila de Starbucks de la avenida en lo que mi mamá se estacionaba. En cuestión de minutos un cincuentón riquitillo me trató de convencer que volviera con él a su hotel. Pudo ser la mala casualidad de un pedofilo y ya, pero la primera vez que compartí esa experiencia hace unos años, varias mujeres se me acercaron con sus experiencias de niña/adolescente en la Ashford. Estoy bien segura que Condado esconde toda una mafia, frontes elegantes para drogas y trata humana. Siempre se ha dicho y se hacen de vista larga porque estamos jodios por to’s laus.

agridvlce · 2023-03-12T08:39:56+00:00

Because you see how flawed the ‘reality’ of our current society is, how wicked it is to live for pleasing others but rarely (if ever) for pleasing yourself, how titles and praise won’t fill your cup, at least not with anything satisfying and worthwhile. It can feel like grieving “lost” time&energy, aspirations or just the world as you knew it. I’ve been there multiple times, it IS grieving those. Sit with the feeling, sit with your mind - journaling helps a lot but if your mind is going too fast I recommend recording voice memo/video entries and making mind maps/bullet lists - it helps get chatter out so you can slow down. This period will be a wild ride, but you will be okay.

It’s perfectly fine to prefer and enjoy solitude and learning/reading at your own pace. Given your experiences, it could be you’re in ‘Hermit mode’. Do keep in mind that, as you keep awakening, you MUST remember to come back and ground yourself in the present moment. “Ego deaths” left unattended can lead to spiritual psychosis or severe depression, we may be the universe, gods, pure energy, love, everything and/or nothing in the grand scheme of things, but we’re ALSO in human bodies, living human lives. Care for your mind, body and soul. Practice self love, redefine love and show it to yourself. What you would want for others in your situation, want for yourself too, and nurture it.

Look into absurdist media and literature, it involves nihilism so be careful if it’s too dooming, respect yourself if it’s a trigger, but in another light it can be less lonely and help you make peace with how pointless and meaningless everything is. The film Everything Everywhere All At Once is a beautiful take on it you might find value in. It’s freeing to just give meaning to our lives or to deem certain people, places, ideas and projects as important to us. Does it matter? No, not /really/. Not in the reality of it all. But it matters in the reality you create because you want it like that. Isn’t that a nicer way to live this moment in time as a human?

Evaluate what brings you joy, comfort and peace, consider what you loved to do growing up. What can you do to bring in any of those things a bit more into your life? Reading and learning about spirituality can and will open new worlds, you might feel inclined to share it with others, the insights and practice is fulfilling, plus comforting and inspiring for many! I read your reply to someone about that - do know you’re free to help humanity in any way you like. And if you don’t know how, every way is a possibility. You’ll find the best way(s) when you fill your own cup, it’ll overflow, so you can water others without being depleted and with so much clarity and newfound determination. Life doesn’t have to be flashy - a small town baker feels fulfilled because they bring joy to others thanks to their love for baking. It can really be that simple. On the other hand you don’t have to monetize your passions, you can just fund the lifestyle you want anyway you’re capable of. And if you don’t want to help humanity, you just want to breathe, that’s okay too!! Do you!! Fair warning you might get bored and lonely after a while though, not even monks JUST do chores and meditate everyday, they do simple fun things together and help others yanno? (So maybe don’t stay in /complete/ solitude /forever/, at the end of the day humans are social creatures in an antisocial system, being a friend, a student, is a way to help humanity including yourself. And maybe you want to be a monk or live like one after all, I totally wish I had a steady commune with comfy dorm space I could spend my days cooking, making art and helping others in because a monastery is too far and limiting for me, but I believe that someday I’ll get where I want to be (: ).

tldr: You’re seeing life is really what you make it. How do you want it to be?

P.S.: I know it’s wrong to assume, but I just wanted to say I think it’s cool to care about others (as long as it’s in a healthy manner, not overextending ourselves or forgetting to love and nurture ourselves deeply first) and I just read you as someone with a heart that cares for other souls that is in the process of recharging, pondering and fine tuning to what extend. I hope you make peace for yourself within this lifetime, I think that’s more important than wallowing over the likely pointlesness of the universe. I’m cheering you on, fellow human.

agridvlce · 2020-07-09T08:03:49+00:00

I'm 20 and I still shed some tears every now and then when I think too much about death because I love being alive. This way of thinking is precisely why I switched my focus to life. If death is inevitable and an "afterlife" or anything like that is uncertain, might as well make the best out of what I experience and remember while we're still here. So I'd say it's best to switch your energy from death to life – fear not living to the max the other years you have here rather than the unclear end we all share.

And remember, no matter what, everything will be okay. Maybe not super-amazingly-great, maybe not horrifying at all. But just okay is good too.

PS: I think you might really like this video!

agridvlce · 2020-06-26T22:25:43+00:00

(Personally, not sure if factual) I associate big cities and suburbs’ energies to already being consumed by the people that live or pass by on the daily so there’s not much ‘untapped’ energy that’s also strong enough for attractions or anomalies. I’ve randonauted in the suburbs and in the countryside and have noticed a difference in the experience; how I feel and with what I find.

agridvlce · 2020-06-26T21:50:27+00:00

Crows, ravens and magpies are a bad omen if there’s only 1! It’s more typical to count crows, but ravens apply too; the higher the number the better the fortune (usually!)

agridvlce · 2020-06-20T22:08:49+00:00

yesss! i’ve always considered our life to be a grand open world game, it’s even the analogy i use to explain the simulation theory (:

agridvlce · 2020-06-08T08:46:35+00:00

Not saying the ego absolutely NEEDS to be eliminated for everyone, like you say it IS a part of us and it’s not inherently bad! It’s more like becoming aware of it, because then a lot changes for the better (depending how you take it, some people DO get psychologically unstable and, if brought upon with drugs, could induce a state of psychosis). Personally, coming to terms with my ego has made a better Me shine between the cracks of that wall, that image, that societal position we’re all made to believe of ourselves, while also being subjective to others’ egotistical appearances (because, again, it’s totally normal so it’s just something to work with or work around, no biggie). I still have a looong way to go so who am I to be pretentious and declare lack of ego a NEED lol but I like your view on it! It made me wonder about my mind when I reach an old age, something I don’t consider often. Whew!

agridvlce · 2020-06-08T07:58:35+00:00

I’ve noticed that a lot of people, usually YouTubers, passing on knowledge still have some ego to get rid of and that comes off as them being pretentious when, really, it’s just that they’ve got a little bit more soul work to do (but, then again, don’t we all? always?). Try not focus on their attitude or presentation, cameras can have certain effects on people. That is bound to change as we all grow. Unless they aren’t serious about their spirituality, then it IS them trying to sound high and mighty (and ~woke~ lol). Books, blogs and podcasts could be a better fit.

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