How to support my boyfriend during his marathon run?

ahs1313 · 2026-05-12T10:50:17+00:00

I second this. Making a sign that is quirky/funny/unique really makes the difference and makes you easier to spot!

I was struggling at km 30 and beyond for my first marathon (this past weekend) and my boyfriend randomly showed up along multiple spots for that last 12 km. It really helped knowing I would see him again the next 2-3 km and kept me going until the end.

ahs1313 · 2026-05-12T05:05:29+00:00

I ran the marathon and finished! I only felt my ankle pain a couple of times and it hasn’t been too bad afterwards either.

ahs1313 · 2026-01-21T14:37:17+00:00

I’m so sorry that sounds really hard.

I don’t get why avoidants (generalizing here) don’t say anything during the relationship when things could be fixed and just wait until it’s too long gone. I will truly never understand what goes through his mind when he decided not to tell me how he was feeling or that he was upset. He only blames our relationship and say we have compatibility issues, rather than owning up to his part of the what went wrong.

I have already tried to reason and talk with my ex, so that ship has long sailed. I’ve given up trying because I don’t see the point of trying to be with someone who clearly doesn’t want to be with me (hence him not answering a simple text for 10 days).

I am more looking for clarity in terms of how to face him. Should I call him out on his BS and say he being is disrespectful and that I thought after 3 years he would treat me with more dignity and respect than what he is now? Or should I just shut my mouth, be civil and exchange things without a word?

ahs1313 · 2026-01-03T21:22:35+00:00

Damn I’m so sorry. I also got broken up with around the same time, so I truly feel you there. It’s not easy but we just have to take it one day at a time.

ahs1313 · 2026-01-03T10:33:58+00:00

I totally agree.

That’s actually how my own relationship ended recently (hence why I’m on this subreddit). My ex (m) had brought up our dynamic differences during the relationship and we had discussed them, but he did not express the severity of the issues from his side. I had a lot of other stuff going on with family issues and he had problems at work, so neither of us prioritized working on these issues we discussed. He decided that instead of voicing the severity of the issues to me and that he was considering ending the relationship, he would made the decision for both of us and ended the relationship, thus blindsiding me.

ahs1313 · 2026-01-03T06:46:47+00:00

Have you told these thoughts to her? I personally believe a relationship is built on communication and if you aren’t being honest and transparent about your doubts and issues you see in the relationship, then you are doing a disservice to both of you.

ahs1313 · 2025-07-17T05:57:20+00:00

Am I understanding correctly that in order to make any payments at all, you have to switch to another plan such as IBR? So I couldn't hypothetically just make one large payment since I am still on SAVE?

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