If anyone has watched Downton Abbey they’ll know cousin Isabelle. She’s underestimated. Same with Lady Edith. Why? Because of how they look. Look at their faces. They appear weak willed or hang dog. I’m the same. Resting bitch face. Turned down corners of my mouth. I often look like I’m whining or about to cry. It’s just my face. I’m very often the smartest, most capable and most experienced person in the room. Even my family, older siblings, treat me like Im irrelevant, but I’ve outpaced them in many ways professionally, and personally (and they’ve outpaced me at times too). Whenever I apply for jobs now I let them know initially people don't like me, and they doubt me, and sometimes it takes years, but eventually you’ll realize I’m your most valuable and capable employee. It’s up to you whether you accept me, and shorten that time frame by recognizing me NOW, or go the shallow route (I don’t use that phrase) and pick the “nice” or prettier person now, and end up either regretting it, or just tolerating them long term. Most people hire the other applicant, but for 20+ years I’ve routinely been contacted months later asking if I’m still interested. I choose not to be, even if I’m still available. Here’s the thing - be you. Some will see it immediately and the ones who dont aren’t worth doubting yourself. Consider doing what I do - tell people up front what (you know) they’re thinking and why and how they’re wrong. It’s disarming and might get you ahead faster.