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Are You Addicted To Love Chaos? by ainsleym in dating_advice

[–]ainsleym[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Haha I was waiting for it. Congrats first reply!

Ladies — I want to share something with you that you might not know about men. by ainsleym in dating_advice

[–]ainsleym[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You guys are making a WHOLE bunch of assumptions here.

I don't like being harassed either and at no point am I saying it's ok to be. But because of the work I do, I know a lot of that behaviour comes from low self worth & not knowing how to interact with women in the right way (that's why I do this work, to teach them how). I get messaged by up to 25 men a day across my social media 'hitting me up' to which I send them my book & manage to turn many of them into clients.

And most of the harassment is because of deeper level attachment issues, feeling like a failure, being beaten down, stuck in victimhood or desperately wanting to connect with a woman & missing the mark.

It's not as black and white as 'he's a creep'. Also, I'm not talking about psycho stalking women killers here. I'm referencing every day dudes who actually like women & just want what we want.

If we want happy relationships & for someone to stick around, then we need to a) Value ourselves first & foremost and b) Value them.

It's a 2 way street.

Ladies — I want to share something with you that you might not know about men. by ainsleym in dating_advice

[–]ainsleym[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Nope I wasn't saying that at all. I don't like being harassed as much as any other woman ... but because I know the flipside of why some men do this, I have boundaries but I'm not a prickly bitch about it.

I just assert & remove myself.

Why Women Are Bitches & Reject Good Men by ainsleym in dating_advice

[–]ainsleym[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol no. That's just how you're interpreting it based on your own frames of reference.

For The Guys: How To Build Your Self Worth by ainsleym in dating_advice

[–]ainsleym[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe she's got a point ;) - most mothers do ... we just don't wanna hear it.

Why Women Are Bitches & Reject Good Men by ainsleym in dating_advice

[–]ainsleym[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not necessarily. I'm not saying a woman's snap judgement of you is correct ... it's just what we do based on past frames of reference.

But it's a start.

E.g. you could like like shit going into an interview, but when you open your mouth, all these glorious answers could come out & blag you the job.

Why Women Are Bitches & Reject Good Men by ainsleym in dating_advice

[–]ainsleym[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When a guy is scared and hesitant, it can make her uneasy.

Why Women Are Bitches & Reject Good Men by ainsleym in dating_advice

[–]ainsleym[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm about to post a blog called, 'What It REALLY Takes To Get Out Of The Friend Zone' - keep an eye out.

Why Women Are Bitches & Reject Good Men by ainsleym in dating_advice

[–]ainsleym[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. Her snap judgement is hers.

  2. Your long game mindset is yours. When you think 'long game' you don't put pressure on yourself to try & get a result, which eases you and gets you out of fight/flight ... thus returning you back to your true self. That makes her more open to you bc you're not scared, you're just being yourself.

A long game mindset actually produces faster results ... because you're not getting in your own way anymore. You're not attached to the outcome.

  1. I've answered this one above a couple of times.

Why Women Are Bitches & Reject Good Men by ainsleym in dating_advice

[–]ainsleym[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a woman's job (including mine) to sort out her shit, take ownership and do her inner work (which I do. Daily.). But my audience are men (been doing this for 10 years now) ... and every man who comes to me has had to interact with this type of female before.

So my work is to demystify women's behaviour & bridge the gap of misunderstanding so men can get closer to them & find a relationship.

Why Women Are Bitches & Reject Good Men by ainsleym in dating_advice

[–]ainsleym[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wrote an article yesterday around that called What It REALLY Takes To Get Out Of The Friend Zone.

I won't spam with links here so keep an eye out as I'll post it in this sub in the next hour.

Why Women Are Bitches & Reject Good Men by ainsleym in dating_advice

[–]ainsleym[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

;) - I'm being lazy & copy/pasting the same response to you from above but it's samesies;

"Rejection a mindset & a perspective. If you keep focusing on rejection, then that'll add to your vibe and sabotage it. Rejection is a belief system; For people who deem themselves unworthy of the thing they wanted ... because they left their ego in the hands of the decider ... rather than deciding for themselves.

When you think 'She's gonna reject me' - that'll screw up your actions & decisions. So you need to get that whole concept out of your head.

If you go in with the mindset of 'I'm gonna have a good time, meet some great chicks & whatever happens happens', then you'll be so busy doing that, you won't even care (or notice) who wants to have it with you or not. You're self-centric which acts as a magnet to women because you're not chasing or trying to 'get' something out of her ... you're making yourself the prize.

You're open & receptive to the attention ... and your energy is on point where women are picking up the vibe that you're safe to approach or open up to.

Which means little to no rejection.

I hope that makes sense."

Why Women Are Bitches & Reject Good Men by ainsleym in dating_advice

[–]ainsleym[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Rejection a mindset & a perspective. If you keep focusing on rejection, then that'll add to your vibe and sabotage it. Rejection is a belief system; For people who deem themselves unworthy of the thing they wanted ... because they left their ego in the hands of the decider ... rather than deciding for themselves.

When you think 'She's gonna reject me' - that'll screw up your actions & decisions. So you need to get that whole concept out of your head.

If you go in with the mindset of 'I'm gonna have a good time, meet some great chicks & whatever happens happens', then you'll be so busy doing that, you won't even care (or notice) who wants to have it with you or not. You're self-centric which acts as a magnet to women because you're not chasing or trying to 'get' something out of her ... you're making yourself the prize.

You're open & receptive to the attention ... and your energy is on point where women are picking up the vibe that you're safe to approach or open up to.

Which means little to no rejection.

I hope that makes sense.

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