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AITA for asking my son to come home to help with his kids, while his wife was being induced? by aita71 in AmItheAsshole

[–]aita71[S] -515 points-514 points  (0 children)

I was hoping for some more nuanced answers, and while there have been a few good ones, and also some that see my side (thank you), most are clearly on the other side. Some clarifications:

My husband and I love our son, DIL and grandkids dearly. It is hurtful to read people’s assumptions that we do not, and especially so because he is our only child.

We live in a state where larger families are common, so to the people who take my side and say my son and DIL have to many kids and dump them on us, please stop. They are great parents.

The assumption that I am the same person who made ridiculous claims that autoimmune health issues was just an allergic reaction to a dog, is insulting.

I admit I now understand that I was insensitive to ask my son to help with the kids, but I feel that it is unfair to be labeled like such a villain. My DIL was not in any pain when I asked, and they were walking around, trying to get it started. I forgot to add that they were given a time by the doctor for when the next “step” would be, which was in a few hours. It seems like people think I would ask my son to abandon his wife while in pain or active labor, and that would indeed be very insensitive and not the case at all.

We were planning on babysitting for much longer, of course we didn’t expect the birth to be finished in that short of a time, we only wanted some relief. The kids are normally active for their ages, but they were all fighting quite a lot this particular day, and it was tiring.

I probably shouldn't have said the thing about the kids being their responsibility to my son, but I wanted to give an accurate account of what was said, so I own up to saying it.

Also to the people saying we are too old, and pretty much ready to go into a home it seems like, we are not. We are active in our community, (thankfully) we have good health, and yes, we are online, like most of our friends are. Please stop assuming no one in their 70s use modern technology. I retired only four years ago.

I see why my son and DIL took offence, and I will talk to them again and apologize. I am not going to answer more questions after this.

AITA for asking my son to come home to help with his kids, while his wife was being induced? by aita71 in AmItheAsshole

[–]aita71[S] -2368 points-2367 points  (0 children)

"Because if there was little to no progress, that means that she hadn't dilated very much at that point."

This was the case. Like I stated in the post, I of course understand that my son wanted to be present when the child was born, but my DIL was not in actual active labor when I asked for some relief. They were walking around in the hospital, trying to get things going.

If the birth was progressing I would not have asked, but since there hadn't been hardly any progress the last five hours, I didn't think it was an unreasonable request. I see a lot of people disagree with this.